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Just had some bad news re DiL

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Craftycat Thu 04-Apr-19 10:23:09

It's knocked me for 6 TBH & it is easier to talk to people who do not know family at the moment.
My DiL has been diagnosed with cancer of the womb- we think- that area anyway. It is all a bit new at the moment. she will know more after Monday eve when they see specialist again with all the test results.
She is 42 with 3 children-4, 7 & 10. She has been feeling ill for a while now but tests have shown this to be the cause.
They only live 30 mins away so I can get to them to help- the children ate coming to stay on Sunday night so they can go to hospital on Monday morning without them knowing- they often stay over here so will not think it odd.
She lost her own Mum to cancer 3 years ago so I am only Grandma now.
I love my DiL- she is such a kind person & this has knocked us for 6. I know I have to stay strong for my son & his family & I can do that but I just need to know how many know of someone who has been through this & is OK now. Just for my own sake to know it is beatable.

EllanVannin Sun 07-Apr-19 19:46:32

That's positive news Craftycat and I'm sure all will go well x

Doodle Sun 07-Apr-19 19:41:52

Good news craftycat hope all goes well for your DIL

merlotgran Sun 07-Apr-19 17:59:14

Good news, Craftycat and if it's a hysterectomy she'll have the summer to recover.

Kittye Sun 07-Apr-19 17:42:35

That’s good news , a huge relief to you all. Wish your DIL well x

luluaugust Sun 07-Apr-19 16:58:41

Just seen your post and so glad things look a bit better than you originally thought. I have a friend who had womb cancer about 15 years ago and is fine and running round after her DGC flowers

Annapops Sun 07-Apr-19 10:17:35

Such a relief for you all. Here's to a speedy recovery.

Luckygirl Sun 07-Apr-19 09:55:46

Oh that is good news - I am so pleased.

Bellanonna Sun 07-Apr-19 09:51:08

I’ve just read your later post. That’s brilliant news!

Bellanonna Sun 07-Apr-19 09:46:53

Crafty my mother had uterine cancer when I was still at school. She had a hysterectomy and went on to live healthily until she was 95. Her operation was in the late 1950s. I’m sorry you have this awful worry but let’s hope everything will turn out well.

crazyH Sun 07-Apr-19 09:18:04

Good news craftycat xx

DanniRae Sun 07-Apr-19 09:10:54

So pleased to hear the good news about your daughter-in-law flowers. My love and best wishes to you all x

Wobbles Sun 07-Apr-19 07:08:08

Wonderful news flowers

Bathsheba Sat 06-Apr-19 20:57:01

Oh that is good news Craftycat - I am so happy for you all xx

Anniebach Sat 06-Apr-19 19:27:08

Good news x

Auntieflo Sat 06-Apr-19 17:51:53

Craftycat, That is such good news for you all.

Lazigirl Sat 06-Apr-19 17:08:03

What a relief after such a worry craftycat. Enjoy weekend with GCs now.

Craftycat Sat 06-Apr-19 16:58:54

Had some good news yesterday. CT scan showed nothing more so it looks quite straightforward now. They are booking her in for May rather than immediately now & fairly confident it is going to be straightforward.
Seeing specialist on Tuesday to get final details. We are all feeling a lot better.

Luckygirl Fri 05-Apr-19 11:59:43

This is indeed a difficult time for you all. I hope that the right treatments will be speedily available to get her through all this. Stay strong for the DGC - but look after yourself too. People keep saying that to me - but I know how hard it is to do. flowers

leyla Fri 05-Apr-19 11:51:27

Hopefully she will be able to have a hysterectomy and that will be the end of it. Stay strong. She is lucky to have a nice supportive MIL.

GillT57 Fri 05-Apr-19 11:45:53

I am so sorry to hear your news, so difficult to keep a brave face on for the sake of the grandchildren. Please feel free to vent your worries and fears on here, there are many who will be able to offer hope, optimism, experience and simple support. That is what GN is good at.

Craftycat Fri 05-Apr-19 11:30:35

Thank you all for your kind words of support.
We will know more after Monday- I just hope it does not take too long to get her treated. I think if she knows something is happening she will feel better.
It may sound weak but I am going to have a good private day at home today to have a good cry before I have to put on an act for the DGC when they come to stay on Sunday/Monday.
The 7 year old - a girl- is very suspicious so we have to be very careful not to say too much. Because they lost their other GM to cancer 3 years ago & my 10 year old DGS lost a school friend to it just last week we don't want them to know what it is as they associate it with death not recovery.
We will get through this I am sure- I daren't believe anything else TBH.
Thank you all again- it has really has helped to hear so many who have survived. You have to stay positive.

Mythbirtthedragon Fri 05-Apr-19 08:43:55

My friend's daughter was diagnosed with cervical cancer about 4 years ago in her mid 30s when her son was just a toddler. My friend was absolutely shattered and distraught but did her weeping in private with friends as she was determined to stay strong for her DD who required a full hysterectomy and a long period of recovery. Her DD is now taking a degree in nursing.
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2013, 2 things re my reaction. I wanted the 'thing' sorted asap and got frustrated with the tests etc.; I found the help of friends who'd been through it very useful and also wise words from Macmillan counsellor. I also wanted to be normal and not regarded as someone who was sick /needed support/etc but that depends entirely on the individual. Best wishes to your DiL.

BradfordLass72 Fri 05-Apr-19 07:07:44

My Mum was diagnosed with it but lived for over 40 years after her surgery, even surviving a breast cancer op a few years later.

I hope you'll feel strong enough to come back and tell us what the prognosis is Craftycat because we're all thinking about you and sending strength and love to you and your dil.

Grammaretto Fri 05-Apr-19 06:35:39

Sorry to hear this news. Sending hugs and hopes for a complete recovery.
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PageTurner Fri 05-Apr-19 03:30:54

Craftycat
I am so sorry that your DIL has received such bad news. Hopefully, the cancer has not spread and cancer treatment will be successful. She is lucky that she will have support from you and others to help her manage caring for her and her family.
Hugs to all ?