Gransnet forums

Gransnet cafe

Welcome to the *Gransnet Café. This is a non-judgemental space for you to pop in for a cuppa with some virtual friends, seek out advice for a particular problem, or share an update on your life - important or trivial. Feel free to have your say and chat about your day, but please leave any arguments at the door. If you're struggling to find someone to talk to in real life, or are simply looking for a bit of a chat, this is the place for you.

Feeling low.

(9 Posts)
Poppy2 Thu 13-Dec-18 11:54:29

Having a bad week. I have three daughters and I worry about my youngest , she is a single mum and is a full time career for her eldest who is eleven and waiting on a diagnosis for autism , she has depression and is struggling. My middle daughter is helping a friend who has attempted suicide in the last week ,my daughter is struggling and it all seems to be affecting me .

mumofmadboys Thu 13-Dec-18 13:58:30

All you can do is be a supportive mum and help when you can. Tell the daughters how well they are doing and how proud you are of them. Are you a Christian? If so tell God about your anxieties and concerns and ask for his help for them all. Wishing you a greater sense of peace.

Alima Thu 13-Dec-18 14:19:40

To be able to be there for them when needed you have to look after yourself too. Could there be a medical reason you are feeling so down now? Asking because I have had a very bad few months, worried to pieces about DD1, generally feeling old and crap. Turns out there is a medical reason now being treated. Feel so much better and able to help DD1 instead of just worrying. Hope you feel better very soon.

Teetime Thu 13-Dec-18 15:07:46

poppy2 I am sorry you are feeling low - this can be a very depressing time of year and you have a lot on your plate. Please dont expect to be full of the joys of the season - this will only put pressure on yourself. All you can do is love your family in practical ways if you can and take care of yourself, eat properly and get some rest. Some times we have to get some extra help from the doctor so better to go sooner rather than later - can you get an appointment before Christmas?

RockApt Mon 24-Jun-19 16:17:37

Have been feeling really low for past few months I am 65 still have a little part time job I always seem to be doing things for family they hardly contact me never ask how I am they only contact me when they need something my parents are 87 even they expect me to do the same never come visit they are healthy for age the grandchildren seem to be not talkative to me when I see them or I get growled at for asking questions about school etc feel so low not sure where to turn my husband not much help it always reverts back to him when I mention anything

Urmstongran Mon 24-Jun-19 16:56:55

There is a very kind and supportive thread called Black Dog gang (I think) that might give some extra TLC for any who are struggling.

RockApt Mon 24-Jun-19 17:24:48

Thankyou will give that a try x

Unhappy1 Sun 11-Aug-19 22:39:25 sound like a very nice woman too me....and sometimes nice people are taken for granted...please don't let the situation get you's not's them...try stay strong...your the kind of person I would like in my life...for yourself ....and to hell with the rest....

Doodle Sun 11-Aug-19 22:51:30

poppy so sorry your daughters are struggling. I have an autistic grandchild as it turns out so do many many GNetters. It is stressful but your daughters are lucky to have you to care about them. I hope your DGS gets some help. If it is any consolation my DGS has changed a lot over the years. He still has problems but has learnt new ways of coping and every year sees him maturing in understanding. Being there for them is all you can do but rest assured you are not alone in your worrying about your children. There are many of us who have struggles. I wish your family well. Go to the Black dog gang if you feel like it and I will see you there.