Soop's kitchen for friendly folk and precious pets...

Love the photos of poppies! I have one from the Tower of London display in a tall vase in my sitting room which I really like.

My parents were married for just short of 70 years and argued for most of those years. My dad used to say "It's only froth" - and it may well have been but it was a bit uncomfortable observing them as they didn't hold back in company!

Lovely poppies too, Maw!?

Oh, gd, it's difficult sometimes isn't it. Ann you are a star coping as you do. DH and I have some humdingers and we just ignore each other until something needs discussing. We don't dissect things. We've been married long enough now to just get over it. I know it's different for you Ann.

Lovely poppies n&g. Mine came out and then it rained!! Hey ho!

Love the poppy pictures Maw . One of my favourite flowers .

I think a damn fine argument is necessary every now and again to clear the air . Sweetness and light all the time would be so dull.

I also think that many a DH is a mere frozen leg of lamb away from an early demise ;-)

Must be the time of year. OH and I had a big row (well me mainly) the other week, and I realised recently that it had actually made a difference and he is trying to be more attentive to what I say - long may it last

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Well if we are posting poppy pics.....

I fear the stormy weather we might have coming won't do them any good...
DH probably thinks I have forgiven his thoughtlessness (huh!) but this "difference of opinions" was due, if not overdue as he has been entirely wrapped up in himself for weeks/months now so it was an opportunity to say some of the things which have been bothering me. Like you, I usually prefer to leave things unsaid as they cannot be taken back once articulated so I generally "suck it up" (ghastly phrase)
If only I could be sure he had not switched his hearing aid off?
He has said sorry, like the well brought up boy he is but does he know what for?????
Men and dogs, not so different at times.

I rarely if ever post on this thread, but have read the last few posts with increasing interest. I am glad to know that I'm not the only one who feels like committing murder at times!! It's good to talk

My personal,very personal, opinion, is that marriages were not meant to last for as long as they do today. Uncomfortable fact or realistic? I am trying to be honest, my H is very hard work and I admit it

It's odd, isn't it, how the tiniest, most insignificant things can end up upsetting the balance of your day. As you say, Maw, one ill judged remark. DH and I are, once again this week, at serious odds with each other and I have to confess this time it is my fault. I think I have a self destruct button and it is hard wired to my mouth. We had a walk to the pub today, got wet on the way, lunch was unusually lacklustre, the bar staff few and overworked, customers grumpy. When we got out I got a text from DS with a picture of my DiL in a spotty dress, with the message "what do you think?" So I got rather tetchy about why he was asking me for an opinion, who has no fashion sense at all, and put my phone away, saying I didn't want to get involved in a conversation about it with my DiL who I love, but who can talk for England about frocks, and life is too short. Then he got onto "why is it that you never want to talk to people anymore?" It all went downhill from there and we ended up on a path in the middle of a field of barley, having a blazing row. I had one if those "if I let out the words I have in my mouth, we'll never come back from it" moments - and then I said them! So, having left him standing and walked back home at Light Infantry pace in a blazing fury, we are now ensconced at opposite ends of the house in stony silence. Why? Over a text about a spotty dress? I can't believe it. We both said some harsh things, but I am practiced in the art to a very high degree. And I am a bloody fool. Goodnight all.

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Evening all!

They were called Beauty and Claidy soop . Beauty , whilst not a great show dog was so smart , whilst Claidy was a champion show dog , and as my Nan would have said - thick as mince !

Oh dear Paw is truly in the dog house Maw , I almost feel sorry for him .

Best you make a meal to suit you ann rather than himself !!

My beautiful poppies opened today and with a fierce wind this evening won't last until tomorrow. Even Sam took a seat to watch .

Crossed posts MawB, have you calmed down yet?
Ann, hope you`re feeling a bit more settled now, has the headache gone?

At once!!

I'm feeling OK, ann but find rhe kitchen preferable to the excitement in TWO tellies St once.

Maw you know I am behind you all the way. My day started by me not feeling well. I still had to to the weekend shopping with family arriving tomorrow. I got a taxi back loaded up with bags and himself was sitting watching rubbish TV in a house with a temperature approaching 100 degrees. He wouldn't have lunch in the garden although I did and then retreated to my bed for a couple of hours. Now I must get a meal while he watches football on TV. Still not feeling up to scratch.

