Black dog gang

Elliepops your post wasn’t all about you, you shared and you have given encouragement. Sorry you suffered the Valium cure ! I feel so strongly about it, so many lives were screwed up .

When my daughter died 15 months ago my son in law was in deep shock, he was prescribed 5 x 2mg , no more. When my husband died 43 years ago I was prescribed 4 x 10mg daily with repeat prescription !

So good to hear you are feeling ok x

Maggie we can’t be with you physically but we are with you in thoughts and caring x

Yes it was thankfully and believe me when I say I thank god every day.. I know looky I have been.. when they told me I had cancer I was the only one of my family that didn’t fall to bits o again I ask why? I am like I am.. yes Maggie it does stop people from living the live we have been given..

My brothers daughter in law has just been told she as stag 4 brain cancer.. she is 33 years old.. and I am hear complaining about something that’s in my head where can that be right and I am 64. Life is so cruel .. sorry all I feel such a pathetic person at the min..

Joce you are NOT pathetic, if you were I would be too , and I am not x

Sad news for your family, I am sorry x

Aww Annie I am sorry no one needed to hear that.. I should not have put that on hear ... as for being pathetic no we are not. It just doesn’t compare does it.

Joce you should have said it because it was how you felt, and I said you are not, it was how I felt snd what I thought. X .
Have a sunflower ?

Thank you Annie you always understand. I am feeling a little better now.. ?

Joce , I have been making plans ?. Glad you feel better , you had a shock about someone in your family being diagnosed. May I ask if you have sought help ?

What plans have you been making Annie, would you like to share them sounds exciting.

Joce, I'm so sorry about your family news. Please try not to think of yourself as being pathetic; you are struggling and very brave to be so honest about how you're feeling. I've been beating myself up too today, fretting over my stupid health worries. But they are real to me and I so want to move on from this and get strong so I can live my life fully and be more present for those around me. Annie, am glad to hear you're making plans.

Not exciting Joce, not climbing Pen y fan , yet !

I spoke of seeing the peace garden on the local news site and can’t visit it because the bridge is between here and town. So
I am making my own peace garden , means I will have to spend a lot of time in the garden which will help the agoraphobia, and , wait for it , drum roll ?
When I move to the first bungalow it was a row of 16 bungalows, so ugly, iron walking bars by some , sheds at the front , so I fill the front of my bungalow with shrubs, flowers, hanging baskets and my darling daughter bought me a garden bench, the council give awards every year, best garden, best flower stand, and one for the front of sheltered accommodation Cul de sacs in the town, and one year I won, someone put my name foward.

So next year I am going to enter myself for ‘best garden’, lot of work though , but I firmly believe gardening helps with mental health.

Have ordered wind chimes, crystals, my son in law who isn’t will make me some raised beds.

No doubt I will be complaining that my arthritic hands are hurting , but staying out there is sure to help recovery from the phobia, yes ?

If anyone wants to share their health worries, we will all listen and understand , I am to fearful to walk to the end of my garden path, all 7 ft of it , I can forget it when I am indoors all day, health worries are different, not easy to escape from x

Yes I agree with you Annie gardening is so good for anxiety. We enjoy our garden very much,just trying to make it a bit more low mantinace. We have a big pond that keeps my husband busy more so this time of year. And last year he got me a hot tub hehe, just put it back up not been interested at all up to now but grandchildren love it.. where I live is getting bad like a lot more places I suppose, but when I am in and my gate is locked I love being in our garden. We had 2 black birds one followed my hubby round the garden, we also have a hark and yes it got our little black bird 2days ago. It’s a beautiful bird to see..

Will you go in your hot tub Joce ?

Well not sure yet Annie may be, I do love the water I find water therapeutic, be it the bath, sea, pool, I think that’s why he got it. My garden is very private.

Joce I hope you do x

Oh Annie, I wish I lived near to you. I'd love to get you down your garden path, even if I had to carry you. xxx

Thank you sharon x

Good morning friends, how are things

I am so fearful this morning, I talked the talk yesterday, today I have to walk the walk , right into the garden, will have to do it, will be clutching a bottle of Rescue Remedy, I realy am very scared

You can do it Annie we are all with you..

Well I have to be honest...If someone said you can either get rid of depression/anxiety or my Medical condition, I would take getting rid of the medical condition any day. I wonder how many people with both think like that? Clearly I would like to get rid of it all...but I think medical conditions make the mental ones worse, because of the worry involved.

Morning all. Annie waiting for you to say you have walked the walk! You are so encouraging to all of us here so sending a bit of encouragement back to you.

Hi everyone. Haven't been up to coming on here for a couple of days, having a real dip.

Health worries? Yes, but not about anything in particular. I just feel there must be a medical reason why I feel so bad and cannot sleep without pills. Only take them every other day as they can be addictive so I have one day when I just about cope and the other when I don't. Every time I think of something which could cause it I look it up and don't have all the symptoms so know it is not the reason.

So sorry for you who suffer most on bank holidays, not long till the next one.

I wouldn't say I 'enjoy' gardening exactly but do find it satisfying although I do tire very easily these days. I like sitting outside when its warm and the planning stage though.

Must be really hard to have conquered cancer and be constantly worried that it will return. Also very hard when someone you love is diagnosed with it. Both my parents died of cancer but they both smoked so I don't feel it is hereditary.

Also anyone living with a debilitating illness must be more prone to depression.

So happy to hear that one (sorry can't remember who) found a medical reason and has recovered. Wish we could all do that. Hopefully research will find something eventually. I hate taking pills of any sort but whenever I've tried to come off I have been unsuccessful.

What I find hard is the lack of a solution because I am one who always works to solve other people's problems. Yes, I feel very alone too and know you all understand.

Big virtual hugs all round.

Nonnie are your tablets sleeping pills or anti depressants?

Both Annie

*nonnie, sorry, I don’t understand what you mean by ‘a medical reason’, do you mean physical?