"We eat nice meals and both enjoy wine only with food, so why do I feel so guilty!!"
Cambia, maybe because at every turn we see stuff on TV and in the papers about all the things that are bad for us? Even toothpaste is supposed to be bad for us! It drives me mad. I now decide which vices I'll enjoy
Don't we all know heavy drinkers and cigarette smokers who've lived into their 80s and 80s, and young people who have led healthy lives but who've died at a young age.? There is no fairness.
IF going without wine makes you feel better, fair enough, but why feel guilty because you enjoy something? If you were drinking wine for breakfast then yes, you ought to question your consumption. Only you know if wine drinking is a problem which is affecting your lives and health. If it is you'll have to find something non-alcoholic you like to drink with food.