OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Great news lucky if your local hospice is anything like the ones I’ve been involved with then he will have gold star care. Enjoy every moment of the break!

xxx great news

Fabulous news- a shock to both of your systems but it did not give him time to breathe and therefore fret about what was about to happen.

Have this evening "off" and enjoy a good night's sleep.

Enjoy your break! I do hope your other half enjoys his too!

Wonderful news. Now you can begin to relax and get a better perspective on life. I hope your DH can stay there as long as you need.

Try not to worry about your OH. He's being well taken care of and now it's your turn for some TLC. Sleep and get your own health problems sorted. Enjoy your evening with friends. xx

Oh good news Lucky! I hope you'll be able to switch off now for a while and enjoy some time without caring duties. Your OH will get the very best care. I imagine you'll have a few conflicting thoughts but you need the rest and a bit of time to do nothing much but take care of yourself.

Luckygirl you will worry about your husband but it's only natural. Please remember that we need to look after ourselves as well if we want be of any help to others.

Good news luckygirl. Now rest.?

Two DDs have been in and have let me know he is fine. Good news.

More for you Luckygirl xx

Lucky, so glad to hear the news that your DH has been found a Hospice place. You do so need the respite that this will give you. Try and slow down and concentrate on getting yourself better.

Welcome respite for you, Luckygirl. Your DH will respond to their care and you will hopefully see a positive change in his mood.

I can't praise hospice care highly enough.

Hope you had a good rest, lucky.

I'm a bit late catching up with the hospice news Lucky. So pleased to read this, such a welcome relief for you and so good to know that he has a lovely room and is settled there. I do hope you feel rested today.

Now it's time to concentrate on yourself and get your knee better, knowing your DH is in good hands ?

I know they are looking after him well at the hospice - they are certainly kind, the food is excellent and he is enjoying that, and someone is there instantly when he needs help. He has a lovely room - big with a large private wet room adjoining,

But he would still rather be at home - and I feel guilty about that. Don't know how to make that go away and I have visited every day. I feel as though it would make sense to stay at home tomorrow and just have a lie-in and a rest day - which is what I have wanted and needed for some time. It does feel hard on him though.

I will be there Sunday as we are all going over for Father's Day.

And I can speak to him on the hospice phone. But he just says he is missing me; and also, to his credit, that there is no need to go in every day. Poor chap - life has dealt him a rotten hand.

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Yes, lucky it has but you know exhausting yourself won’t make it any better for your husband. Hard though it is. I feel bad for writing that, I don’t want to upset you. Guilt is a human but often un helpful emotion when it can’t change a situation or move us forward. Your husband is being wonderfully cared for, it’s only reasonable that you care for yourself too. He knows that, is being honest when he says he misses you, how much harder if he didn’t, but also honest when he says stay home, somewhere he knows you need to. Stay home tomorrow, rest, recuperate and then visit on Sunday with your family and a rested self. Respite is for you both, please take your share of it.

Try not to feel guilty, Luckygirl. Your OH is in good hands and is probably missing home because their wonderful care means he is more relaxed and able to think which means he is bound to miss you.

Have your day off tomorrow. You deserve it and then you will all have Sunday to look forward to.

Luckygirl you've needed this for a long time, now just enjoy the freedom to do absolutely whatever you please tomorrow. Call him and chat, then do something for yourself. That's not being selfish, it's recuperation and it's vital for your own wellbeing. xx

lucky, corner, merlot and ginny have made very valid points. You can't look after your dh if you are not on top form yourself.

Just woken up at 9.20!!! - lazy lie-a-bed.

I have set myself the goal of dead-heading the roses between showers. And various tidying jobs that have been left for some time.

I will talk to OH on the phone to day and see how he is. He is very impressed with the food there - I only hope he does not expect a similar standard when he gets home as I am not the best of cooks!

Lovely to hear you've had a lie in. I bet you're feeling all the better of a good night's sleep. Have a lazy day. Spoil yourself. You really do deserve it no matter what that little nagging voice of guilt says. You've done your absolute best.
I thought Merlotgran was spot on saying that now he's rested and looked after he's able to see that you need a rest too. Enjoy today. Just bask!

Thank you all.

I have two lunch dates in the diary for Monday and Tuesday, and I will go to book group tomorrow evening - all things I have not been able to do and it feels good to have the freedom to do this.

Have a lovely day, enjoy your time, and it sounds a bit naf but live in the moment. Guilt doesn't go away, we have a lifetime of practising it, but it does ease. I try and think of myself in the third person when I'm feeling guilty, and what would I say if it was a friend who was in a similar situation. It's sunny here just now, good for deadheading .