Gransnet forums

AIBU

My friend let me down because of rain

(6 Posts)
Contraryme Mon 12-Oct-26 14:51:50

I have a long standing friend who I have had a very close relationship with for many years. She lives a few miles from me, she is single, lives alone but goes out singing at least twice a week. She refuses to use the telephone and expects people to contact her via email, she also doesn't like people visiting her, although she has a lovely home. Until last November when she broke her hip we met up quite often or she would come to my house, if she has a problem she will use the phone and my husband and I will do all we can to help her. I've only seen her about four times over the last 12 months, apart from visiting her in hospital - her choice. When we do meet it's just like old times.
Last Friday we were supposed to be meeting at 2pm. At 1pm she said that she didn't want to go out because it was raining! Her car is parked just outside her front door and the place we were meeting at is a very short walk from the car park. Am I being unreasonable to be very disappointed and maybe even a little angry at being let down for such a weak reason? She is younger than me and fully recovered from her hip replacement. I have put a lot of effort into this friendship but I am wondering if it has run its distance. About cancelling she said 'is this alright?' I replied 'if you don't want to come out it has to be, let me know when you are free'. I feel a bit bad about my attitude - but should I?

Jaxjacky Mon 12-Oct-26 15:04:02

So she used the phone to cancel then?

rosie1959 Mon 12-Oct-26 15:09:00

I agree with you refusing to meet as arranged just because it was raining is a very lame excuse

MarieElla Mon 12-Oct-26 15:12:27

Did you suggest you come to hers?

greyfur16 Mon 12-Oct-26 15:16:15

I have put a lot of effort into this friendship but I am wondering if it has run its distance

It's a horrible feeling.

Baggs Mon 12-Oct-26 15:34:22

Perhaps using the rain as an excuse was to cover something else. Perhaps she feels attacked by the Mental Elf and can't explain things to anyone else.

Just a thought.

It sounds as if she is restricted by all kinds of odd ideas, and maybe being out in the rain is the newest one.