DH and I were in Glasgow for C2C last weekend when he said he felt strange . Couldn’t put a finger on it but had a huge headache . Felt a bit better on Sunday but later that day it was apparent something wasn’t right at all . He started slurring his words and sounded very drunk . Face slightly drooped and felt very weak . He blankly refused to seek help while away from home and so we had the arduous task of getting home and getting to hospital where he had an emergency scan and they confirmed ( as I suspected) that he has had a stroke . Awaiting consultants reports today when hopefully we will find out what has caused it and what treatment he needs ( can have) to prevent another , bigger one happening soon. Apparently there is often a “warning stroke” followed by a much bigger one .
All he is worried about is work and where he should be . What to tell customers etc. Obviously no sick pay for us and other people still to pay, which is greatly adding to his stress (which is undoubtedly what has caused this in the first place ) . To be honest I’m at a complete loss and feel like I’m in a daze. I don’t know what to do or where to turn . I do need to be at work later today though . Life’s rubbish sometimes . 
Good news Gilly 
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Try to think of the experience as a timely warning that he needs to look after his health - especially blood pressure and cholesterol level. Like me.
He should have regular checks of both.
I cannot add anything to all these wise messsages, except to say I feel for you. My DH had his first stroke 10 years ago and 3 more since. He is aphasic like your husband and has trouble with finding words and also understanding speech. A little known result of stroke is the loss of literacy. He can barely read and write but there is so much you can do now with technology and he can do speech to text to write emails and use the reverse to read replies. My advice is to take all the help that is offered, especially in terms of therapy because it is always short term. Feel free to PM if there is anything I can do to help. 
Good wishes from me too. So sorry this has happened. I'm absolutely sure you'll cope though. Cliché time again but it's always darkest before the dawn.
That doesn’t sound as I had intended! . Hope life starts to improve soon.
And, on a lighter note, how was C2c - did you get to see much? I was very envious!
And I told you gn was good for waiting rooms! 
Sounds like 'good' news, gilly. You might feel that now is the time to rethink your lives but, in the meantime, make sure you look after yourself especially. Your DH will have lots of people looking after him.
Keep talking to us.
I have read ( and re-read) all the comments while sitting in waiting rooms this morning and I can honestly say you are the kindest most loveliest people, ever . X
DH has had 3 scans ( MRI and 2 CT scans on head and neck ) no bleeds or clots detected ( consultant said small clots sometimes very hard to detect ) he is having another scan in a weeks time . His BP is very high ( which Consultant is saying coukd possibly be the underlying cause) he is also saying he is saying he is very lucky (really???) as seems to have only effected his speech (mainly slurring and struggling to find words ) and a slight droop on the R/H side . Both Much improved today from even yesterday . Consultant saying his overall fitness might have saved his life ! Also confirmed that it was a full stroke (not a mini) as numbness , speech etc. did not stabilised within 24 hours. Happy to discharge with mountains of tablets ( anti coagulation, blood pressure, statins... ) this is a man who has barely taken a paracetamol in his life !
We don’t know what to do about work yet DH can’t drive until he gets an all clear (has to go a month with no additional symptoms) which will have a massive impact on Work as he’s usually all over the country. I will have to go in once I get DH settled at home this afternoon as I Have had mountains of texts and emails from suppliers ( after money ) employees , customers etc . And honestly don’t know where to start ???? Wish I could win the lottery and I would make one phone call to my accountant right now !
Anyway upwards and onwards .
Thank you again you lovely people .
Gilly what an awful thing to happen and everyone is right that you must concentrate on your husband's health first and foremost but .... having been in a similar situation with a business albeit without the added stress of such a serious illness so close to home I know how easy it is to say close it when in reality it's not. The phone still rings and customers still want their goods by the deadline - they may be sympathetic to personal problems but at the end of the day they also have a business to run themselves. What you do in the long term is something else but for now is there someone at work who you would trust to help you with the day to day running - someone who can run the workforce and possibly help with the admin side to ease your burden - someone your husband would trust so that the stress and worry he has is eased. He has had a warning and needs to take it seriously but is likely not to unless everything is in place to ease the worry about work. Do you have family who can help with your grandchildren too - I know you do the school runs - could one of the children's friends mother's do this for you? Thinking of you both - it's so very difficult to be in business and be ill when everyone relies on you
Make sure you look after yourself in all of this too. Your strength will be needed to help his recovery.
I am so sorry to hear this gillybob and I hope your DH gets the appropriate treatment very promptly - it can make all the difference.
Is there someone at work who can hold the fort for you while you decide what to do? Or do you have a family member who could step in?
I am not sure about filing for bankruptcy - that could cause your DH more stress at the thought of it. Would you be able to sell the business as it is a going concern? A lot of work for you, perhaps, especially when your DH may need you but perhaps best not to rush into something you may regret.
You are such a great support to your family but now you will need to put your DH's and your own needs first because, contrary to what we like to think, we cannot do it all.
And accept any help that is available; contacting The Stroke Association is a very good idea.
So sorry to hear this gilly. No advice but just wishing your DH well and as others have said look after yourself .
I’m very sorry to hear this, gillybob.
I can only echo others in their recommendation of contacting the Stroke Association. Their advice and support has been invaluable to me.
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