Maltesers at 6 months

Are people being judgemental or are they expressing concern?

Tbh, I don't think Bags ever judges. She puts some crap up from Twitter but that's not the same thing

I had no idea about grapes being a choking hazard until that poor child died last year. The things I hate the most, safety wise for very young children are marbles, but I never thought of a soft fruit being a potential danger.

And who gives a ff what i think anyway!

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Kids can choke on all kinds of stuff. My elder DDs cousin was fed grapes while still a baby. Both her parents were doctors (so I guess at least they'd have known what to do if she had choked). My grandson nearly choked on a piece of apple; it was being flung onto his father's shoulder and hurried across a car park (bumps in the right place because of how he was carried) to A&E that dislodged it.

Minibags got small amounts of chocolate (if it's what I was eating, which it often was) at six or so months old. She's fifteen now and has perfect teeth. I suspect it's as much the not cleaning of teeth that leads to very young kids having them extracted as how much sugar they eat.

Examples of where I've been judgmental about mothers, please, ww, or anywhere if you were speaking generally.

Thanks, jings. I certainly try not to be judgmental about people. Attitudes, yes.

petra I think your post to Patriciageegee was uncalled for. I have reported it.

Don't really get where you're coming from petra. Are you saying people who feed their children rubbish are that hopeless and helpless they have no choice? Bit patronising maybe?

This is far from new sadly, as I think we all know. When I was working, BC (before children) I had lunch in a coffee bar most days, and most days there were the same two mums with two toddlers, toddlers having a plate of chips and a glass of florescent fizzy pop. Every single time I saw them this was 'lunch'. I don't think it's judgemental to be concerned about the care (or otherwise ) that children are getting; those toddlers will be over forty by now, potentially fat and toothless with presumably fat and toothless children of their own. Not the best life - and I'm not setting myself up as perfect, just concerned that small people deserve better, and to be healthier and fitter.

Thanks jinglbellsfrocks had posted the above before i saw yours. All grist to the mill for a lively debate eh?

It's all about the way were brought up I think? I was made to eat my veg ( cabbage) ugh! When young, otherwise no pudding!
My brother married someone who never forced her kids to eat anything they didn't want they always looked pale and unhealthy, so then did my brother.
I also know a well educated lady who sent her kids off to school with a biscuit and crisps for her lunch. It's surely a form of neglect not feeding kids properly.
Also I notice some very overweight young mothers about, what hope have there children of being a healthy weight. It's sad.

It's desperately sad. The young mum obviously has had no guidance or indeed a yard-stick by which to go by. On the other hand, these days information is everywhere if you really want to find it. Like others, as well as the sugar-content in the sweeties, I too was concerned about the choking hazard!

Anyone seeing what my almost 3 year old grand daughter had to eat when my daughter and I went out to lunch last week could be equally and mistakenly judgemental. She had a plate of chips with ketchup but for her that was a special treat. At home she eats healthy home cooked food with fruit always available for snacks. A casual observer does not know the circumstances so surely should not be judgemental. A varied diet is what you get over time not at one meal.

We don't know that the baby hadn't just had a nice nourishing jar of Heinz followed by a baby yogurt. A few bits of Maltesers afterwards wouldn't do much harm, if any.

The Gransnet mafia are out in force on this one - the usual clique criticising and cursing, making newcomers feel unwelcome because of the agression shown. Be ashamed. You old hands do not own the site so back off and stop prodding innocents with your tridents and broomsticks.

It's awful to watch, some mums do feed there children such rubbish. I know a lot of babies have dummy's but I can't stand them, I see so many babies with them. It's just to stop them crying.

Very true, merlin. And you can bet your life there'll be an ex-colleague/holier than thou neighbour/health professional around when one of my DGS is cramming in a sausage roll or a messy great icecream, on Nana's watch. They don't live on them though!

Again, dummies. Only one of my DGS had one, but he liked the comfort as he fell asleep. Nothing at all to do with shutting him up!! None of my DC had one, but I sure as heck tried to force one on DD2 (devil child turned lovely woman ).

Nothing wrong with dummies! My three all had them for the first two or three months, when they ditched them of their own accord.

I watched a young Mum sat on a bench with a child of about 18 months in his pushchair, she had a cigarette in one hand, phone in the other and headphones in her ears and the poor child had a can of red bull to drink through a straw ! in the few minutes i sat there ( i had to leave before i shook her) not once did she even look at that poor child.

Why are people so anti chips? Chips are perfectly good food.

Exactly Stansgran - just what I was thinking.

Anyone who thinks that being concerned about a baby being ignored and give not 1 or 2 but 12 Maltesers, instead of a meal- is 'ok' and not to be worried about - well

How do you know it was instead of a meal? It might have been the child's pudding.

Children can choke on almost anything they need to be watched whatever they are having !!