OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Thank goodness this lark has its lighter moments. We are due to have a commode delivered today at a time when I have to be somewhere else; the company said I could not ask for it to be delivered to a neighbour as the driver has to demonstrate how to use it!!!

Hope today is a good one for you Lucky

Just sending kind thoughts at the start of a new day

Good morning Lucky, hope you're feeling better about things now he's coming home.

Morning lucky, hope you got some sleep.

I know you are an ex S/W Lucky and thankfully know the system. Trouble is they are under financial pressure and do try it on sometimes, not great when families are in vulnerable circumstances.

I am well and truly on to it when it comes to the Continuing Health Care funding from the NHS and will refuse to engage with Social Services (for whose care you are means tested) until the full health needs process has been gone through and a decision made as to whether he qualifies. That is the law!! I went through all this with my Dad.

SS doh!

Paid for by ST in our experience too. They also provided any mobility aids they deemed necessary (incontinence "nappies" too although we preferred a type I could buy online as being easier to adjust)
I hope your family can make the time to give you a break - even if only to have 40 winks !
Good luck

Isn't it wonderful that we can rely on so many posters who are familiar with procedures and practicalities? You lovely grans are a mine of ideas and information when times are troubled.

I cannot offer advice on the nuts and bolts of home care but I am so glad your lovely man is coming home Lucky. It will be easier for all of you and as you say, you know his ways and what he most needs. He has told you being with you has made him happy. This will be a special time for you both

I hope you'll be able to relax a bit more and have fewer worries, even though this remains a very difficult time for you.

Can only agree with others, it sounds as if you’ll both be happier once your husband is safely home. Love to you all.

Luckygirl your OH should be eligible for NHS Continuing Care Funding. I hope his discharge goes well and he will soon be settled in his own surroundings.

Thinking of you Lucky and hoping that you can get DH home where he is comfortable.

That sounds like a good solution Lucky. In my experience the carers are paid for by Social Services at least for the first 6 weeks.
I am sure both you and he will feel happier when he is home and it sounds like you are getting support.

Lucky I am sure he will be so much more content in his own surroundings and getting food that he likes and when he wants it.

Hopefully there will be continuity of care and he will not see strange faces each visit.

You still have to look after yourself, with us lot nagging you to do it.

And your caring for him in this way is why he would do it all again, lucky.

Don't forget we are here for you!

Thank you.

I have been bombarded with all sort of calls today. It seems the plan is that he will come home with 2 carers 4 times a day - I could not get an answer as to who will provide this or who would pay (but as an ex-SW I think I have that in hand); but I did get an answer as to what might happen if he needed his bowels open between carer visits and was told "He will just have to wait." Hmmmmm.

He is mostly in bed as he cannot hold himself up in a chair - but we have a riser/recliner that I bought him so hopefully we can make him comfortable on that. I just want him home here where we know his likes/dislikes and little foibles - he was less paranoid today which was a huge relief - but very uncomfortable. He just wants to be in bed - and if that is what he wants, then that is what he shall have.

The district nurses will come in and people will help me to pop put now and again as I know I will need a break sometimes.

Consultant does not know how long this will all last, but he wants to be here, so we will make it happen.

Luckygirl I can only echo what others have said. What a lovely man your DH is. So wonderful that he enjoyed your life together so much that he could do it all again.
I wish you strength in the days to come.

What a lovely thing for your DH to have said Luckygirl - something to hold in your heart for ever

Luckygirl I have just read your post and it brings me to tears. I also brought my DH home for palliative care. MacMillan, Marie Curie, our local hospice at home and the community nurses supported us.
Sending the biggest hug and

Yes, so am I (flowers) and hugs.

Thinking of you, Luckygirl.

What a lovely man Mr Lucky sounds and what a loving thing to say.
As Tuppence said its time to talk to the Palliative Care Team, my friend recently was given help with her husband by such a team and cannot speak highly enough of their care and compassion.

Lucky I am so moved by your very articulate post.Please make a formal complaint as I did when my husband's care was abysmal.A full investigation took place and an apology was received.Unless enough people complain about poor treatment nothing will change.I kept a diary of poor practice and had correct dates and times which helps.Hope things improve for your H and that you gat enough support.

Lucky you will always remember that wish xx