Might be my last post

I'm miffed now!

Who knew there is a Grandparents' Day? My DGC didn't.
Mine neither. If I told them they’d probably start googling grandchildren’s day.

butterandjam

Sadgrandma

I have just been on another post where a GNetter asked a perfectly reasonable question as to whether she should mention her friend’s late husband when sending a new grandmother card. Immediately the thread seemed to turn into an argument about whether such cards should be sent. I bet the original poster wished she’d never asked! Why do some people turn everything into an argument? It is such a shame.
Don’t leave Cambsnan we need people like you. 💐

I would not describe that thread as an argument. Merely people stating their different experiences ( "I always send new grannies a card "/ "I've never even heard of sending new granny cards"

There are posters here from all over the world and all over UK, different generations. All different.

I commented too that it was probably a Hallmark invention.
So many of these special Days and occasions are inventions by card companies.

Who knew there is a Grandparents' Day? My DGC didn't! 😁

I have all but given up posting on some forums as I became fed up with making a point which was ignored. Then somebody would make the exact same point further down and get loads of 'well saids' and yellow claps.

I have also had too many snarky retorts, often from posters who haven't read/understood properly what I actually wrote.

On the rare occasions I have started a post, I almost always regret it.

That's all true M0nica but some of us (like you) generally don't set out to just be provocative (or rude).. and sometimes it does feel that some posters are working towards a medal in these!

I am absolutely opposed to 'be nice or don't comment'.

What is the point of even starting a thread if you only want people to agree with you?

I am not suggesting that people make unpleasant or personal remarks, but when so much false informtion floats around these days, then it is important that if people make statements or claims, that they can say, where they got the information. So many people make universal claims based on a sample of one, or just what people around them do forgetting that their friends or community are not a cross section of all society, just an example of their area/family/ social group.

I hope I haven't upset you Cambsnan as I know I can be one of M0nica's "where did thst info come from?" people.

Please don't leave.
There are plenty of (generally) happy and warm Gransnetters.

Bear in mind that many people use social media to vent their personal anger and frustrations. It is rarely about the victim.

Absolutely butterandjam, Sadgrandma posted with similar content onthe thread itself, in which I and several others commented that we had never heard or come across the tradition of sending congratulatory cards to a new Grandmother, an occasion for sending cards that the OP just assumed everyone knew about and did. Some people, who did not like the idea said so.

We do not all have to think alike and to say you think differently about something compared with someone else is not an argument.

Sadgrandma

I have just been on another post where a GNetter asked a perfectly reasonable question as to whether she should mention her friend’s late husband when sending a new grandmother card. Immediately the thread seemed to turn into an argument about whether such cards should be sent. I bet the original poster wished she’d never asked! Why do some people turn everything into an argument? It is such a shame.
Don’t leave Cambsnan we need people like you. 💐

I would not describe that thread as an argument. Merely people stating their different experiences ( "I always send new grannies a card "/ "I've never even heard of sending new granny cards"

There are posters here from all over the world and all over UK, different generations. All different.

Due to problems with my back and can also get horrible cramp in the middle of the night, I am very grateful for all the GN's posts that I can read to cheer a miserable night. I am now a widow and live alone, and whilst on sunny summer mornings I might go out at crazy times, at this time of year, when it has been a rough night I have three things to restart the day in a better way.

I listen to Bach before 7, I make a much needed fresh coffee drunk from my china mug of course, and I sit and read the posts and especially the good morning from Mick and group. When I am struggling to move about, I can kid myself that I am choosing to sit and read things rather than at the moment I cant really move around much. Of course there will be some things that I dont agree with, other things I know nothing about, but I do enjoy reading of other peoples lives and what they are doing. it cheers the morning, there are often good ideas that we pass to each other and you feel that there are genuine people who want to be helpful and have ideas that may provide you with a different solution that you might not have thought of before. It cheers my morning, and I enjoy hearing from people all over the place. I tend to listen to the main news headlines in the morning, but find that I dont want to hear endless repeats during the day, as there is very little or nothing I can do about most of it, other than feel annoyed or upset. I dont bury my head in the sand, but think that endless repeats of depressing news doesnt help me at all. I have no wish to hear anything about Trump later in the day etc.So if you look through the different threads I think you may find something to enjoy.

Depends what you're saying

I think a lot of it has to be done with how the written word comes over as emotionless. On a recent thread about grandparents cards, a poster wrote “I’ve never heard of it” and another response was “it’s a waste of a stamp’. However, neither answered the OP’s question of whether or not to mention someone deceased on said card. For all we know that birth could have been long awaited, a rainbow birth, or even a birth not even thought possible – we just don’t know.
The response “I’ve never heard of it“ could be interpreted in two ways. A simple hard dismissal, or perhaps, face-to-face, in a questioning tone of requesting more details about such card.

In my opinion people should be polite, even if they don’t agree with the OP - it costs nothing to be civil.

It's not about whether we agree or disagree. It's how we do it.
I belong to a women's discussion group. We are all capable of expressing an opinion without being rude to the other person.

Aveline

It would cost me my self respect to be nice all the time! We can't all ever agree on anything and GN illustrated that.

If we all agreed with everything we all posted GN would die a slow painful death due to boredom.

Aveline

It would cost me my self respect to be nice all the time! We can't all ever agree on anything and GN illustrated that.

Surely being nice to people doesn't mean you have to agree with them? It's perfectly possible to disagree and prove your point calmly and without rudeness.

Or maybe it isn't. What do I know.

butterandjam

Oreo

I had two warm mince pies earlier with a mug of tea.I have finally settled on Tesco finest butter mince pies as my faves for this year.Tbh I need someone to take the pack out of my hands.

My faves too. I'll help you with that packet (grabs and runs)

Just bought more this very morning 🤭😋

Just back from a walk in the park with dh who hasn’t been well this week so only a short walk. Think it did him good. . It’s a lovely almost summery day so washed bedding and it’s out in the garden.
Think it’s time for a cup of earl grey, will resist the extra special stollen.

Great, to get out for a walk, but if you are stuck inside, the Book Threads are good to join. I had missed the last Elly Griffiths, The Frozen People, (for those who enjoy time slip) and loved it.

I’ve just had a profitable walk through town. The optician said my eyes hadn’t changed since last time, so I don't need new glasses
The man on the market stall, showed me phone cases from the £8 rack, and when I decided I didn’t really need one, said £5 then? The rain stopped as I arrived in town and started as I got back to the car.
What’s more, DH had put the washing on!
I think I’ll try some Zen colouring with a cup of tea.

Oreo

I had two warm mince pies earlier with a mug of tea.I have finally settled on Tesco finest butter mince pies as my faves for this year.Tbh I need someone to take the pack out of my hands.

My faves too. I'll help you with that packet (grabs and runs)

I usually just ignore the grumps/nasties. Very rarely I might say something. I certainly wouldn’t let them drive me away,

I've just had a lovely windy walk in the country park a few minutes from my home. I'm ready for a hot chocolate and would love a slice of Christmas cake but haven't made one this year.

It would cost me my self respect to be nice all the time! We can't all ever agree on anything and GN illustrated that.

This morning the sun seems to be winning the tussle with the clouds. Strong wind is helping. Should be able to go out for a walk this afternoon.
Wrap up well, and have a go, if you can.