I wonder if any of you wise people could give me some advice.
My eldest daughter is 45 yrs old she has been divorced for 13yrs and has three grown up children, they all left as teenagers either to live with me or their Dad.
She has always been selfish and put herself first, she has been a heavy drinker for years, often drinking two bottles of wine a night in the house on her own, it’s got to the stage where none of the family want to be with her socially as she always gets very drunk and becomes nasty.
She has pushed numerous friends away through her behaviour even some she went to school with, and destroyed several relationships due to her wanting to always come first before partner seeing his children, despite all this she holds down a full time job.
She always says she had a very happy childhood and I have helped her a lot with the children over the years both financially and childcare.
I have tried to speak to her several times about it and offered to get private counselling for her but she doesn’t think she has a problem
Her adult children have tried to talk to her about it but she just becomes abusive to them, she has hurt me so many times over the years with her nasty tongue that I’m starting to dislike her, obviously I love her and can’t help but remember what a cute child she was, she seems to have to get drunk when she goes out and make a fool of herself sometimes hooking up with random men.
I’m so worried about what she is doing to her physical health and she is making her self so vulnerable to abuse.
Sorry about my long post but I’m at a loss what to do next.
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