Welcome to new members

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Hi I'm in Surrey and eager to get a group together for coffee or !! Guildford is my town and I thought it an idea to meet new people what do you think?

Hi UkeCan61, hope you will enjoy GN . I have made my profile visible, but haven't posted photos of family or given away any sensitive details, as the site can be viewed by anyone, member or not. The names above our comments are black or blue. The visible profiles are the blue names, and can be seen by clicking on the name.

Hi,I just joined. I have 7 grandchildren 3 from my own kids and 4 from my stepkids. They range from 3 months to 6 years.
Do most Grans make their profile visible to others or keep it private?
Now do you view other Grans profiles? :-)

Welcome ladyintheshadows! There are a few members in the same position as you. If you want to chat with them, I suggest you choose a category such as 'grandparenting' under the 'forums' heading, and start a new discussion with an explanatory heading. Hopefully then the relevant people will be along to compare notes. This particular thread isn't widely read, so your question may pass under their radar.
I am sure that your situation has its challenges and rewards, you must be a very special grandmother.

Hi, I joined today after reading some posts. I am a young grandmother of 55 to three beautiful boys who I look after as a special guardian until they are 18. I absolutely love it but it does come with its challenges as the eldest is now 12! Just wondered if there is anyone else in the same situation?

Hello Av1dreader and lupinpooter, glad you have broken the ice and made your first posts. I look forward to reading your future contributions.

Hello everyone,



I registered a while ago and had the occasional lurk here, but this is my first post. I'm migrating from MN now my DCs are grown up and I'm a granny to one and another is on the way. I'm in London but we're planning to move to be nearer the GCs later this year.

Looking forward to chatting with you

Hi. I have been a lurker for a while but thought I would introduce myself, I am semi retired mum of 3 and nan of 3. Have been unwell with chest infection for 3 days and gransnet been a lifesaver as not been able to concentrate on reading but have dipped into gransnet when awake. I live in Hornchurch Essex.

Welcome to grandparenthood, strugglinabit! As suggested above, you will find much support on GN in your current predicament, but this thread is not widely read. Putting a new discussion under 'am I being unreasonable', as it is a phrase you used, would be a good idea. It is a common problem amongst grandparents, and so unfortunate as you tried so hard to do the right thing! I feel for you.
Forgive me if I am teaching you to suck eggs , but click on 'Forums' above and choose the topic heading you want. I can guarantee that you will have a great response. There is wonderful help and advice on here!

Hello and welcome.

If you repost this in something like the Ask a Gran forum , everyone will see it, in case they're not popping in here X

I could not understand it - I was thrilled at the news of being a grandmother, and made sure I was not intrusive once the baby was born, thinking that the new parents needed to grow into their role, they are in their thirties after all. I wanted to be the best, non-demanding mother-in-law ever!
Immediately DIL's mother started to put down ground rules - I expect to see the baby once a month - she, husband and her mother now come to stay in their home 5 days a month as a priority arrangement - what name will you be called etc., and are forever on face-time. I found I was seeing my DIL and granddaughter very infrequently, because I had said, I don't want to tie you down and would rather you feel free to come whenever, not feel it a duty but a pleasure, am always delighted to see you.
After several months, when I did mention that I would like to see them, I was told plans are made well in advance with her parents, they have lots of friends to fit in etc., which I found very hurtful.
DIL's mother compounds her daughter's feeling of guilt, by commenting wistfully is she sees a picture of us together, when I only get a few hours a month with her. Am I being unreasonable?

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babcia88 these farm breaks look great, but are pricey. Welcome to GN.

lilyapple, hello. You will soon feel comfortable on here, just jump in!

Hi lilyapple

DD Dear Daughter
DS Dear Son
DC Dear children

Add a G and you have DGD -Dear granddaughter and so on

Add a numbers for which ofmyour sons/daughters you are talking about i.e. DD1 / DS2

MIL Mum in law
SIL Son in law
DIL Daughter --
FIL etc.

