Can you go without booze for 31 days?

I think I was afraid to feel mental pain and grief I was going through. At least that was what I was told in re-hab. I was good at being charming and said what they wanted to hear.In the end you still have to go home and be with yourself and your fears.

Well, it's not easy. I was brought up in a violent, abusive household. I was neglected to the point where my teeth rotted. My brother committed suicide, my young nephew died of leukaemia (he died whilst I was visiting him), my sister in law (his mother) dropped dead at the age of 49. In the last few years, most of my hair has fallen out. Apologies if that's too much information but I won't beat myself up for having a few glasses of wine at night. I hope things improve for you.

Dear KATY , (((HUGS))) (((HUGS))) to you .

Thank you Nonu - not meaning to sound like a martyr - just trying to let Fairhair realise she's not on her own.

Every time any thread about how much alcohol we/anyone drinks is posted I've noticed how many people rush in to say how little they drink, or that they've never liked the taste, or how they've been put off for life because of an alcoholic relative.

That's their experience, and that's fine. But I do feel there must be many more Gransnetters who don't post on such threads because they're not about to admit that they need such a crutch and possibly drink more than is good for them.

I admire all those who have actually come out and said as much!

ANA me too , girl !

Katy

Ana and KatyK X

I'm ...today....I was a little last night. I even threw a few dishes I will see if I can think of something interesting to discuss. What about the most Smileys used in a post?Just a thought.

I think us minimal drinkers post because we get fed up with all the articles in the media that suggest that elderly people all drink like topers to while away the time until they totter into the grave.

There have been a number of media articles recently about the rising trend among those in their teens and early 20 to drink much less, despite many of their age group being binge drinkers.

But once it gets to older people we are presented only as persistent heavy drinkers, who will not acknowledge the fact - and I find that very irritating.

I agree FlicketyB It is just wrong to group any age of people and say they all do this or they all do that.

Fairhair, absolutely, when you know all of us better, you will find it is a theme I and a number of others Gransnetters are always complaining about. Older people are more often sterotyped than almost any other group in society.

I have made it this far without a drink.My cousin has convinced me to try rehab again.She has made arrangements for my admission next week.Today I found my 12 step materials and Big Book. I am already thinking of all the amends I need to do and sorrys to say.

Well done Fairhair and good luck next week.

Well done you , Fairhair , one day at a time , just take baby steps !
Good karma across the miles to you
HUG

Good luck Fairhair. I think you are very brave.

One step at a time Fairhair , making amends can come later

I'm delighted for you, you are doing all the right things to get yourself on the road to recovery.

Have a &

Go girl!

You ladies are like a instant family ones you care about.

Good luck Fairhair

fairhair I would never in a hundred years have thought my impulsive decision to post on here about my participating in DJ would have someone like you joining in the conversation. Which is one of the main aims of the campaign, to get people talking about the role of alcohol in their lives.

You're in good company here

All the best to you, please keep us posted #impressive

Fairhair - a brave step.
A few years ago we gave a home to an alcoholic man who had lost everything because of his addiction; we took him in as an alternative to him living on the streets. As a condition of him being here he agreed he would not drink any alcohol, but wasn't able to keep his word and I found the evidence. (Hidden empty bottles.) We called his estranged wife to a meeting with him and he was mortified when we confronted him. We agreed that he would be given one more chance with us - and he did it - he turned his life around. He went from living with us into a rehab programme and became a model student there. Subsequently he is back with his wife and children, has got a good job and has even given up smoking. (That was 2010/2011.)
So take heart Fairhair, there is always hope.

Fairhair, good luck with rehab. My brother was an alcoholic, we couldn't get him into rehab. Thoughts are with you.

Good Luck Fairhair I come from a family with a tendency to alcoholism which fortunately seems to have skipped me, though I love a drink. If you can do this it will turn your life around (((hugs))))

Fairhair Every good wish to you. Even if you do have some set backs don't get consumed with guilt and remorse and stop trying altogether.