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My daughter got scammed a couple of weeks ago

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LOUISA1523 Thu 08-Jan-26 20:03:03

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friendlygingercat Wed 24-Sept-25 06:06:48

I had an odd call on my landline a while back. Guy with a very assertive voice looking for a Mrs "Asian Name". Told him sorry wrong number. He then claimed to be a police officer based at local station and offered that he needed to get in touch with Mrs Asian Name as she had been the victim of a crime. I immediately smelled a rat as surely a real police officer would not be giving this sensitive information to a random stranger on a wrong number.

I asked what number he was trying to call and he replied with my number. Mine is a private number which does not show up when I ring out - from my time at the uni when I used to do confidential surveys. It just shows as private number.

So I told him that I might know where Mrs Asian Name is to be found but first I needed his full name, rank and badge number. I would check with the station and then get back to him when they confirmed his ID. He immediately rang off. The incoming number I googled turned out to be a site that sells bathroom fittings!

I recognised Mrs Asian Name as a near neighbour who had applied for planning permission to extend her house in the recent past. I know exactly where she lives because the council sent me a letter about the planning application. But Im not getting involved in what was obviously a scam of some kind.

However I cant work out what the scam was.

windmill1 Wed 24-Sept-25 05:41:11

Doubtless Facebook is onto "a nice little earner" by selling on information. They'll deny it to Kingdom come, but I'd bet the Crown Jewels that's what is going on.

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Floradora9 Mon 22-Sept-25 16:38:49

Quiz the caller about where he works , ask what country it is and ask the time of day it is . That usually puts a scammer off. If they say it is you bank say you will call the abnk on another phone .I ask if they are in Scotland that puts them off and ask them to tell you what standing orders or direct debits you have on this account that they say has been hacked.

Mt61 Mon 22-Sept-25 16:33:00

My friend bought two mattresses off FBM. Transferring £800, she realised it was a scam when she never received the mattresses. She tried to get the money back, but they sent her a photo of a bloke (or somebody else) hooked up to a life support in a hospital setting 😳 said he’d had a stroke.. (stroke of luck that they had fleeced her more like).
I said she at least should contact the police or FBM. She never did, & just let it go 😩

Aely Mon 22-Sept-25 12:59:23

As someone who uses a land-line I am assumed to be an elderly half-wit and get two or three scam/phishing attempts most days. I treat every "unknown" call (not in my contact list) as dodgy until shown to be otherwise. The occasional genuine callers (e.g. from the new excercise class I have been put on for COPD) have gracefully accepted the apology for the terse welcome. Bad actors are added to the database of miscreants on Who Called Me. Unfortunately my phone handset can only handle 30 blocked numbers.

petra Sat 20-Sept-25 17:11:08

The odds are in your favour of not being scammed.
3 billion hits a month.

BlueBelle Sat 20-Sept-25 17:07:28

I ve gone into the depths of FB to check and I ve only purchased one thing through it and used PayPal so no details given
I ve been on FB for as long as I can remember and never had any real problems

Bea65 Sat 20-Sept-25 17:03:03

petra

Facebook is the spiritual home of scammers.
You could click onto something that looks interesting. That will be fake. By clicking on that you could unknowingly be loading Malware. With that they’ve gotcha.

This is true…I closed my FB account few years ago as was hacked and ID stolen…

Retread Sat 20-Sept-25 17:02:58

If Fakebook is dodgy (which I'm certain it is) does that also apply to Instagram I wonder, as it is part of Meta too.

petra Sat 20-Sept-25 16:57:52

Facebook is the spiritual home of scammers.
You could click onto something that looks interesting. That will be fake. By clicking on that you could unknowingly be loading Malware. With that they’ve gotcha.

Maremia Sat 20-Sept-25 16:39:52

That's the first time I have heard of Facebook being used in that way. I wonder how Facebook has managed to link up with Amazon?

Aely Sat 20-Sept-25 16:27:41

I was surprised. She is by no means stupid, but she got relieved of £450 in an "unusual activity on your account" scam. They caught her when she was hard at work on an important project (she works mostly from home) and I must say, they were good!

The first danger sign (distinct foreign accent, poor English) was not there. The caller seemed to be not just British, but English.

They had her full name, her address, her bank card details down to the security code on the back and told her (didn't ask for) what bank she used, the sort code and I think she said they even had her account number. The "unusual activity" was an Airport hire car rental. Unfortunately, because she was flustered she fell for the "we need the one-time code, to stop this transaction" spiel. Unlike me she doesn't have time to watch programmes such as Scam Interceptors and the like or she would have known better. When I get such a call, I say "Thank you for telling me. I will contact my Bank directly" and put the phone down - as I know this will really upset the scammers.

She was wondering afterwards how all her details had leaked. Her card was still safely in her bag. She shreds anything with her name and address or other sensitive information on when it is finished with. She doesn't bank online and only uses trusted sites when purchasing online.

Her efforts at figuring out how this had happened led to an unsettling discovery, although whether the two are connected is uncertain.

After a bit of Googling, she dived into the depths of her Facebook account. Hidden deep in the depths, she discovered they have been keeping not only what she has knowingly told them but so much more besides. Every purchase she has made on Amazon and other sites, for instance. There was information there she knew she had not imparted to Facebook directly or had not expected them to keep. Every site she had visited in the last month was listed. She had no idea. She always goes for the "Essential cookies only" option on sites. Perhaps they have a different view of what is Essential and why was Facebook trawling that information anyway? She found just about everything a scammer would need to know.

Finding out how to stop them hoarding this information took even more effort.

Thankfully, her bank made good the loss very quickly, but it has really shaken her up. I don't think they will catch her out again with that particular scam and I hope she will be more wary generally, in the future.

One puzzle (apart from their identity) remains. As far as I can make out, the scammer must have called her on her work phone. She doesn't have a land line and she told me she had to go and fetch her own phone, with the "required one-time code" from another room. How did they get the number? But that is a question for the Security people where she works.

So, people out there, be very, very careful. Those nasty pieces of scum, the scammers, are getting really good.