I`ve just been thinking that peace has probably descended at my son`s house, now that Kian`s party is over, there was a bouncy castle,I can imagine all the neighbours with fingers in ears!

Beautiful dogs N & G, I do love a big dog.

Ann, I can relate to your neighbour, I keep finding myself thinking "I`ll have to ask David about that", when something comes up that used to interest both of us. I hope your headache has gone by now.

It`s been another sunny scorcher today, but it has been getting windier as the afternoon has gone on, my back gate is driving us batty with it`s banging, but it won`t stay on it`s catch in strong wind. I went into town this morning, called into Specsavers to see if my new specs were ready. I`d been told tomorrow, but they were ready. I now have a pair for when on the computer, can`t believe how much clearer they are than my readers, which are what I usually use.

"For being poorly"

I pointed out that if I weren't here, the best he could hope for was a carer twice a day to help him get up and perhaps prepare a sandwich for his lunch then get him to bed in the evening.
Not the 5* waiting on him hand and foot which he enjoys at present and I fear, very much takes for granted.
(Can you guess that I am cross?)

All this talk about DHs predeceasing.....

Oh dear, harsh words have been spoken and Paw is in the doghouse.
One sarcastic ill judged remark at lunch was all it took for my blue touch paper to be lit and a few home truths articulated.
Paw course has no idea of how to handle this, no apology, expression of appreciation or regret.
I am not going to make allowances this time for better no poorly as he is definitely on the mend from his chest infection .And no, I am not going to make it easy for him this time either.
DD3 and SIL are due to arrive for a flying visit any minute now, just a cuppa then on their way again. I was so looking forward to a pleasant afternoon but it has been totally kiboshed (sp.)
Deafening silence until he says sorry.

Forgot to say - I got the parking fine cancelled!! Yay!!

just a quick pop in - where the heck does the time go to?

I will be glad if we get a storm soop, the air is really heavy and sultry and I could do with a good night's sleep.

Ann, I hope you feel better soon - feeling queasy is one of the worst things. I feel so sorry for your neighbour. DH can be a trial but I wouldn't like to be without him (well, I quite like it when I have the house to myself but I also like it when he comes home!!) My nan said that the worst time after my pop died was when she stored up bits of 'gossip' she learnt on her way round town and then realised that he wouldn't be at home to hear it!

Lovely photos on here of dogs, babies, children and some slightly older people. Not long till we get our new kitten but before that we have a couple of nights of very small visitors and then DH's brother for a few days.

Hope Maw is ok and not suffering the aftermath of her exciting night!

I've a feeling that a storm isn't too far away. We'll unplug the computer to be on the safe side.

I'm wishing you all a pleasant evening. I hope to return tomorrow.

annsixty Thundery weather can give you a headache and queasy tum. Drink plenty of water.
I agree with what roses said about being bereaved. Those people I know who have been through the ordeal have said - 'I keep expecting him/her to walk through the door...' Losing a partner is such painful thing to accept. I believe that the grieving process affects every person differently. I cannot begin to imagine how I would feel if I was to survive my husband. The very thought brings tears to my eyes.

That's a shame Ann hope you feel better soon.?Also I could have passed on to you all the left over food ( why can I never cater for less than 30 people?!!
No storms thankfully, but have just read of rain coming this evening.
What you say about your friend fits exactly what a friend of mine who was widowed five years ago told me ' I expect to see him coming through the gate as usual all the time' and that 'she felt he was still around and would come home' and she is a very practical person too.It took about three years for her to come to terms with it.We are all different, but I can see me feeling the same if it happened.

It is very hot here again today and we are forecast thunderstorms. It is also very windy which makes open doors and windows quite awkward.
I have been out shopping with my very recently widowed friend today. She finally admitted she hasn't actually taken it in that P has died. She says she feels he is just away and will be back. Can any of you relate to this?
Is it a normal reaction? I feel quite fearful that the reaction , when it comes might be hard, however she is a strong woman with a " get on with it " attitude.
Absolutely nothing to relate to the situation but she will also be very comfortably off , which doesn't compensate for the loss but mitigates the worry many widows face.
I hope you all enjoy the long weekend and it stays fine for the planned barbecues.
For myself I have a stomach upset and a stinking headache which I am sure is down to the heat so I will pass on the charcoaled meats thank you.