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Cake situation!

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eazybee Fri 09-Aug-24 17:20:29

Say nothing and smile sweetly in the sure and certain knowledge that shop-bought cakes (ugh) never taste good, too dry.
If she produces one for her son say how lovely it looks

Callistemon213 Fri 09-Aug-24 17:02:18

Babs03

Thanx and yes will bite my lip again. Am sure SILs mother will say something, she usually does but will rise above it.
My cake actually wasn’t bad and nobody ate her cake at the party but it was divided up and we all took some home. Will tell her it was v nice, because it was.

👏👏👏

Be the bigger person.

Babs03 Fri 09-Aug-24 16:49:51

Thanx and yes will bite my lip again. Am sure SILs mother will say something, she usually does but will rise above it.
My cake actually wasn’t bad and nobody ate her cake at the party but it was divided up and we all took some home. Will tell her it was v nice, because it was.

Nell8 Fri 09-Aug-24 16:49:04

That was tactless of your SIL's mother and you were entitled to feel annoyed. Fortunately the matter was aired on the day so, if I was you, I'd draw a line under it. I'm sure nobody wants an ongoing family feud.

Here's to a happier celebration next time wine

NotSpaghetti Fri 09-Aug-24 16:42:45

I don't think this is an issue unless you make it one.
Just be yourself.
It's all behind you now.

You are obviously good enough to be trusted with his cake and as my daughter once said, when I had a bit of a disaster, it is special simply because you made it with love.

Callistemon213 Fri 09-Aug-24 16:40:58

I bet your cake tasted much better, Babs903 🙂

I would move on, don't let it annoy you, others must know what she's like.

go to your SIL’s birthday with a smile on your face and leave his mum to provide his cake. Good advice, Grannynannywanny

Grannynannywanny Fri 09-Aug-24 16:35:31

I would keep the peace, don’t mention it again and go to your SIL’s birthday with a smile on your face and leave his mum to provide his cake.

Grandmabatty Fri 09-Aug-24 16:32:51

At the moment, you have the moral high ground. Your family supported you and your son in law spoke to his mother. You would lose that if you mention it at your son in law's birthday do. Apart from anything else, would you want to ruin his birthday? If she refers to it, think of a couple of bland sentences. If she annoys you, go for a walk or to the loo.

Babs03 Fri 09-Aug-24 16:23:05

Recently I made a cake for my 2 year old grandson, everyone knew I was doing this but on the day my SILs mother turned up with a big shop bought expensive birthday cake that made mine look positively amateur. I felt so annoyed. She knew I was making the cake and admitted she wasn’t a baker so agreed to bring drinks. Her excuse was that I had intimated to her that my cake might not be good enough so she had simply brought a cake in case, which isn’t true, I did tell her that I would never win bake off but would do my best.
My daughter who doesn’t get along with her had pointed words with her and my SIL apologised on her behalf. Now we are due to all meet up because is my SILs birthday end of the month and I am trying to bite my lip to keep the peace but cannot be certain I’ll succeed. What would others do in my situation?