OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Oh Lucky this just gets worse and worse. It has become a total nightmare for you and you seem to be just going round in circles. I can't believe they can treat people the way they are treating you and your DH.

Heavens above, you even know the system and yet you are being browbeaten - telling them that what they are proposing is illegal is just falling on deaf ears . What on earth happens to those who have no idea, and don't know how to fight their corner?

Can you possibly ask for an extension of his stay in the ward he is currently in? He seems to be being pushed from pillar to post with such speed, no wonder the poor man is in such a state, he's not being given a chance to relax and gather his thoughts.

I hope you are getting some support Lucky - you must take care of yourself, make sure you eat, rest and keep your strength up.

Oh Lucky I am in despair for you and your poor Husband , I hope they can keep him in the ward till they get something organised .
I hated it when they "had" to speak in front of Jim , if they could even include him in the conversation , but when it distresses him so much surely they can take you to an office to thrash stuff out

I am afraid I fell apart completely this evening and had to be picked up by my DDs - what do people do who are not privileged to have such wonderful young people nearby? I so feel for them. They are going to do the visiting tomorrow and I will look after my lovely wee GS for an hour or so while one of them visits - he is such a tonic and I am sure that will help me.

I wish that I had some words of wisdom to offer, I'm not surprised that you 'fell apart' this evening, I wish you a quiet night and a better tomorrow

So good that you have your DDs to help you Luckygirl. Try and switch off from it all tomorrow and enjoy your time with your GS.

Thinking of you as i settle down for the night, lucky, I’m glad you’ve got a supportive family around you. Enjoy that wee boy and let him lift yiur spirits for an hour or so in the knowledge others are looking our for your dh. I hope tomorrow’s an easier day all round

Lucky I am so sad that after all your efforts you are still in this horribly frustrating situation. I really feel for you as your situation echoes so many of my own experiences; it is completely emotionally exhausting.

I have no wish to complicate things or add to your burdens, but when I get to the stage you're now at I contact my MP's surgery (or occasionally a local District Councillor). Faced with situations like the one you're in now MP's tend to be appalled and do usually take action. Also, just saying to decision makers that you have contacted your MP often 'clarifies' otherwise intractable issues. Maybe give it a try if you can summon up the will?

Lucky

As others I was appalled at the Social Worker, no advice from me as others know no much more, just sending love to you all and a hope that good sense and care prevail.

I second grannya’s suggestion of contacting your MP. It has worked in my family when faced with an unacceptably long wait for surgery (over 2 years - this was before the ruling that no wait for surgery must be longer than 1 year). A letter to our MP with a copy to the hospital miraculously produced a prompt appointment.

But today, Lucky, please just try to enjoy your grandson, and your time away from the situation xx

Morning lucky. Try to enjoy your grandson today and revisit this problem refreshed......or exhausted in a different way.

Lucky,am so sorry for the awful way you and your husband are being treated and glad that you have the support of your daughters.Try and enjoy the respite today while they visit and have a lovely time with your little grandson.
I have had success in a situation when I contacted my MP,amazing how quickly action was taken.
Thinking of you?

Lucky (((hugs)))

Oh goodness Lucky, I have only just caught up with the goings on that you have had to endure.
I am so sorry for how you and MrL have been treated.
Sorry that I cannot add any help, but do hope that with the help of people 'in the know' , you may get the results that you want and need.
Best wishes for today and gentle {{{hugs}}}

Lucky what can I say, so sorry for what you are going through sounds so inadequate. You were so helpful to me with advice on here over a year ago when I was going through similar with my mother (and still am) It is sheer hell, and financial considerations have over ridden any sort of humanity or care from so called professionals, as I have found to my immense cost. The only way to cope is time out, as you are doing. I hope things improve for your OH, and suitable care will be agreed. It is terrible to have to fight for our loved ones like this.

Oh Luckygirl. I can't say more than the others have.

same here, and no square brackets to send flowers and cake, and gin and tonic -so hugs xxx

Once, in much less serious situation, I found out the names of all the governors of the hospital's Trust and emailed them separately. It did help that I knew some of them. Your best course is the PD consultant who knows your husband well.

Luckygilr, hoping you feel restored somewhat by the time spent with your little GS today. Better news from the hospital too I hope.

Luckygirl I am another who resorted to writing to her MP when I faced a wall of bureaucracy, a paper-chase, constant delays and being shoved from pillar to post and no progress being made in a dire situation. Within a day of my MP's letter arriving on the CEO's desk, a bed was found for me.

I am sure if your MP saw some of your posts here which outline the terrible service and lack of care your OH has received, s/he would be horrified.

I hope you are able to switch off for a while and relax.

Morning lucky, I hope you are fresher after a day 'off'.

What a dreadful state of affairs Luckygirl. I do hope you’ll be able to find a way through all of this that has your husband’s best interest at heart.

No practical advice Luckygirl but I have been holding you and your DH and family in my thoughts, and your whole situation is just shocking and frightening and I am beyond words! for all of you, and hugs. xx

Hope you enjoyed lots of hugs and fun with your GS yesterday. Just the thing to restore you. Take good care of yourself. x

You may know about this already, Luckygirl but there was a feature on the tv news the other evening about people with PD and other medical problems not having to pay council tax or being eligible for paying at a reduced rate if there is another person living there. I'm not sure if this would apply to you, but if so and you have not applied, this could help towards the expense of paying for home care.

^Reduction scheme for disabled people
If there is someone (adult or child) living in a household who is substantially and permanently disabled the council tax bill for the property may be reduced. The reduction is made by charging council tax on a lower valuation band than the one the property is in. For example, if the property is in band D, the council tax bill will be worked out as if it were in band C. This reduction also applies to dwellings in band A. The reduction will be the same proportion of the council tax bill as the properties in the higher bands.
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/housing/council-tax/council-tax/

The tv report did make it sound as if no council tax needed to be paid and that this is not widely known or publicised.