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How much should I give best friend's grandson who is going to be travelling for six months?

(114 Posts)
Betony Mon 23-Feb-26 16:00:09

I'm talking about my best friend's grandson, not my own. However, I'm very fond of this hard working 19-year old, and would like to give him some money for when he goes travelling abroad for six months. Any suggestions on how much I should give? I'm not talking about a fortune here, but an important consideration is not to cause jealousy/resentment from his younger brother, or younger members of my own family. Maybe the whole idea is wrong! Thanks in advance.

Labradora Tue 24-Feb-26 18:37:09

Witzend

If he hasn’t got power banks (for charging his phone) that’d be a good present.

However I agree with whoever said £100. That’s what I’d do.

I hadn't heard of " power banks" but as they are for charging his phone I think they are an excellent idea.
A working phone could save his life.
Also I would give someone " emergency money" . A credit card with a £ 250 limit e.g.

Weddingbelle123 Tue 24-Feb-26 18:07:15

Nothing. I imagine he doesn’t need it if he can afford to travel for 6 months.

MickyD Tue 24-Feb-26 17:48:36

If I knew the friends grandchild I’d probably give £100.

Witzend Tue 24-Feb-26 17:41:45

If he hasn’t got power banks (for charging his phone) that’d be a good present.

However I agree with whoever said £100. That’s what I’d do.

DeeAitch56 Tue 24-Feb-26 17:33:48

It depends really on what you can afford really, but either £50 or £100 seems like a nice round number to me and either additionally or instead of cash perhaps a travel journal for him for him to put notes/memories of his experiences in

ferry23 Tue 24-Feb-26 17:30:32

Goodness, the OP asked what she should give, not SHOULD she give!

Lovely idea - I'm with the £50 - £100 crowd - only you know which end of the scale is appropriate.

I give birthday gifts and other occasion gifts to my best friend's children and grandchildren so I don't see the difference. I've known them all since birth and I'm the non-family "Aunty" - I'm sure that's the same for lots of people.

Annika22 Tue 24-Feb-26 16:35:43

I think it’s a lovely idea and very kind of you to think of the young man. I think a small donation to his travel fund, maybe £25 and a nice T-shirt would be a good idea. Some of the comments seem a bit judgey to be honest.

Polly7 Tue 24-Feb-26 16:18:28

If I was fond of him, I'd probably give him £50 if you can really afford it 100

Katekeeprunning Tue 24-Feb-26 16:16:14

I think it’s an incredibly thoughtful idea. I would give $100 as dollars are the best currency to use when travelling

Etoile2701 Tue 24-Feb-26 16:11:13

I wouldn’t be able to afford to give him anything. It wouldn’t cross my mind.

JAN1954 Tue 24-Feb-26 15:52:58

I like paddyann54's idea about the tee shirt as an ice breaker. Maybe a small amount of money along with it. I would definitely ask my friends advice about what she would suggest for her grandson though.

PernillaVanilla Tue 24-Feb-26 15:52:04

What a lovely idea, you are very kind. Money will be much better than a gift. £100 sounds about right, but anything would be appreciated I’m sure. There are some miserable misers on this thread. It is nice to spread some joy.

Allsorts Tue 24-Feb-26 15:51:02

I would not give a present if back packing. Be modest in what you give and check first with your friend, you don't want to outshine her. I think a coffee voucher on their phone is one suggestion, from as little as £20 up to £50. Bank transfer another suggestion, all helps.

cc Tue 24-Feb-26 15:49:10

AliBeeee

The most useful small item I’ve had in my more adventurous travels is a Swiss Army knife. I’ve been using mine for about 25 years and have met other travellers who agree that they are the most useful item to carry with you. That would be my suggestion for a gift. They can’t go in airline hand luggage though.

This is exactly what I was going to say, I've bought them for people before. There are quite a few different versions, but he must be aware that some countries might regard a knife as an offensive weapon.

Cabbie21 Tue 24-Feb-26 15:45:14

Unless you consult him, or your friend, there is a risk that he will have already got whatever useful gift you might be thinking about. If he is backpacking, he will need to take as little as possible.

This is a one off. You don’t need to treat anyone else equally.

My granddaughter went travelling on her own for three months and was incredibly well organised. It cost her very little overall. I didn’t give her anything for the journey though she needed a bit of help on her return when she had no money for a car bill. She soon worked again to pay her own way- a matter of pride.

Warbler Tue 24-Feb-26 15:33:21

What a lovely, lovely friend you are. I would definitely give him cash (and not a present) but I would put it in a card and perhaps mention how much your special friend means to you and especially him, as her grandson. I remember when I went travelling and I was always (very) strapped for cash......I would have been delighted if someone had done that for me.

Momac55 Tue 24-Feb-26 15:09:59

Zilch from me

aanncc Tue 24-Feb-26 14:38:40

I think it’s a lovely idea. Don’t listen to the killjoys. It doesn’t have to be much it’s the thought that counts.

Ktsmum Tue 24-Feb-26 14:29:41

I love my best friends little Grandson to pieces, and I always buy him Christmas and birthday presents, to each their own

TBsNana Tue 24-Feb-26 14:14:06

I think it's a lovely idea, and depends really on what you can afford. With our children and grandchildren we have always worked on the basis of can we afford to do the same for everyone - so in this case this young man's younger siblings and your own grandchildren if they go travelling. I assume you already know everyone involved enough to judge whether the gesture will be welcomed by granny and parents - in which case go for it! As for how much - depending on all the above I would think -100 pounds is a pretty useful amount - enough for a couple of budget airfares!

ninamoore Tue 24-Feb-26 14:09:52

We didn’t even give our own son money for travelling. All self funded

AliBeeee Tue 24-Feb-26 14:08:56

The most useful small item I’ve had in my more adventurous travels is a Swiss Army knife. I’ve been using mine for about 25 years and have met other travellers who agree that they are the most useful item to carry with you. That would be my suggestion for a gift. They can’t go in airline hand luggage though.

Missiseff Tue 24-Feb-26 14:08:16

Another vote for nothing but a Bon Voyage card if he knows you well

pluckyluckyme Tue 24-Feb-26 14:01:09

How lovely and I think will be very much appreciated. £80 to £100 is a good round sum. I would do the same if it was a close friend and I had a good opinion and friendship with the grandson. Things go in roundabouts and maybe one day in the future the young man will be there for you because he remembers and cares.

Stillness Tue 24-Feb-26 13:58:54

If you’re very close to him. I’d give as much as you would for a normal gift eg £40? Otherwise, I wouldn’t embarrass him…..and I’d definitely not do it in the hope of some sort of return like texts and photos for example as he travels.