Note to Self.....

Anything worth doing, is worth doing badly at first.

That is the trueist of your aphorisms, Illtellhim, and it is the one that I try to follow.

Note to self .....

Its entirely possible to be a kind, loving person who refuses to tolerate bullshit.

In fact, its not only possible, its absolutely necessary.

If you are on a wrong road - no matter how far along it you have gone - turn back.
Turkish proverb

Illtellhim do you feel you have lost your way in life?

You seem to be searching for something,
or are you just hoping that by looking inward you will find the key to happiness.

IMHO li
sometimes life has to be take by the scruff of the neck and some problems need to be dealt with head on.

Me too annsixty but I hae ma doots!

That's strange Maw after wine o'clock, I become very mellow and love all my fellow men.
On one occasion many years ago now, I became so mellow and loving , I rang three other couples and invited them to dinner the following weekend and they all accepted. I had a few regrets the next morning but got the recipe books out and planned my menu and shopping and although I can't actually remember details, I know we would have had a lovely time as, when we got together we always did.
It all seems so very long ago.

I suspect some of yesterday's posts , not saying which, were after Prosecco o'clock, Elegran!

Plumbing the depths .........

Note to self ...

Don't chase people.
Be an example.
Attract them.
Work hard and be yourself.
The people who belong in your life, will come and find you.
Just do your thing.

If that fails, become a poster on GransNet

Change can come in a thingy of a whotsit, illtellhim.

Even SOME who make the most claim to be Christian - not all are unforgiving and vindictive.

I don't understand your post of "No he couldn't Elegran" as an answer to mine a little before it. I was referring to the Pharisee (a high-ranking and respected member of the Jewish priesthood) who prayed saying ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’ He certainly loved and valued himself, and probably told himself daily that "I am worth it".
I don't see why your response to that was, "No he couldn't Elegran". What couldn't the Pharisee do?

Your later post is to a link to a video of a hymn, not really a reply either, or anything to do with the discussion. Neither is the comment about people knowing better nowadays - they don't, they still fail to forgive as Jesus asked them to, even those who make the most claim to be Christian.!

www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqSQvoinDE4.

Sadly My Jesus asked his farther to forgive then for they no not what they do, whereas, now adays people do.

No he couldn't Elegran

Note to self:
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.

In fact, if you love and value youself overmuch, you could fall into the error mentioned in Luke 18:9-14.

The reason we are told to put on our oxygen masks before putting one on our child is so that we are then ready to care for the child - not so that we can put our own safety (and happiness) first.

We should certainly not forget about our own safety, that would be sheer stupidity, but to put on our own oxygen mask, collect our valuables, leave the child (minus mask) behind, and elbow our way to the emergency exit, trampling the frail and injured underfoot, is not really recommended.
There is a difference between loving yourself for what you are on the one hand, and on the other hand putting your own interests to the front in all circumstances. Recognising the difference and doing the first without the second is what makes a person humane rather than just human. It is also a reason not to put too much faith in all those, "You are an incredibly valuable person", self-help books.

"Make yourself a priority?" Not selfish?
I think it is.
And don't start that thing about the oxygen masks in a plane, that is just common sense.
I think much of what is wrong with today's "Me, me" society is encapsulated in your "note".

Note to .....

It's not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself & to make your happiness a priority. it's necessary.

Can't wait for Paw to be well enough for lunch at one of our favourite places (careful not to be guilty of advertising but "white French restaurant which serves surprisingly cheap but excellent food " might give a clue)
Farnorth you'd enjoy it!!

It may be good advice but that plateful certainly wouldn't help me to do it.

And this is good advice too!

Now that is good advice illtellhim

Note to ......

Don't let your struggle become your identity.