I am so sorry for you, Sheena. I, too, am terrified of the dentist. I had all my teeth out when I was 32 and am grateful ever day. However, I occasionally have to have new dentures made and although I'm well aware I'm not going to be hurt I start to shake as soon as I go in the building. I think it's the evocative smell.
In other areas of pain I have a fairly high tolerance but at the dentists I was a wreck. You have my complete sympathy.
However, I believe these days there are good dentists around who will take into consideration a patient's fear and act accordingly. Maybe you could ask around, see if anyone you know knows of such a dental surgery?
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