I spent four months knitting a white lacy baby blanket for my grandson. This was an emotional project for me as well as being hard work. My own mother had knitted blankets for my children which they used every day for years and became very attached to. My son has very fond memories of his ‘Blankey’
They had both known about the project as I gave them regular updates and seemed interested and happy.
However, my daughter-in-law has never given my grandson the blanket. He is now 10 months old and it has never been used. She is autistic and does not like to dress him in anything cute or babyish. (Although I didn’t realise this until she had him). He is dressed in things like rugby shirts and chinos (like her) even from a tiny age.
She will not allow him to sleep with anything in his pram or cot as she believes it increases the risk of cot death.
So my question is this: would it be incredibly wrong to ask them if they are using the blanket and if not, would they consider giving it back, so that I can pass it on to my friend’s daughter, whom I am very close to. She was recently saying that she was sad that no one in her family knits and so her baby will not have any hand knitted things.
I’m happy to knit her a cardigan, but I wouldn’t want to spend four months knitting a blanket again when she is not close family.
Is this really tactless and an absolute no no?
My son and daughter-in-law are very prickly and defensive and I would be very worried about upsetting them. On the other hand, I’m pretty hurt that they haven’t used the blanket and would love it to go to someone who appreciates it.
I would appreciate your thoughts.
