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BlueBelle Tue 16-Jun-26 05:06:03

First of all welcome DotingNanny
You have said it all I think I have become a bit too attached
Unfortunately you have it isn’t your baby and I would think the mother of the child will be relieved to move a little way away
Imagine if it was you and your mother in law completely took over your daughter even to the point of admitting she’s very attached to me often favouring me over her parents
This really isn’t good grandparenting you need to spread your wings and find some friends, some hobbies, some other entertainment.
I can understand how distraught you feel, it should never have come to this, your son and daughter-in-law are wise to move away and for goodness sake don’t land in their doorstep everyday you are swamping and completely strangling this little family

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Grammaretto Tue 16-Jun-26 03:40:24

Hello and welcome. DotingNanny.🙂

Ofcourse you will miss eachother but it's time for the next stage for the new family.
I'm sure you'll still see her plenty and probably be asked to babysit often.

However when you say she chooses you over her parents that suggests a bit too much dependence .
You and baby need other things in your lives. She's not your baby is she. You're her nanny not her mum.

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DotingNanny Tue 16-Jun-26 02:54:14

Hi there , first post here, I have one granddaughter and she has lived with me for her entire life so far, she's 14 months, she's my sons and his partner.
We have an incredible bond and I absolutely adore her and she loves me back ❤️ I've helped raise her and it's the best thing in the world being her nanny .
They're moving out in 2 weeks and I feel crushed, I'm slowly coming to terms with it and they're only going half an hour away but the thought of not seeing her every day is awful and the reality of it all is hitting hard .
I get on well with my son and partner although things have been and can be strained with mum at times but thats a whole other story.
I'm just venting really, I just know how much I'm going to miss her and I know I will still see her it's just a bit heartbreaking. I think I've become a bit too attached sometimes and she's very attached to me too, often favouring me over her parents . I still have my daughter here which is great as we are close . It's partly fear too that I won't be seeing her much.
I know I've been incredibly lucky to have been a big part of her life so far, it's going to be a hard transition and I know I'll adapt .
Thanks for reading my rambling if you got this far

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