Cake situation!

At the moment, you have the moral high ground. Your family supported you and your son in law spoke to his mother. You would lose that if you mention it at your son in law's birthday do. Apart from anything else, would you want to ruin his birthday? If she refers to it, think of a couple of bland sentences. If she annoys you, go for a walk or to the loo.

I would keep the peace, don’t mention it again and go to your SIL’s birthday with a smile on your face and leave his mum to provide his cake.

I bet your cake tasted much better, Babs903 🙂

I would move on, don't let it annoy you, others must know what she's like.

go to your SIL’s birthday with a smile on your face and leave his mum to provide his cake. Good advice, Grannynannywanny

I don't think this is an issue unless you make it one.
Just be yourself.
It's all behind you now.

You are obviously good enough to be trusted with his cake and as my daughter once said, when I had a bit of a disaster, it is special simply because you made it with love.

That was tactless of your SIL's mother and you were entitled to feel annoyed. Fortunately the matter was aired on the day so, if I was you, I'd draw a line under it. I'm sure nobody wants an ongoing family feud.

Here's to a happier celebration next time

Thanx and yes will bite my lip again. Am sure SILs mother will say something, she usually does but will rise above it.
My cake actually wasn’t bad and nobody ate her cake at the party but it was divided up and we all took some home. Will tell her it was v nice, because it was.

Babs03

Thanx and yes will bite my lip again. Am sure SILs mother will say something, she usually does but will rise above it.
My cake actually wasn’t bad and nobody ate her cake at the party but it was divided up and we all took some home. Will tell her it was v nice, because it was.

👏👏👏

Be the bigger person.

Say nothing and smile sweetly in the sure and certain knowledge that shop-bought cakes (ugh) never taste good, too dry.
If she produces one for her son say how lovely it looks

She won’t bake a cake for her son, they will book an expensive restaurant for all of us, always have done. They move in different circles to us, her hubby is a surgeon and they had an architect ensign their house.
Tbh I think she has always considered our daughter as ‘not good enough’ for her son.
He is a lovely man, however, and adores our daughter, despite being from a working class background.

Correction - an architect design their house

I would try and put it behind you.

I'm sure it rankles, it would rankle with me for sure, but please don't allow it to become an ongoing issue in the family. It sounds like you have a lovely relationship with your DD and SIL so don't let anything get in the way of that.

It sounds like MiL is used to doing things her way and being Queen Bee and you've put her nose out of joint a bit. I agree with others who say put it out of your mind, put on a smile and just be your usual self.

bite your lip to keep the peace! have a lovely time

thankful that your sil adores your daughter

A however from me. Keep a mental note of any behaviour from your SIL's mother in future to see whether the cake incident was a one off or if further 'incidences' occur.

Just smile 🙂

Even if you want to shove a cream cake in her face.

Callistemon213

Just smile 🙂

Even if you want to shove a cream cake in her face.

😂😂

Ha ha will keep the image of shoving a cream cake in her face when I see her end of the month, at least I will keep smiling.
😂

@Tuaim,
Oh there have been other incidences like when she invited me for drinks at her tennis club. I was really looking forward to it, even bought a nice outfit from Marks. But when I arrived she was with her own little clique and I was promptly and rather pointedly ignored whilst they chatted about people and situations I knew nothing about. I also nursed a sparkling water the whole time whilst they bought drinks without asking if I wanted another. So much for drinks in the plural.
Afterwards she even said she would be dropping in at her friends house so could I make my own way back.
A complete and utter waste of time that made me feel ill at ease and unwanted.
I never told my daughter or SIL, my husband agreed it would just fuel my daughters dislike of her MIL and vice versa.
But if anyone ever watches the reruns of ‘everybody loves Raymond’ the mother Marie is very like her, though not to look at.

Sorry to hear this clash of the cakes. So curious to know where she bought her cake from?

Perhaps your honest disclosure was interpreted as being willing, but worried about making a good cake. She probably judged you on her own standards (people often do, but their standards are different) Then put herself in your shoes and thought you might be as bad at baking as she is. She might have meant well. Probably best not to downplay your abilities in front of this type of person.

It's annoying. Your cake was what they really wanted and all she really did was make herself look silly and overbearing. Try to ignore it and be confident, your daughter and family love you.

Please concentrate on the occasion- thr birthday this time and do not start the ego granny war of who is best.

It is not worth it.

If I were you, I wouldn’t mention ‘cake’ again, and certainly pass no comment on her bought one unless she specifically asks what it was like.

‘Least said, soonest mended’.

You have to rise above this ignore her. She just sounds shallow, besides Homemade cakes always taste better.
Does she really have "good friends or does she just splash the cash into other people's lives?

Your DD understands, if you fuel the fire to much, it will put a strain on her marriage.
It sounds like you have a good Mother Daughter relationship that's more important than this silly woman, who is probably a bit jealous, you girl "stole" her son.

Rise above it - be the better woman. Silence is golden.

Oh dear! This woman is a relation by default! As all have said, your daughter and sil have a good relationship. In future, though, please do not put yourself in embarrassing or demeaning situations like the invite to her tennis club.