At a very helpful session this morning my therapist asked me that question.
A lifetime of being somebody’s daughter, wife, mother, grandmother and ultimately also carer for my darling Paw, I found it a hard question to answer.
Yes of course the DDs love and care for me, but they have husbands, careers, children and do not live nearby.
I have good friends, but they also have families, possibly husbands, children and grandchildren as before.
So ultimately I suppose I have to admit that I care for myself, but it is a big change after always being there for somebody else. It takes getting used to to be able to put myself first (when did you last do that?)
So while I am blessed that there are people I can rely on but it is a sea change for there no longer to be that one person to whom I come first.
Accepting that will be the first step building a new life while not losing all that enriched the “old” one.
July 23 Limerick (continuation of July 21)