I can relate to all this. For the last two years I've been suffering from the same thing. My worst experience was when driving my car with my four year old granddaughter. Lets just say, I couldn't hold it in. I'm now having all the tests done to see what's wrong with me. I no longer go for walks in the country or on the beach because there are no toilets. I keep to towns and know where every public toilet it. So far my doctor hasn't suggested any medicine, but I'm going for a private food tolerance test this week. Worrying certainly makes it worse.
Retiring and living frugally in money from downsizing after years of stress


for instance but worth it. I can't eat wheat - nothing to do with gluten but to do with the ability to digest the wheat itself and it is in so many things so my meals have gone back to being very simple. I can't have lactose and just removing that made a huge difference to my constant exhaustion. There is much more, fructose is a culprit but there is more in some fruit than others hence the yes to blueberries and no to blackberries (I think). No onions or garlic (printed in bold and very much a no, no) but the whole thing means I can digest what I am eating and I seem to be absorbing the good things like vitamins better too. The physical symptoms of anxiety have gone too - really completely gone. I don't mean nothing makes me anxious but that is natural; anxiety is not and it is very difficult to live with. 
Interestingly I used to take loperamide daily following my ops but now even half a capsule can bung me up. The only problem for me is I get rather anxious especially when visiting peoples houses as I go to the loo at least 10 times a day and it can be a bit noisy.
