I am just having a whinge, I know nobody can do anything so do forgive me but I need someone to talk to. Somebody may remember that my DH was involved in a road crash at the beginning of this year and was horribly injured.
Just helped DH into bed a couple of hours ago, dosed him up with painkillers and left him to hopefully fall asleep but no joy so far. In years gone by he would probably have had his leg taken off as a matter of course but they have done so much work on him to save it and it seemed to be coming on really well. He can no longer even put his foot to the floor and has been in such pain for the last couple of days that he is now saying that he wished they had taken off his leg and I am at my wits end trying to help him. His leg is twitching so much with the pain even when in his sleep. X-rays show that there is still not much healing going on in there and the surgeon says another 6 - 9 months before the bones will be healed. All the other injuries have healed fairly well but this was the worst and the surgeon did say that this particular one is the worst it gets so I suppose it is no surprise that the pain is so bad. I suppose it is just the feeling of utter helplessness in the face of a loved one's pain and trying to remain calm and encouraging at the same time as being helpful. But I don't seem to be able to help him. He is on very strong painkillers so doubt if there is anything else that he could be given. He does not want to go back into hospital as he says he can't sleep at all in there, won't let me call a doctor. I suppose there must come a time when painkillers become less effective. I think that might be preferable to him perhaps having damaged it in some way by putting too much weight on it. He was told to try and come off the crutches and you do hope that you are doing the right thing but it is just not possible to really know.
I know, I am just sounding off - and you don't know any more than I do!! I suppose I am just tired and a bit weary with it all. It has been a very long year. If this carries on much longer I think I must just do what I feel needs doing and get some help in. Don't even know if I should post this as it seems very self indulgent. 
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Oh you poor thing and your poor DH. Maybe the fact that you had to call an out of hours doctor will really flag up the problem you are both having. There must be better ways of dealing with such awful pain these days. I really hope there is and that you can be offered more help and support urgently.
Best wishes to you both. 
How dreadful for you and your husband - I hope the doctor prescribed something strong enough to ease the pain and you're both now managing to get some sleep.
Synonymous I am so glad that you did post on here. It's a great place just to be listened to and as you can see, people do want to offer support. I'm sorry for the situation you and your husband are in and hope that there is an improvement soon.
How lovely you all are and I feel truly blessed by all the responses, thank you!
Dr came out eventually at 4 am but he was very good and gave DH an injection of morphine. He said to ring our GP which I have done and after a tussle with the receptionist the duty Dr rang and has arranged additional pain relief. Have texted friend to collect prescriptions and get them made up. Hope he can do it as I don't want to leave DH. GP wants to see DH tomorrow morning to check everything out so I hope I can get him there. I have decreed bed rest for today and so far he is complying! Don't know whether I should be pleased or worried but I am certainly amazed! 
We are back to 'latrine duty' with bottles etc which does not do much for DH's morale but it saves a lot of washing.
DH was in three different hospitals for weeks and then in wheelchair for 3 months but I couldn't push him as I have had a stroke and also ME/CFS or Fibromyalgia - they can't decide which but the effect is the same. So it is back to cabin fever for a while as we had to return the wheelchair and I couldn't manage to get him out or back indoors anyway. DH had multiple fractures and injuries so it has been very difficult but most are fairly well healed now except the ankle/leg. DH was my carer. It is very hard at the moment but at least we still have each other!
DH is still under the care of the Orthopaedics at the local hospital but they are very short staffed so the appointments don't come as they should. I do take the point ref the squeeky wheel! DH is a stoic but I tell him that is not helping really and he is actually fighting for his future - and mine!
Providentially I am expecting my 'little sis' to come for a few days which is a real blessing. Everyone in the family is so far away but they care very much and do keep in contact. They are fully committed work-wise so I doubt they will be able to come and I will not ask for that reason.
I am glad I posted as you have all helped me - albeit made me cry! But that was good too as it popped the tension. 
That's better news Synonymous.
It's no joke suffering from a continual nagging pain nor sleep depravation is it.
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