You need to get them out Gurms preferably before the baby is born so get legal advice and get the ball rolling. If you're scared, this is definitely elder abuse so please get help now.
You have been through all this before, sought advice and done nothing.
Is there any point in giving you advice?
I think your grandsons birthday is the least of your problems.
Get some legal advice, Age Concern maybe able to help you.
The house is your house not your sons.
You are the victim of two manipulative bullies.
It is true that I have been having ongoing issues with both my son and dil. I have approached them many times but they just ignore what i say. They do feel entitled and I am actually scared of them.
They have lived with me since they got married. I am a widow and my son feels that this house belongs to him as well although they do not contribute any bills or maintenance. I do understand that the current issue is not the actual issues but son is generally very difficult to talk to and he gets very angry if i want to discuss with him and generally he blames me for every wrong. I think the reason why we have problems is that he and his wife do not accept accountability for their own actions
* We have not spoken since May and I have not seen my grandson although they live in my house. Any thoughts?
It's time for them to move out to a place of their own.
Why should she move out of her own house though ! .
If you give them notice you will never see your grandson again that’s for certain.
I do think you need to stand up for yourself and maybe get your sister on your side and tell them they are being unreasonable and treating you poorly
Do they pay rent ?
JenniRen
They live in your house, don't pay rent, use their child as a blackmailing tool and make you so upset that you are confined in your room in your house?
This sounds like elder abuse.
I do what Oopsadaisy1 suggests.
Yes indeedy.......
You got it Oopsadaisy 👏😊
They live in your house, don't pay rent, use their child as a blackmailing tool and make you so upset that you are confined in your room in your house?
This sounds like elder abuse.
I do what Oopsadaisy1 suggests.
In your background, they have been living with you for 5 years and always reporting issues with you.
I think 2 months notice, so that they can find somewhere else to live might be the answer to this one.
How dare they make you stay in your room because you feel so uncomfortable in your own home?
If the house is too big for you, get some Estate Agents around and put it on the market.
Entitled or what!
Gurms you have had issues with your family since you posted in 2023 and were advised then and subsequently to get some help. Did you do so?
I do hope they are now at least paying you rent, but it sounds like they still have no respect for you, isn’t it time they got their own place?
May I ask why they live in your house?
The way I see your post is that your telling your sister is what broke the camel's back, it may seem small but it is not in your son and dil's eyes.
The reaction your son has now comes from issues ingrained in the past
"He also said that I was not a good mother and how can i be a good grandmother" - this is key
The birthday is the least of your problems - it is like worrying about the curtains when your house is on fire.
I would address the root of the issues with your son instead of concentrating on your grandson.
My grandson's 3rd birthday is coming up on September 18th and I am in a dilemma as to what I should do. My married son and myself do not get along esp. after he got married 5years ago.. His wife is now expecting their 2nd child in October. Both he and his wife have not been talking to me as they have accused me of telling my sister that my Dil is pregnant when my sister saw her at a function. I understand my son did not want me to let anyone know but I was caught off-guard and told me sister. However, that same day I told my son about it and did say that I was sorry. However, he got very angry and accused me of gossiping with my sister. I was so upset for a few days and stayed in my room. I usually play with my grandson in the evening but I was too depressed to come out of my room. They then decided to keep him away from me. I texted my son a few days later saying that I miss my grandson and if I could play with me. My son texted me back with a very angry response that his son was not a toy. He also said that I was not a good mother and how can i be a good grandmother. He also said he will not forgive me ever for ignoring his son. I decided to not response back. My dilemma is that my grandson's birthday is coming up and I am not sure what I should do. Either way i know he is going to be very rude but I am trying to think what is the best way to handle his birthday. My son and dil are generally very unforgiving people and I am always the one apologizing first and usually it is always my fault. We have not spoken since May and I have not seen my grandson although they live in my house. Any thoughts?
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