Nervous breakdown..

..that was for nellie xx [if it worked ]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuxSl_4yLz4

Lots of people, even including the Rolling Stones, use the non-medical term "nervous breakdown" to describe feeling a bit low or fed up. It has a rather Victorian ring about it. Clinical depression, which is a truly horrible place to be, is quite another issue. More often than not someone using that particular expression is exaggerating just as people who talk about being "stressed out" are usually just a tad tired. I wasn't commenting on anyone in particular, least of all the OP.

Absent a gentle suggestion - read through the posts, as least the last few, before you jump in with a comment like that 'more often or not, someone is exaggerating' I know you didn't mean it the way it sounded but if anyone is fragile, it coudl break them.

joan

Kali

Kali please pm me and I'll give you my number. Just a person on the end of the phone. Tis all, but anytime.

Actually butty I'll respond to your post as you sounded quite thoughtful. There is often a very fine line between having a 'bad day' and crossing over into suicidal thoughts. It doesn't take all that much to flick the switch. Yes, unresolved emotions are involved, but then there are some things that simply cannot be resolved. Some things cannot get better. Grief over a lost one is a good example. Nothing will bring that person back.
I don't know what time does but it doesn't take the pain away. Perhaps it makes it more manageable. It becomes part of you and if someone offered to take it away, you wouldn't want them to because the pain is the link to the lost one. What you do instead is take the loss along with you, somehow. So having a bad day and feeling you are starting to lose it is quite serious as unresolved emotions start to take hold and things can start to spin out of control. Especially if you have no support system. I said I'd started to feel like 'The Scream'. How many times have you heard people say after a suicide that the person seemed ok? Well that's because people disguise how they're feeling and trundle on until something tips the balance. That's why organisations such as the Samaritans are doing such a good job. People often just need to talk to someone, to ease the pressure, so they can gather together their coping skills and keep going.

absent quote
'I expect, more often than not, someone is exaggerating'

joan - jeanin prompted me to scroll down after reading her comment, and I understand completely, and am sorry I hadn't seen your post. Sometimes it is a matter of just 'acting as if' and carrying on. I wish there was a 'good for you' emoticon.

Joan I'm glad things got better for you. I think you are right, in the end we can rely only on ourselves.

absent I'm really not sure whether it used to be a medical term or not, and I think the phrase has often been used as a catch-all phrase for an inability to cope with the pressures that present in day to day life. From my perspective, it often has historical reasons, which come to the fore when external problems collide with unresolved emotional issues. However, I view it as a serious, and totally incapacitating condition which can have serious consequences. Having a 'bad-day' ain't it.

It's not a medically recognised term though, is it? Just a colloquial usage that might well cover anything from a tricky afternoon to suicidal depression. Hard to know what someone means and I expect, more often than not, someone is exaggerating. Then it's likely that people might be dismissive about someone having a genuinely terrible time.

to you all!

Thank you Smoluski I will thoroughly enjoy that and having one made for me (even if it is only virtual) is an extra special treat !

I'm busy going nowhere isnt it just a crime
I'd like to be unhappy but.......I never do get the time

Here's a to warm and cheer you and a for your breakxxxxx

Good for you nellie I know where I would be too if I didn't have to be here in this gloomy, cold office!

Busy doing nothing
working the whole day through
trying to find
lots of things not to do !

butty for you and a
soop have a guilty secret psst down tell anyone,well I started talking to you lot after missing the opticians at 9.30 and got woken by them ringing to where nellie was,and this is the guilty bit nellie is still in the same place as I was 9.30 this morning,have done s*d all today,busy day tomorrow and Friday though

Bye for now, Kali. I really MUST tidy up outside.

OMG nearly forgot to wake GS up, he'll not sleep tonight then I'll be in bad books AGAIN bye

butty take your pick (((( hugs))) sorry

Kali A special, warm sunny especially for you.

Is there kali and a Smol for me too?

To all survivors

soop I'm here too.