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OH now on end-of-life care.

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Luckygirl Fri 24-Jan-20 17:10:07

OH in nursing hone with end-stage PD, and he has been in terrible mental stress with paranoia on top of his total physical helplessness. He shot a temperature yesterday and clearly has some sort of infection - probably chest. I opted for him not to go to hospital, as I know this is what he wants. They are trying (and failing) to get oral antibiotics down, and have scratched all meds non-essential for his comfort . We just want him to go in peace now. But he is intermittently awake and in distress that he cannot articulate. They have all the necessary drugs for palliative care.

I am torn between wanting to keep him and wanting him to just go now so his distress is over. It is a torment

brook2704 Sun 02-Feb-20 19:50:28

So sorry for your loss - deepest condolences ?

Baggs Sun 02-Feb-20 18:59:49

Sincere condolences, lucky. May he rest in peace. And may you rest too as much as you can flowers

Nannytopsy Sun 02-Feb-20 18:47:13

So sorry ?. We had that mixture of sadness and relief with our parents x

MiniMoon Sun 02-Feb-20 18:44:24

I am so sorry to hear this news Luckygirl.
Your DH is now free from the restrictions of PD and has found peace.
My love to you and your daughters at this sad time.

Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight?

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near just around the corner.
All is well.

Daddima Sun 02-Feb-20 18:30:50

Sincere condolences to you and yours, and a happy rising to Mr Lucky. x

Greeneyedgirl Sun 02-Feb-20 18:29:52

You must be exhausted and in shock from the last few weeks.
Big hugs to you all.

conor Sun 02-Feb-20 18:27:17

So sorryflowersxxx

KatyK Sun 02-Feb-20 18:26:29

So sorry flowers

Mapleleaf Sun 02-Feb-20 18:22:44

Sincere condolences, Luckygirl. ?

Grammaretto Sun 02-Feb-20 18:19:46

Sending you my heartfelt sympathy. It is the end of a long struggle.
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GranEd Sun 02-Feb-20 18:16:11

Sincere condolences Luckygirl ?

rosecarmel Sun 02-Feb-20 18:12:45

No more suffering .. but through it he knew he was loved by you and you him .. and it's that shared love that will lead your heart back to the memories of the man he was before his suffering began ..

Wishing you peace ..

NanTheWiser Sun 02-Feb-20 18:09:16

Deepest condolences, Lucky ???

PageTurner Sun 02-Feb-20 17:49:39

Luckygirl
Thinking of you and your family at this very sad time.
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Jane10 Sun 02-Feb-20 17:46:54

Oh Luckygirl. That's all I can say.
Oh.

I'm thinking of you and your girls. ? ?? ☕ ?

Maggiemaybe Sun 02-Feb-20 17:43:20

My sincere condolences, Luckygirl. flowers

Thorntrees Sun 02-Feb-20 17:36:29

Adding my love and sympathy to all the others.flowers

Willow500 Sun 02-Feb-20 17:25:34

I'm so sorry Lucky that you have lost the man he was but relieved for you that he is now at peace. Time to take care of yourself now flowers

dustyangel Sun 02-Feb-20 17:10:52

Please accept my sincere condolences Lucky. flowers

Anneliese63 Sun 02-Feb-20 16:41:42

Words are so inadequate but my deepest sympathy for the loss of your precious husband. thanks thanks

M0nica Sun 02-Feb-20 16:31:41

flowers words are inadequate.

phoenix Sun 02-Feb-20 16:28:17

Thinking of you.

xx

Framilode Sun 02-Feb-20 16:20:29

Sadness and relief in equal measure for you both. I hope now you can find some peace of mind and get some rest. You did absolutely everything you could possibly have done for him. Sending love.

granny'sbuttons Sun 02-Feb-20 15:49:33

So sorry to read such sad news Lucky. Sincere condolences to you and your daughters and grandchildren. May you all support each other with love, especially in all the busy-ness of the immediate days to come. flowers

Billybob4491 Sun 02-Feb-20 15:44:50

Sad news - I will uphold your family in prayer.