A nice way of wording things

Just ask beforehand if it's ok for you to pop round. Say you don't want to crowd her.
Ask if she needs anything bringing, a bit of shopping, something for lunch maybe.
She could just be too busy to get round to inviting you!

Oh carry on going unless you start to get the impression that she’d rather you didn’t. It is lovely for you to get to know your new grandchild. You could offer to take him off her hands for a short time, perhaps take baby for a walk, so that she could have a little nap or just put her feet up as she’s probably tired.

Ask your son if coming by once a week is too much, if it is your DIL probably doesn’t want to say anything. New babies keep moms pretty busy. Do you also visit when your son is home?

send her a little card;

" New Grandparents need advice on the best way to be always available without overstepping. Tips and training welcome"

I'd check with her first, and stress that you enjoy seeing her as much as you do the baby.

Wait for an invitation.

anotherGran

Ask your son if coming by once a week is too much, if it is your DIL probably doesn’t want to say anything. New babies keep moms pretty busy. Do you also visit when your son is home?

Good advice

V3ra

Just ask beforehand if it's ok for you to pop round. Say you don't want to crowd her.
Ask if she needs anything bringing, a bit of shopping, something for lunch maybe.
She could just be too busy to get round to inviting you!

I agree. Acknowledge openly that you love coming to see them but only if she is happy for you to come. Tell her she must always say if it becomes too much. Just have that open discussion, showing understanding and let her lead the way.

I would check with both your son and her.

I would say a definite "no" to once a week for a couple of hours - this basically rules out half a day out of every seven for her.

Did you pop over like this (once a week for a couple of hours) before the baby?
I think this is key.

But... I have had friends who would have welcomed this.

It's a good thing to check.
If you are even wondering about it you are probably not the sort to overstep!

Congratulations 🎊

Treasure your DIL as she is the key to a great relationship with your grandchildren . I always ask if its convenient to call around . I ask if they need anything bringing before I go. Sometime when we go shopping my grandson and I pick flowers for mummy . We now have to send them for his baby sister but that's ok . I am on hand if she needs help but never push forward . She can message me anytime if she needs a break I'm on hand to take the children so she can go to lunch or hairdressers what every she wants . She is an amazing mum and deserves little treats