You can find the full list in 'Acronyms' at the top of this page - last box on the pale blue bar that starts with 'Active.' And now I have taken so long to explain, someone else will probably have already directed you!

Good luck and welcome x

Hello everyone
I've just joined gransnet and what confuses me is the initials you give to members of your family. Not being up on social media really I've no idea what they stand for!

Hi and welcome!
www.childrensleisure.co.uk/kent-farms-and-animals-c1599.html

Don't know if this is of any use to you - you can put in your postcode / a county and it will give you some suggestions about lots of play activities.

Hello
I am a new member.
I have a 6 year old grand daughter and I would love to take her away for a farm trip for the weekend. I am looking for a farm where she could stroke the lambs, feed the chickens, talk to the horse etc. We live in London so ideally not too long a drive.
Any ideas please.
Thanks

Welcome MontanaGal! You are not the only member in the US, but the majority are British, hope you enjoy joining in.

Just joined Gransnet a few days ago. I love the format and all the great articles. Haven't come across anything like it in the US. But I'm a bit of an Anglophile, having fallen in love with England when I lived in Brandon, Suffolk many years ago. I have 4 grandchildren and they all call me Grandma.

Thank you Elegran, being a new member I am bound to make mistakes so please forgive me if I occasionally seem very grumpy. I enjoy commenting on Twitter but sometime feel there is a form of ageism.
I hope gransnet is more welcoming and no there are no gender problems.

I would hate to upset any long time members who have done such a great job in building up such a huge membership.

More and more older people are coming online without the IT skills you no doubt have, please make it as easy as you can to accommodate them. This is not a criticism, it is an aspect of good ethos to help to bring people on board and break down any feelings of loneliness.

Night, night I am off to bed. Busy day ahead tomorrow window shopping with my lovely wife. X

Oh, and there is a tweet box at the left of the page.

Realgrandad At the foot of each page there is a "contact us" link which goes straight to Gransnet HQ - they are the ones to tell your impressions about the site in general - we on the forum are just posters who hold conversations about this that and the other. We do voice our opinions on here, quite loudly at times.

There are all kinds of subjects on the forums, some are serious and some just for fun. I think those of us who have been happily together with our other halves for years tend not to need to discuss it - perhaps we take it for granted until we no longer have that other half - but when someone asks about something that is causing friction, others who have had the same experience join in, so it can seem that a larger proportion of people have problems than is really the case.

Some threads are serious political arguments discussions, which can get heated (!) some are light-hearted. I am sure you will find many that you can contribute to.

Welcome Realgranddad! We could do with more male contributors. Has your wife also joined?

I have only been a member a few days and I would like to give you my first impressions without seeming to be far too critical.

First, I looked at the Home page and it reminded of a one gender magazine with little of interest to a granddad. Then I thought, well as an 80 year old male it will give me a great insight into a females mind and identify why we males get so much wrong. Still working on that one, for having a lovely wife and happy intimate marriage for over 60 years, we cannot be normal according to many of the relationship comments, because we don't seem to fit the norm.

Then I though how do I express my "thoughts for the day" without being too political of those people who sit in a House called the Commons. Which is more in keeping at PMQ of being a kinder garden.

Those MP's seem delighted to demonstrate to children how adults should behave. After all, they are so called educated legislators, who seem to believe that shouting at one another across the room is normal and not childish behaviour.

I keep telling myself that from their pronouncements that they do know more about life than I do. They certainly know a great deal aout nothing from what they expound from their seats or the dispatch box, except how you and I should behave and how on a personal basis, I should allow them to spend my life savings on some pet scheme derived out of robbing the poor to help the poor rich. who we are told are struggling so much.

Tomorrow, I am going into Bath using my fantastic bus pass to do some window shopping with my wife, perhaps stopping to enjoy the benefits of a nice lunch. When we get back, I hope to again explore gransnet web site, learning more about the ethos and role of gransnet. It would be great if there was a simple type of twitter comment box on the home page, particularly to help those lazy blighters we males tend to be. Bye for now !!