The Black Dog Gang

That’s brilliant Annie, well done you.

anniebach just popped in here and read of your achievement. Wow, well done! Sorry for the pun, but that really is a big step. I'm delighted for you, and hope this is the beginning of the end for your dreadful agoraphobia. Cheered me up no end to read about your courage on Fred

Thank you , I assure everyone, my agoraphobia is strong, going out the front door is terrifying, last year I couldn’t even open the door to put out the milk bottles, with encouragement from GN I now do it. So realy going out on Fred today was a second step, taken well over a year .

Tomorrow I walk the length of the garden path talking to my therapist on Face time. Have manage half way ,it’s only about 8 ft, so no long haul.

Good morning all, I've had the most awful night, I woke at 1.30 this morning, dizzy, and a really fast heart beat, struggled out of bed and into a cool room, because I felt like someone had pored hot water on me too, so scary there i stayed for the next three hours trying to calm myself with deep breathing.Eventually I fell asleep about 5 am only for 45 mins but woke up feeling a lot better, heart rate down to normal, just have a headache now.Going to ring the dr, because I too scared to take any more tablets.

Katyj what a grim night. Speak to your doctor and please
let us know how you are after you have discussed it with
him/her. X

Hope you feel better soon Katyj, we're thinking of you.

And very well done Annie give yourself a little round of applause.

Thank you lovebeige

I felt good about yesterday, not so today, feel swamped.
Younger daughter here for 5 days, I love her but bless her she is so bossy. For two days she has been telling me what to eat, what to do, yesterday she said ‘sorted the bungalow, tomorrow i will cut your hair you need it shorter’. She even sorted my desk pen holder , ‘you don’t need all those pens etc.

I feel anxious this morning , she is here for two more days.
I know she loves me and wants to help me, I just wish she would ask me what help I want not what she thinks I need.

for all feeling anxious today. I am feeling the same. Without wishing to 'harp on', last year I had some quite bad nosebleeds. My GP gave me blood tests and said 'people get nose bleeds' They stopped and I hadn't had one for about a year until Saturday. I thought they had gone and I am now scared to go out in case I have one. I am sure that this problem only started when I was put on statins. I am seeing my GP this week to see what she thinks. It's a nightmare isn't it, all this?

Well done Annie! Sooo proud of you. I know it will be slow going but it is going! Can you think up some jobs for your DD that you do want doing and will keep her busy?

Hi, feeling much better today, just a bit woozy, and weak.
Phoned the Dr she agreed I should stop taking them, I'm going in to see her next week, see if there's anything else I can do.
Annie, sorry your not feeling not as positive, your daughter is only trying to help, butwon't know how you feel .My mum suffered from depression and anxiety all my life I never understood how she just couldn't get on either it, until now in my early 60s I understand only too well.Just try and enjoy the time you have, then you can carryan
on in your own time
Katy so sorry your feeling anxious, hope today is better for you .Your right this mental health stuff is a nightmare

Thank you Katy. All good wishes to you too. Such support on here.

Right....here I am, I have lurked and lurked on this thread from the beginning, have wanted to step into the room on many many occasions but then turned around.

But finally admitted to myself that after almost 5 years of grieving for my dh and making my family miserable I need some medical help.

I have just this second booked and app at 11-30 with Lady doctor.(it can take weeks and weeks to get app, so when there was one there staring me in the face, I thought it was meant to be)

I don't want! to feel like a do any longer, I don't want to go to the docs but.......!
So here goes

Good thoughts to everyone struggling.

KatyK I think that possibly if I get any medication that mine will also be sat in the cupboard! (I don't even want to take any let alone read any of the side effects)

Well done bikergran on making your appointment. I know what you mean about making your family miserable, although I'm sure they don't see it that way. My anxiety isn't through grief, just life events. I am sorry about your DH. My DH is the kindest, most understanding man. We will be married 50 years this year
The other day he said to me 'you are spoiling our retirement' so I have to get this sorted. Good luck to you

Biker hello x

Be back with you all later when younger daughter visits her
Paternal grandmother x

Annie well done on going out on Fred. You are doing brilliantly (small steps is the way).
Enjoy your time with your youngest daughter, her bossiness is taking care of you and loving you (and I know you know that - it just feels a lot when used to being on your own).
Take care xx

Thanks Katey and Annie

Popped back to tell you all, council putting new doors and windows in bungalows, they started this morning on bungalows opposite, sent younger daughter a text, ‘ they have started on windows across the road’ back came text
‘On my way I will sort it’ ?

Hi everyone
Going through an anxious old time myself. Difficult life events which translates into anxiety for me. I find distraction the best, excercise, sudoku, listening to music, talking to my few friends, but they don't get it because if you have never had anxiety you will never understand it.
Take care everyone. Dawn

It’s so hard to understand if you have never had it.. I am so anxious, it taking over my life I am scared all day every day, it just never stopes.. does anyone else have it like this? Wish there was some way out of this horrible black hole. I try so hard to keep going.

Yes Joce I've been like that for the last year or so. My GP asked what I was afraid of. I said 'everything'. He had no answer. I'm hoping things will improve. I hope they do for you too.

Hi all
It is a very isolating illness. At least we know we can turn here for understanding. I listen to alot of podcasts because they take you out of your own head. Google Dessert Island discs and a huge amount of interesting mini documentaries will come up for you to listen to. The more we can help ourselves the better we can be but not easy. Any other good suggestions for podcasts to listen to? I promise they do help. Best to all especially Joce who is having a difficult time of it particularly.
Dawn.

I agree Dawn I listen to that Desert Island Discs site too.

Thank you all, Katyk how do you cope with it, i find it so hard just don’t know what to do. Dawn I will have a look at Desert Island Discs. If any one has any advice I will try anything thanks again all.

So much different advice on dealing with anxiety and depression. Exercise, mindfulness, distraction, medication, counselling, Hypnosis, herbal remedies, Complementary therapies - homeopathy, reiki, faith healing, Indian head massage etc.

Some sufferers find Claire Weeks still the best read even after all these years.

We can only search and decide . We are here for each other which means a lot x