Black dog gang

Yes Joce I named her after a Welsh heroine, when she was about 5 she gave me a very stern look and said ‘ why did you name me after a duck ?’ ? I explained and she was so proud, her form teacher told me she had said in school ‘my name is the same as the lady who saved Wales.

Hehehe aww Annie they are so funny, out of the mouths of baby’s . I will think of her when I am in one of my sacred moment that will make me smile. How is you leg today Annie.. hope you have a good day..

Hope every one has a good happy Saturday ..

nanny I believe that, unlike low BP, there are no signs of high BP. Please rely on your doc for testing and do as they say.

joce someone had done some really sensible talking to her.

Hoping to go to Coventry Cathedral tomorrow where the Compassionate Friends are holding their annual service for bereaved parents. Only been in email contact with them so it will be hard but DH, DS and DiL will be there too.

I watched the Nadyia programme last night and, although I had sympathy for her I couldn't really relate, it didn't all ring true to me. Fine if you can just afford CBT but most us have to wait months and in some areas it is not available. I doubt any of us would get someone even half as qualified as her professor.

They didn't develop why taking the meds for only 2 weeks was a bad idea. They didn't explain why some people are anxious without it having a cause and sometimes without even knowing what they are anxious about.

I would have thought she had overcome performing in public by not wearing her glasses, that would have been a huge leap forward for many of us. With all her fame she must have travelled to London several times.

A few days ago on the radio a professor was talking about the inflation of mental illness and saying that we need to pay more attention to what is simply normal and not label everything as being a MH issue. When they interviewed the boy who had been off to the special room he said he could go there when finding work too hard. Imo, being a teenager is difficult for all and is how we learn how to manage our feelings and cope with the wider world. If every small difficulty is labelled as 'anxiety' or 'stress' how will they cope with the wider world? Work will be difficult and you won't be able to simply say 'I'm anxious and can't do it' I'm not denying that there are stresses and that some genuinely do have MH issues, I just think we should not label all parts of growing up as such. I don't think that helps young people learn to cope.

Hi ninnie some interesting points,

I cannot believe a CBT therapist with the NHS would accompany us on a hour train journey ?

Medication can take longer than two weeks to kick and if they did in a few days, taking them for only two weeks wouldn’t be of any use ?

I am undecided about youngsters , if they had sat the 11+ they would know stress . But so much pressure now which we didn’t have. The internet , drugs, alcohol.

I supported two daughters through GCSE and O levels, three grandchildren through the the same and University, they were stressed but not mentally ill.

When my elder daughter became very ill her two daughters were in the High School, they came to me in a panic, ‘ don’t let the school tell us to go to ‘the nurture room’, tell them we have you, is this what’s missing from some young people’s lives ?

Exactly Annie Do tell me that wasn't a Freudian slip with my name? I've been called lots of things .........................

NOnnie I am so sorry x

Hi Everyone, I've just noticed this thread - mostly because of it's length! Am I right in thinking it's a sort of mutual support thread for those living with depression? (I wanted to know before I comment and make a total fool of myself, due to misunderstanding. That does happen fairly regularly.

Hello OurKid. Welcome . Yes we support each other , depression, anxiety , phobias. Good days , bad days, we share and we all understand x

Annie

OurKid yes, its a supportive thread and we don't like people who don't share that ethos!! You can come on here and say as much or as little as you like, suggest a way to help, or not. I think the only 'rule' is 'be nice'!

Welcome

Thanks Nonnie and "Anniebach*. I can do nice, I think. I'll try anyway.

I've had acute depression and anxiety in the past and have been on anti-depressants for years which mostly keep it at bay - thankfully. I'm a bit 'flat' at the moment, but that's ok as I think (hope) that will pass. I'm thinking that it's a reaction to MrOurKid and I having recently retired and I'm thinking "Is this going to be the rest of our lives." I'm hoping that as we settle into it, things will look up.

So, I guess I'm ok ... really. Just wanted to check in and maybe share my experiences to help anyone who needs it or just to read others experiences to help with my own.

Is that sort of what you both meant? x

OurKid interesting you have found medication to be of help, I know other posters here will be interested too.

Retirement is a life changing event , it takes time to adjust, were you both working ?

sadly medication isnt helping me right now...Yes nonnie you are correct no symptoms except for a face that lights up like a flare and burns red hot!! i thought it was the menopause .... but as i do not care about myself right now i am struggling to give a fig....sorry guys yet another tearful day.

nanny no apologies x

Sorry you are still struggling, if I may ask? Have you seen your HP recently, perhaps a change in medication? You are still grieving nanny , did you go for a walk today?

May I join, too? Currently well, but been treated for depression for the last 44 years. Very sobering when you write it down...

Hello folks especially newbies. If anybody wants to " compare notes" I would welcome your messages, many thanks!

you know what annie i am at the drs for MOT results on thursday i might talk to him then. i go all day some days thinking im doing well. then all of a sudden i,m not. It always seems to be times when there is no help..weekends or evenings. I did go for a walk today..but also a frame for my fur baby arrived today and i put his pic in it..and the last few days i,ve had to move things that were his stupid things like air fresheners i bought cos he stank... or toys its very sobering

hello moggiek and ourkid1 xxx welcome to our chat..and the lovely people that are here xx

Thank you!

Welcome moggiek x we all share our ups and downs openly on this thread , it supports and gives support to all when discussed openly . It’s good you are doing well x

nanny do speak to your GP next Thursday.

Weekends and Bank holidays do cause some of us to have a downer .

Moving things which have sentimental value is hard when you are grieving,

Hello. Is this just about depression, can we join in if it's about anxiety as well.

I am, Annie. I take amitriptyline every day (I don't know if it's still prescribed for depression), and it's been a very long time since I needed ECT, but I still didn't watch the programme about Nadiya's anxiety - just in case!!

Hello allassinsane welcome x

Not only depression, also anxiety , OCD, phobias ,

I have agoraphobia which explains why I post here often, in the house all day every day,but I am working on it and there is much support and understanding here

moggiek they didn’t mention ECT on the Nadia programme. I know of amitriptyline, you must have suffered really bad depression, you are doing ok ?

I didn't think that they would, to be honest. I just tend to steer clear of these programmes, in case they act as a trigger. I was first prescribed amitrtrip in the 70s, when I was a teenager, and it generally seems to keep me on an even keel. I think now it's prescribed for pain relief and insomnia.