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Friends using messages instead of picking up the phone

(10 Posts)
MissAdventure Thu 28-May-26 08:55:33

The problem with messaging is that some people expect a five hour converation.
And i can t

alk the hind leg off a donkey.
But, as above shows, I'm not very dextrous, finger wise, can barely see what I'm doing, and have a steam powered phone.

Poppyred Thu 28-May-26 08:55:12

I hate when the phone rings, just message me!

dragonfly46 Thu 28-May-26 08:42:23

Phoning was fine when it was just landlines. If a person wasn’t in they didn’t answer. Now with mobiles they can be anywhere and a call is often inconvenient.
My DS tends to call often but always on the landline. Our DD uses WhatsApp. It is much less intrusive.

MrsQuigley Thu 28-May-26 08:36:43

I keep in touch with friends and family using Messenger. The phone was wonderful when that was the only way of instant contact but now I think it has had its day. Have stopped using a landline altogether and calls are more easily screened on my mobile.

Grandmabatty Thu 28-May-26 08:35:04

I rarely use the phone to call people and prefer to message. It's obviously a personal choice for folk. Fewer younger people actually call now and tend to use WhatsApp instead

Farmor15 Thu 28-May-26 08:24:59

One of the advantages of WhatsApp messages is that you can read and reply when it suits you. I have one friend who could have a long back and forth chat on WhatsApp, but if I see a message from her, I tend not to reply immediately.

Greenfinch Thu 28-May-26 07:36:02

I agree with Sago. People seem to ring at the most inconvenient moments . I love WhatsApp and use it regularly to communicate with family and especially with DD. We always begin the day by sharing our Wordle results and that might be all or we may continue to message throughout the day sharing our thoughts and activities and exchanging photos of the pets etc. I think it is a lovely way of keeping in touch.

Sago Thu 28-May-26 07:27:29

Yes, I find phone calls intrusive.

I will often send/receive a text asking when a call is convenient.

Luckygirl3 Thu 28-May-26 07:27:11

I love WhatsApp! My lovely DDs send me jolly messages all the the time and photos of what they are all doing so it is like sharing all this when I cannot be with them. They can do this speedily and easily in between what they need to do rather than having to carve out a long slot to talk in their busy lives. It is a godsend for me.
And I have lots of chats with friends ... jokes shared on the spur of the moment ... requests for help .... ideas and pics.
I am also on several whatsapp groups where we share info about what is happening, offer up things we do not need, provide support, and ask for help ... lifts, info, advice etc.
I get to "talk" with everyone far more than if I had to rely on phone only ... and WhatsApp video calls with family are great.

Pleasebenice Thu 28-May-26 07:07:00

I use messages to send a single quick message but I have friends who use channels like WhatsApp to have a long conversation. I try to divert to a call but they get annoyed or don’t answer. If I am busy or even just reading my book, a long written chat is much more disturbing than a nice phone call. Is that just me?