OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Luckygirl a really sad and stressful time for you. You need rest or you will become ill, as has been said hopefully your DD's can visit. Good luck for DH's op. ?

sorry - hope that all his needs will be met

I'm sorry to hear about this Luckygirl and that all his needs will be met, as the staff obviously are aware and want to do the right thing for him.
Your DD sound as if they are trying to give you some tlc too - even a functioning adult needs some love and care themselves sometimes too, so take the opportunity to rest when you can.

Oh Luckygirl, so sorry to hear this. Hope he gets better .... from what you've he is terribly frail. I don't know what PD is, but things must be so difficult for you both

from me Luckygirl, and hope things improve for you, and you are able to find a moment of calm.

Sorry for hearing this Lucky sending a virtual hug I hope your husband can get well as soon as possible

Sending kind thoughts

Aw no, how awful for you.
I hope you can lie down and maybe the DDs can take turns to go to the hospital and deal with some of the complications.

So sorry it is all so stressful for you all. Do try and find some peaceful time for yourself and I hope things improve as soon as possible. Thinking of you and sending hugs ?

So sorry to hear this. Sounds like a caring hospital. Perhaps your DD can visit while you get some rest, or have a day to yourself? Best wishes

I hope things work out for your DH.

I was just going to say the same thing. Just say you need a lie down to catch up on your rest. Take some and some music and gather yourself.

You know we are here if you need us! At least in spirit!!

So sorry to hear this Luckygirl. Hope all goes well with the op and your DH's recovery.

Sounds like you are on top of everything for your DH so now dong forget to look after yourself

Thanks jura - thank goodness he had his Swiss trip last year.

I have PM’d you

So hard for you all lucky - with you in thougths and spirit - love.

Everyone who was with us in the hospital yesterday was kind and helpful; and they agreed he did need an air mattress like the one he has at home - they rang round everywhere and did their absolute best, but there was not one to be had. He is now on a "50/50" mattress which they hope will serve the same function. They do seem to be taking this seriously.

I have been in action this morning. I have spoken to the PD nurse and consultant who have been up on the ward to help them sort out his very complicated drugs regime. I have also spoken to the ward leader who is absolutely on it with the need for him to have his Parks meds when he needs them rather than when they are doing a drug round.

I also spoke with the hospice consultant who had filled in his request not to have cardio-pulmonary resuscitation and she has said I must take this to the hospital and not re-discuss it with him as she thinks he is too frail to survive such an action anyway.

And my DDs are all here - but if I was to be strictly honest I am finding that quite stressful as they are all desperate to help when I really feel I need a few moment's quiet to take this all in and gather some strength - I did not get to bed till 3 am. They seem to have forgotten that I am still a functioning adult and can make a sandwich and get myself a chair for the garden! But I do appreciate their love and kindness of course. They just want to help, when there is little they can do - we just have to accept the situation and try and do our best to support him.

It is likely to be a long haul if he does bounce back from surgery and I am guessing there will be a period of rehab in a cottage hospital, after which I will finally need to think about a package of care at home.

Thank you for your good wishes.

So sorry to hear this lucky, you needed this setback like a hole in the head. I’m sure you’ll push as much as is possible to ensure all his needs are properly met. I hope they take notice of all that you’re saying sooner rather later.

Re 12 hours on a trolly, that will have "breached" targets but it is different for unstable bone stuff. The trollies can be used in x-ray etc without having to move unstable fractures on/off x ray boards. There are various reasons why trollies can be the best clinical decision, without which 12 hours is a HUGE breach which will have been flagged.

Someone should have explained the reasonings for the choices of bed/trolly/mattresses to you. Hope you get some answers

Sureley an air mattress would be inappropriate for an unstable fracture that needs surgery? Once it is stabalised, yes, but it sounds like it isnt at this point?

So sorry to hear this Lucky

I am so sorry to hear this,
From my experience the hospital will provide an electric air mattress which monitors the amount the patient needs to have it inflated.
Won’t do any harm to remind them though.
These days bed sores and sepsis are the magic words which usually generate immediate action.

So sorry to hear about your Other Half Lucky. I hope you are able to access all the help you need and he comes through the op safely. Lots of positive thoughts and good wishes coming your way.