Update on Grandaughter Situation

Crossstitchfan

I may be wrong, but I think someone has made this up! It just doesn’t ring true that someone would be that nasty, whether they love you or not.
If I am wrong, then sorry, but I don’t think I am!

I'm afraid there are people who will say things as nasty is this. I have seen it and heard it ...not to me but to someone close who I have supported.

The funeral must have taken place some time ago, the original post was September 2024.

That was a horrible thing for her to say.

I would not attend the funeral or send flowers, and if anyone questioned that I'd tell them exactly why.

Crossstitchfan

I may be wrong, but I think someone has made this up! It just doesn’t ring true that someone would be that nasty, whether they love you or not.
If I am wrong, then sorry, but I don’t think I am!

Having read my last couple of messages, I realise I did sort of believe it at first, but then common sense took over!

I may be wrong, but I think someone has made this up! It just doesn’t ring true that someone would be that nasty, whether they love you or not.
If I am wrong, then sorry, but I don’t think I am!

Grandmafrench

You need to listen to your DH and put a stop on all and any contact. If nothing else, she’ll have had the last word, but have no idea of whether she’s hurt you, and she’ll have just gone from 2 possible loving Grans……to none. Just what she deserves, because she’s not a child, but a nasty, poisoned woman who clearly likes to live in the past and think she’ll always have the chance to strike a blow for her equally stupid Mother!

Ignore it, Axzder.You behaved well, she’s beyond hope. Save your love and concern for those who deserve it - and forget what she said. It’s the voice of a spiteful loser and you must believe you’re worth so much more. End the game and move on.💐

Grandmafrench has taken the words right out of my mouth. I completely (and not for the first time) agree with the advice she gave you.
You must be sad, but you need to get past this and live your own life.

Axyder, This post took my breath away, a woman 36 saying that to anyone let alone her grandmother is unforgivable. Her mother no better, I would have said straight away to my d about the shopping, no its your Nan’s birthday, she’s ill, we can go shopping another time, but she doesn't need telling.You are better off without her and I would not want her.

Sounds like a very spoiled, selfish 36 year old. Feel no matter what you say or do to try to smooth things over nothing will work, everything having to be on GDs terms.
Forget the whole thing, do not react in any way. As the saying goes, you can pick your friends, not your relations.

Heartbreaking but I think you need to step away. Focus on what you’ve got. Your hubby sounds a great support

She sounds a really nasty person and will probably never change. No point trying to contact her anymore unless she sends an apology and is genuinely sorry
I'm quite hard when people are nasty to me as I never contact them again. A close relative had a big argument with me and ordered me out of their house. 3 years later she sent her daughter to invite me around and we became friends again. I always think they will need me before I need them and I've found this to be true through life.
Best wishes ❤️ OP you are better off without a granddaughter like that. xxxxx

Terribly sad and upsetting for you. You did nothing wrong and your son was trying to support you and give fatherly advice to his daughter. She has behaved appallingly and will one day reflect on how she has treated you. I wonder if she is encouraged by her mother. For your own benefit you need to stop reaching out to her, as when you do you get an unpleasant reaction from her. Just wait until you get an apology from her. She's acting like a hormonal teenager not a professional woman in her 30's.

At her age she should know better than to have said such a dreadful thing.

I would not want to see or hear from her ever again, unless she of her own accord came and apologised.

She sounds a horrible person.

I think you should enjoy the memories of her as a lovely young child, and dismiss this disrespectful, resentful grown up from your life. She's no longer the girl you loved. You won't be losing out.

Very hard for you, but feel you should take the higher ground.

Let her, and it, go!

I think you have to let her go and I feel sad for you but concentrate now on those who love you and want to be in your life. I hope you get well soon.

Not always Macadia sometimes some people just get a total bee in their bonnet for no known (to others) reason and because they refuse to be open and explain they fester and it gets bigger and bigger
Unfortunately this young lady has for what ever reason (being brought to task my her dad maybe although that’s seems pretty minor) let it get bigger and bigger in her head
I would leave it for now there is nothing you can do without making it worse the more you step forward the more she ll step back
I m so sorry there are no better answers Axzder concentrate on getting strong and those that show you care and love

There are always two sides to every story people.

You are not wrong to be hurt. You need to let this go and let her go. It will hurt the rest of your life, yes. But that's the cards we are dealt. Just love her anyways.

Thanks for giving that info. Huge sympathy and love to you.

Block the new number

She and her mum sound thoroughly horrible. I am so sorry that you have been hurt like this. I would find it unforgiveable.

It was all on the original message long story but Basically I was in hospital in March it was my Birthday on the Sunday her parents our son and mother have been divorced and both remarried but she’s always been bitter with her Dad over the divorce, we have always had a good relationship with her supported her through uni had little one for 2 Days a week all good but on my Birthday when I was in Hospital she messaged me 1st thing and said we will be up to see you later ok that will be great, an hour later gets another message Mum wants me to go shopping so will come later in week, our Son rang her and said you do realise it’s your Grandma Birthday we have a cake she said well Mum wants me and that’s a short version

Hi It sounds terrible, and I do feel for you. But I've looked through the posts and I can't see that you've said what the initial fall out was about. Could you tell us that?