Hi
This may sound trivial but H and I are really upset and disappointed.
We had booked and planned a wonderful week in Paris and London for April with our 13-year old Grandson.
We were all 3 so excited!
And now our DD has said she is too stressed about us traveling abroad alone with him and we need to cancel!
Of course everything was arranged in agreement with her and her H.
Never mind the loss of money in cancelling, we are just SO disappointed.
DD says (and I know it's true) that it's not that she doesn't trust us, it's just that she is anxious just at the thought that he will be out of the country without her.
I feel she is transferring her anxieties to the kids, which is a shame, but hey, her child, her rules.
I can see she is upset that she's upset us, and I definitely don't want this to be a big deal, which is why we need to get over it quick.
H is devastated, much more than me. He suffers from ADHD and is very sensitive to rejection, which is how he sees this.
Worth adding that in our social / family circle, grandparents taking a young teenager away for a trip is a very popular thing. Our own kids did it with their GPs when they were kids and have very fond memories. Would not have occurred to us to forbid it.
Also worth adding that our grandson doesn't seem too upset at the cancellation, so maybe he wasn't as excited as we thought...
Thanks for any advice here