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Maltesers at 6 months

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LullyDully Wed 21-Sept-16 09:08:00

I sat down for a rest in Tescos yesterday. I was seated by a very young mum and her baby, who was about 6 months old. It was lunch time and Mum was eating a pasty of some kind, she had just bought.

The baby was given 2 Maltesers,one in each hand.He enjoyed them and smiled at me while chocolate dripped down his face He was totally aignored by mum who was talking to friends. When he finished those he made a sound and got 2 more. Eventually he had 12!!

I felt sad that mum thought this was appropriate for a young baby and hoped it wasn't lunch. She had a poverty of expectation for her child that worried me. I keep thinking about the two of them. Am I just being daft?

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 21-Sept-16 09:12:33

I'd more worried about the choking risk!!!

She should have cut them up.

Jane10 Wed 21-Sept-16 09:12:36

No. That 'Mum' is!

whitewave Wed 21-Sept-16 09:14:50

No! I get terribly wound up about children. The latest reports from Yemen and Syria fill me with the deepest sadness and hopelessness. I am sure that our humanity is diminishing year on year.
"Suffer little children"

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 21-Sept-16 09:23:57

Fuck me whitewave! You can't compare giving a baby a bit of chocolate to what's happening to the children in Syria and Yemen! shock

obieone Wed 21-Sept-16 09:29:07

Some young mums are not well educated in what to feed young infants.

whitewave Wed 21-Sept-16 09:30:46

No I know jing I went off at a tangent.

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 21-Sept-16 09:33:09

Unsurprising, given the report yesterday evening.

Jalima Wed 21-Sept-16 10:00:36

No, you are not daft, LD that mother is - well, she is just very stupid.

kittylester Wed 21-Sept-16 10:00:53

I saw a youngish chap yesterday with a baby in a buggy and a toddler on one of those buggy boards. He had enormous flipping headphones on. It was all I could do not to take them off him. angry

Jalima Wed 21-Sept-16 10:04:17

It reminds me of a report many years ago of a mother who gave her girls a big bar of Dairy milk chocolate every day - because it contained a 'glass and a half of milk in each bar'.

That baby's teeth will be rotted before the age of 2 or 3.

BRedhead59 Wed 21-Sept-16 10:15:32

When I had my first son in 1983 I had a young diabetic homeless girl in the next bed. One day she lightly smacked her baby for filling a nappy? I often wonder about that child who will now be 32 hopefully.

BRedhead59 Wed 21-Sept-16 10:17:10

I also taught pregnant school girls and nursing mothers some of whom thought it ok to feed their babies pot noodles etc. We took the opportunity to educate them in this as well as GCSE's.

Teetime Wed 21-Sept-16 10:19:06

I saw a mum in Sainsbury giving her small one an olive - he loved it.

trisher Wed 21-Sept-16 11:03:30

Biggest cause of hospital admissions for children under 12 in England is dental decay. Children as young as 2 are having all their teeth removed, it's mums like this one who are the cause of it all. How can it be that they haven't heard what happens?

Christinefrance Wed 21-Sept-16 11:32:34

That is so scary, the Mum thought it was ok, the child could have choked and that is saying nothing of the sugar content. Some younger parents now seem incapable of saying ' no ' to their children and do anything for a quiet life. Not all are like this of course.

felice Wed 21-Sept-16 12:12:43

It is Childrens parties and Party Bags which annoy me. One party DGS went to an, American family, all the food was sweet, just cakes and sweeties, no real food at all.
Party bags, why, why does a child need a bag full of sweets for attending a party.
The cost is huge and it is just junk.Sorry bit of a bugbear for us.
DGS doesn't like sweet things so I feel sorry for him.

HthrEdmndsn Wed 21-Sept-16 12:31:38

A baby of six months should be just starting on baby rice! Six months is now the recommended age for weaning. But no doubt that will be changing again!

patriciageegee Wed 21-Sept-16 12:41:45

I've been vocal on the "tyranny of the party bags" since my daughter was seven felice and she's 41 now lol! You knock yourself out giving them the best time then there's all these little expectant faces at the end gggrhh! Anyway back to the thread ..are these parents just careless and thick? There has never been more publicity about the health dangers of sugar so it can't be ignorance just pig headedness maybe? I remember the mums throwing chips and burgers over the school fence when jamie oliver was trying to introduce healthy school dinners..what was that all about? Recently i saw a toddler in his pram drinking a can of coke! The mind boggles.

Purpledaffodil Wed 21-Sept-16 13:06:37

DD went to visit an acquaintance once. Baby aged 10 months was given a torn up sausage roll followed by an iced bun on the tray of his high chair. Oddly adults were given readymade wholemeal bread ham sandwiches. The Greggs diet? ?

tiggypiro Wed 21-Sept-16 13:13:14

There is a great deal of information regarding feeding babies and young children etc but it is in newspapers, TV news/programmes, leaflets in surgeries etc. All the sort of places that the uneducated mums in the above posts are unlikely to see as they don't read newspapers, do not watch the news or 'boring programmes' and don't pick up leaflets other than to let a toddler screw them up. Unfortunately new mums are thrown out of maternity wards within hours of giving birth and home visits by midwives and health visitors are just about as rare as hen's teeth. I used to teach GCSE Child Development and it was difficult sometimes to instil knowledge into those who didn't see anything wrong with the way they saw family members bringing up children. I know the answer is better education but who, when and how is the problem.

petra Wed 21-Sept-16 13:30:12

Please don't be so angry about these young mums, you have no idea how they they might have been brought / dragged up, spent their life in care etc.
Just be thankful that you had parents who loved you and were able to give you a good education.

thatbags Wed 21-Sept-16 13:36:39

Thank you, petra. I've been a bit gobsmacked by the judgmentalism on this thread.

whitewave Wed 21-Sept-16 13:42:05

grin pot calling the kettle black springs to mind thatbags

patriciageegee Wed 21-Sept-16 13:42:47

With the best will in the world i'm not sure if the answer is better education tiggypiro. I think there's a mindset of "not being told what to do" and everything, bar what the kardashians are getting up to or pouting for selfies, is BORING!! The Can'tBeArsed culture is so endemic now even I think "they're their kids why should i care if they've got no teeth by the time they're 12." Which is awful but you can only give so much energy before patience runs out.