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does anyone here over 50, still suffer from being broody? please

(64 Posts)
January2025b Sun 02-Feb-25 18:30:50

hi just wandered pls, does anyone here still suffer from being broody pls,,
i have been through the menopause with no symptoms,,
just wandered - has anyone tried anything pls to help 'alleviate' these symptoms,,, thanks!

MissAdventure Sun 02-Feb-25 20:44:18

The same for me, sadgrandma
My friend said it was almost a physical pain, the longing for a child.

AGAA4 Sun 02-Feb-25 20:44:56

No not broody at all. I think those feelings will pass.

Iam64 Sun 02-Feb-25 20:57:18

No

Catterygirl Sun 02-Feb-25 21:16:01

I tried to become sterilised in my twenties. My GP refused. She said I might change my mind. I married my second husband at 30 on the understanding I wouldn’t have children, possibly because I was expected to mother my sister as my parents spoiled her so much they couldn’t cope with her tantrums. Fast forward, somehow at 37 my husband said last chance saloon and I was so sure after so many years on the Pill I would be infertile. Along arrived our wonderful son. I can’t say I particularly enjoyed the baby period but from 5, we were inseparable. We still are. He’s 35. We both worked in television for years and are so similar, steak has to be raw, things like that. Broody. No. But I do understand people who feel that way and I think it’s normal.

Norah Sun 02-Feb-25 21:19:30

No, Oh my, No.

M0nica Sun 02-Feb-25 21:24:12

Not remotely. From the day my first child was born I welcomed every development that meant they were more self sustaining and independent, and I got back my freedom.

Do not get me wrong my dear children were much wanted and have always been much loved. But a parent's job from day one is to prepare their children to survive out in the world independently standing on their own feet and that is what I did.

Aveline Sun 02-Feb-25 21:26:05

No. I do love to see wee ones and enjoy their company.
However, today when we were out for brunch the couple on the next table had newborn twins. I was desperate for a wee cuddle but restrained myself to smiling in their direction - they must have been worried at this Gran and her sickly scary grin!

sodapop Sun 02-Feb-25 21:49:11

No never felt broody at all, love the family I have but wouldn't do it again

HeavenLeigh Sun 02-Feb-25 21:53:59

Nope I’m in 60s and mine are in 40s glad I had them young but no don’t feel broody

Whitewavemark2 Sun 02-Feb-25 22:01:34

Good heavens no.

Skydancer Sun 02-Feb-25 23:04:31

I’d love to go back to when mine were babies but goodness me I definitely don’t want babies at my age.

henetha Mon 03-Feb-25 00:03:30

Not broody maybe, but I certainly longed for a third child, and it still lingers within me a little.
But I know I'm lucky to have two really nice sons and four grandchildren.

rafichagran Mon 03-Feb-25 00:20:06

No, could not think of anything worse.

Jennynanna Mon 03-Feb-25 00:24:29

I'm some ways I'm lucky as my 3 year old grandson lives with me so I get to do the looking after a baby bit again after 33 years and everything that it entails ,easier in.my opinion now than what it was when my kids were small

LaCrepescule Mon 03-Feb-25 06:44:01

God no! But I l love babies and am looking forward to hopefully being a gran.

mum2three Mon 03-Feb-25 07:02:30

Not exactly broody but do wish I had grandchildren. I have three children and took it for granted that they would have children, but it hasn't happened.

Sago Mon 03-Feb-25 07:14:55

After looking after our grandchildren for 10 nights while our daughter and SIL were away I realised why God gave women the menopause.
I was in bed at 8.00pm every night!
It was wonderful but exhausting.

JackyB Mon 03-Feb-25 07:15:49

Not after 50, I don't think. But I used to have recurring dreams that I was pregnant in the wake of my hysterectomy in my early 40s.

And I'm not really a very maternal type at all.

love0c Mon 03-Feb-25 08:13:04

I'm 66 and yes I feel I could easily do the babies again. Fortunately I have 2 gorgeous grandchildren to love. I do not know if you feel as I do? I tend to think I suffer with the passing of time. A part of your life that has gone.

Chocolatelovinggran Mon 03-Feb-25 08:15:26

I taught children who had been born to a lovely couple in their late forties.
They had their older children when they were very young and were grandparents when they decided that they wanted to do it all again.

Casdon Mon 03-Feb-25 08:19:11

No I don’t, but I know I’m very lucky to have a gorgeous baby granddaughter to enjoy now.

Oopsadaisy1 Mon 03-Feb-25 09:39:40

I had a hysterectomy at 40 and for almost a year I was very broody, our 2 were at University and our (younger) close friend was pregnant with her first child.
But the feelings passed and were probably hormonal. 10 years later and we were enjoying our Young Grandchildren and I was exhausted when they went back home.

luluaugust Mon 03-Feb-25 09:43:12

When we threw out the old cot I worked out 10 babies, DC and DGC, had slept in it at one time or another, surely enough for anyone.

Barleyfields Mon 03-Feb-25 10:25:08

I have one child. I remember briefly feeling sad after the menopause in my late 40s that there could never be another, but that soon passed and realistically I wouldn’t have wanted another baby then. I wasn’t broody by any means, but I think that sadness at the end of your reproductive life isn’t unusual. The end of one life stage, but the beginning of another. Women who had awful periods must have been very glad to see the back of them!

Happygirl79 Mon 03-Feb-25 14:32:40

No. Not at all.