annsixty I haven't been able to stop thinking about you and your experience over the two day visit to friends. MawB has, what I believe, is the only other option...if your lovely granddaughter would be happy to stand in for you occasionally, then you will have a chance to recharge your energy supply. There could be an option whereby your husband could go into a care home for a couple of days every month or so. Respite care is another route that could work, 'though I doubt that your husband would be prepared to leave his home as he cannot take on board the fact that you will be returning for him. This is such a dastardly situation. We're all going round and round in ever decreasing circles and getting nowhere fast.
N&G When your brother has sorted your loft, please may I borrow him to do the same in ours? I can no longer climb into the bloody thing. I know that for all the shifting/scraping/huffin'and puffin' that goes on when MacSporran says...'I'm off to sort the loft', that he's shoving stuff from one place to another with gay abandon. Does anything get chucked away...NOPE!
CharleyG Onwards and suchlike...I'm in awe of your fortitude.
Just had a delivery of a marvellous Daniel Hechter double vent, charcoal grey blazer, bought on eBay for MacS to wear at the wedding and any other occasion for that matter. Brand new. Fits perfectly. Fabulous cloth and workmanship. He's over the moon. RRP £195. Bought for £22.49 (that includes postage)...the sports jacket that swamps his frame since he lost weight, will be donated to the Red Cross. They're in for a treat on Friday. He's that chuffed he's to try it on later with the rest of the outfit (including a tartan waistcoat). Pic will be shared with you lot.