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OH now on end-of-life care.

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Luckygirl Fri 24-Jan-20 17:10:07

OH in nursing hone with end-stage PD, and he has been in terrible mental stress with paranoia on top of his total physical helplessness. He shot a temperature yesterday and clearly has some sort of infection - probably chest. I opted for him not to go to hospital, as I know this is what he wants. They are trying (and failing) to get oral antibiotics down, and have scratched all meds non-essential for his comfort . We just want him to go in peace now. But he is intermittently awake and in distress that he cannot articulate. They have all the necessary drugs for palliative care.

I am torn between wanting to keep him and wanting him to just go now so his distress is over. It is a torment

lavenderzen Wed 29-Jan-20 22:31:59

Thinking of all Lucky xx

Auntieflo Wed 29-Jan-20 22:27:48

Thinking of you both. Sending love and prayers.
Sleep well, Night, night, God bless.

Marmight Wed 29-Jan-20 22:22:15

Me too Lucky. Sleep well x

gillybob Wed 29-Jan-20 22:15:25

Thinking of you and your poor man tonight luckygirl Sending you much love and strength. x

vintage1950 Wed 29-Jan-20 22:14:30

flowers flowers

dragonfly46 Wed 29-Jan-20 22:07:35

Sleep tight Lucky.

cornergran Wed 29-Jan-20 22:03:42

Love to you both lucky. flowers.

Urmstongran Wed 29-Jan-20 19:26:16

Apologies Maw I’ve just caught up on the thread and saw your post ahead of mine.

Fennel Wed 29-Jan-20 19:22:42

So hard for you both, in very different ways.
Praying for a peaceful solution soon.
xx

Urmstongran Wed 29-Jan-20 18:43:44

Would a move to a hospice help Luckygirl?

Doodle Wed 29-Jan-20 18:43:42

I pray for peace for him soon and some comfort fo you luckygirl

Sussexborn Wed 29-Jan-20 18:37:06

Hope you all find peace and calmness before too long. So important that you take care of yourselves.

Thinking of you.

Alygran Wed 29-Jan-20 18:30:34

Very much in my thoughts. Wishing you strength and peace lucky x

granny'sbuttons Wed 29-Jan-20 18:13:57

P. D. is a miserable illness. My thoughts and prayers are with you all Lucky.

Bathsheba Wed 29-Jan-20 18:07:12

flowers from me too. Constantly in my thoughts and prayers, hoping that peace will be with you both sooner rather than later xx

Ginny42 Wed 29-Jan-20 18:06:57

Thinking of you today and every day. xx

POGS Wed 29-Jan-20 18:06:39

Sorry to read both of you are going through such a harrowing time.

The only advice is one I am sure you do not require, keep telling each other you love them dearly.

flowers

GrannySomerset Wed 29-Jan-20 18:05:35

Hoping and praying for a peaceful outcome which meets your needs as well as his.

nanaK54 Wed 29-Jan-20 17:57:38

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Luckygirl Wed 29-Jan-20 17:54:02

Thank you.
He was a little more alert today, but miserable. I have started feeding him ice lollies - he likes the taste and it is only a tiny bit of liquid to swallow. Trying to take in liquid makes him choke and cough. Understood a bit more of the occasional things he tried to say today. He cannot really move at all.

What he needs is peace - he has no quality of life now, poor man. I really hope this does not drag on too long - there is no way back from this place.

Iam64 Wed 29-Jan-20 16:36:13

Thinking of you Lucky, your daughters and your husband xx

Stansgran Wed 29-Jan-20 16:21:15

Thinking of you.death is a blessing at this time.

aggie Wed 29-Jan-20 16:15:33

Luckygirl Thinking of you , and hoping you get some rest xxx

grannypiper Wed 29-Jan-20 16:12:40

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Antonia Wed 29-Jan-20 15:57:34

What a terrible time for you, I really hope that you can sleep tonight. Thinking of you both. flowers