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Caz1951 Sat 01-Jun-19 16:31:03

Thanks all. Have spoken to doctor (dh refused to) and he's suggested lots of fluids and an appointment to see a doctor on Monday. I did realise when I posted (honestly) that he needs to see a doctor. My problem is how to get a bloody minded, stubborn, 75 year old who, to describe as difficult, would be an understatement, to do something that is so obviously for his own good but that he refuses to do because he's sulking!! Anyway, an empty glass has appeared in the kitchen so fingers crossed he drank the dialyte. Think he's also drunk the cup of tea l made him.

annodomini Sat 01-Jun-19 15:37:30

Caz, it sounds as if your husband is scared of what could be wrong with him. The anger is often a sign of fear. You have done your best, but perhaps you need to let him calm down until he admits that he needs help.

sodapop Sat 01-Jun-19 15:32:49

Get medical help for your husband regardless of what he says. He is getting dangerously dehydrated and passing blood indicates further problems.

Day6 Sat 01-Jun-19 15:20:20

Good advice received. Passing blood is something that should always be checked out.

He is not a good patient, is he? smile Hope he feels better soon and there is no real cause for alarm, but you must have a doctor make that diagnosis.

FlexibleFriend Sat 01-Jun-19 14:59:14

Just get as much fluids into him as possible. If he's refusing the dioralyte just give him tea and lots of it. I'd let him sleep after that, is he always so awkward? I know we all get ratty when ill but he sounds extremely ratty.

Caz1951 Sat 01-Jun-19 14:56:07

Have rung 111 who confirm that he needs to drink plenty. Waiting for a doctor to call me back. Unfortunately, DH is adamant that he will not talk to anyone. At least he is sitting in the lounge so at least I can keep an eye on him, if only from a distance.

Razzy Sat 01-Jun-19 14:36:18

If you ring his GP they might make a house call.

Squiffy Sat 01-Jun-19 14:22:27

I agree with those saying ring 111 or GP. Perhaps your husband is frightened and that is what’s making him difficult.

Iam64 Sat 01-Jun-19 13:43:02

Start with 111, no doubt they'll arrange for him to be seen by a medical person. Is he always so difficult?

FC61 Sat 01-Jun-19 13:30:18

Good Lord call for help. Don’t listen to him.

B9exchange Sat 01-Jun-19 13:24:03

Passing blood per rectum with diarrhoea needs urgent medical attention, contact 111, and if you don't get a decent response, go straight to A and E

ninathenana Sat 01-Jun-19 13:23:58

Passing blood is a cause for concern as is continuing diarrhoea. He needs medical attention. Don't let him fob you off.

wildswan16 Sat 01-Jun-19 13:16:03

We are not doctors. We have no idea about your DH's condition. Phone 111 and ask for urgent advice.

annsixty Sat 01-Jun-19 12:55:20

Ring 111 and tell them what is happening.
It sounds like he needs to see a Dr.

ginny Sat 01-Jun-19 12:55:19

He needs to see a doctor .

Caz1951 Sat 01-Jun-19 12:50:30

My husband has had diarrhea on and off since last Monday. I have purchased dioralyte to replace the lost fluids. Yesterday he stopped "going" but continued to have sharp pains in his stomach and wanted me to get laxatives as he hadn't "been" for a day and thought the pains were caused by this. We had an almighty argument as I refused to let him take the laxative. Last night the diarrhea returned with a vengeance and he was in and out of bed all night. Today he looks awful and the diarrhea is continuing but he's now passing fluid and blood. He is refusing any fuids and I have begged and pleaded with him to take the dioralyte but because I was so horrible to him yesterday evening he won't take it. I have explained that he is dehydrated and will collapse if he doesn't drink but nothing I say will convince him. He is just lying on the bed and whenever I go in he shouts at me to go away. I'm really worried, has anyone any suggestions as to what I can do?