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Nanny I think I’d rather have someone who understands happiness not sadness.
I see blinks is coming round. ?
Chrissy I doubt if there’s anyone who’s had a pet put to sleep who hasn’t wondered if they did the right thing. Our beloved dog had terrible trouble breathing and in one hot summer was in distress whatever we did to keep him cool. I worried about what we had done for ages but I know he didn’t suffer.
Joce sorry you are so sad. Hope you can get through this bad time. You know it will pass.
Annie not a lot going on here either. It’s raining here too.
DH might be a little better today. I am hoping he’s on the mend now,
Bluesky how are you doing?

Doodle glad to hear your DH is hopefully on the mend poor man, I’m always amazed how easy it is to hurt yourself.
I’m like most people at the moment Doodle thanks for asking but I’m not grumbling.
Hope you’ll all have a peaceful night x

Evening everyone
Nonnie You’re right, we shouldn’t be thinking about the ‘what if I had or hadn’t’ but very hard to stop doing. I do a lot of ruminating but again how do you stop it. I’m so glad that the call from your DS helped lift your mood. The last time I wore a skirt was in the summer.
BlueSky I’m sorry that your DH is finding the restrictions hard to deal with, I’m the same.
Scaredycat Our plans for Christmas Day have changed now. Both of our daughters are only popping over for an hour in the afternoon. My eldest daughter has just phoned to let us know that apparently there is another announcement tomorrow so it might be all change again.
LadyHoroniaDedlock Do you mean that you don’t want to tell people what Christmas Day will actually be like for you? I’m sorry if I’ve got that wrong.
Doodle I’m glad that they’re finally trying to get on top of your DH’s pain. Have they given you any idea when he might be discharged? I hope it’s soon.
nanny What wonderful news about binks, it sounds like he’s feeling more comfortable in your house as time goes by. I still get upset when I think about Milly. I think it’s because there was the option of her being on meds for the rest of her life and I decided to not go with that as it was almost impossible to get her to take tablets and she always got so upset about it. I’m so sorry that your cat was stolen.
Joce I’m sorry that you’re so down. I hope that you’re able to see your family again soon.
Doodle I know you’re right, I suppose that everyone who has a pet to sleep wonders if they did the right thing. I’m ok for ages and then I start thinking about it again.
Annie Hope you’re ok.
lavender rafichagran and anyone I’ve missed take care of yourselves
Hope everyone sleeps well x

Hi all x

I am concerned that anyone who is struggling but don’t want to share because they feel that ‘some are worse off than me’ .

If you are struggling please share , x

That's great, Anniebach. You are right, people don't like to be thought of as whinging when there are people worse off.
I felt like that. But the kindness and understanding on here is
such a comfort so I hope anyone who is struggling will realise that there is a warm welcome here.

Sorry, can't contribute at the moment, feeling too weepy

Thank you henetha , no one should feel guilt , we wouldn’t
feel guilt if we broke a leg, no difference , pain is pain be it
physical or mental health. x

nonnie, so sorry you are weepy , hope it passes soon, and sorry you choose not to share x

Hello all.
For some reason I am feeling cold today. Probably a bit sleepy although I had a good night.
DH is feeling a bit better but probably won’t be home for Christmas.
Nonnie I’m sorry you are feeling so low. It’s this time of year I think. Look after yourself and pop back in when you can.
henetha are you feeling any better? It’s not really whinging if you are suffering in mind or body. Peoples pain levels physical or mental are all different. What brings one to their knees, others can cope with quite well. It’s just that we all have our sadness and anxieties. The end result is the same though the causes differ. As Annie says, all are welcome here.
Annie hope you are ok, you too Chrissy and scaredycat x

Aww nonnie i am sorry you are sad today xxxx I got a gorgeous pic of binks last night maybe it will bring a little smile xx

Binks

Good afternoon everybody
Lady Honoria - good to see you here . I,m sorry you feel so alone especially at this time .we are all here.
Doodle- good to hear your DH is improving but feel for you that he probably won’t be home for Xmas. Hope you have some nice goodies so that you can spoil yourself a bit.
Try and keep yourself warm - cuddling a nice “hottie” in the evening always helps me.
I,m ok thanks just very tired today.

Joce- so sorry you feel so down. It must be so tiring for you using up all that emotion. I think the current situation is messing with all our heads - it is so relentlessly worrying. But hopefully things will get better soon.
Nonnie- sorry you feel so sad- hope all is ok with your family. Take care of yourself - thinking of you
Nanny- Binks is definitely a happily settled cat now and has you and Steph wrapped round his paws!! He is a lovely cat.
Annie- hope you are ok today. Is it still raining?
Rafichagran,Bluesky,Chrissy,Henetha and all I hope you have a good evening and sleep well. Take carexx

Doodle you have had a shock, so glad that your husband is
feeling better. If he can’t come home by Friday will you be
able to visit him ? and will you have family with you ? I hope
so x

Wow nanny Binks is some looker. What a pretty cat.
Annie no visiting allowed. My elder son is having his MIL round. She is on her own and part of their bubble. Younger son and family have invited me over but we are tier 4 so I am staying at home. We have said we will Face time. I will be fine. I have lots of lovely neighbours and I can see their lights out of my windows so I know who’s home.
I wish you could have more contact with others Annie. How you manage I will never know.
Scaredycat I’ve warmed up now. Don’t know why I’ve been so cold I think it’s because I’m tired.
Joce Nonnie I hope you are feeling a bit better tonight. However you are feeling, know that things will get better. You will not always feel like this.
Take care all the BDG. x

Evening all,
I have been trying to catch up on things.

Annie how are you, did you enjoy your visit with your MT hope she is well now..

Doodle sorry to hear about your DH hope he’s home with you soon..

Nanny blinks is lovely..I was thinking of getting a little dog, I’m scared of dogs I don’t know... I have changed mind now. I was bite by a dog on Monday made a mess of my hand so I don’t think it would be a good idea right now ..

scaredycat this situation is definitely messing with my head..I’m tired but don’t think the weather helps it seems to have been raining hear for ever...

Chrissy how are you?

Thinking of you all
Hope you all have a peaceful night ?

Evening all x Sorry you are all feeling low, not surprising under the circumstances and the weather couldn’t be more depressing!
Doodle you didn’t need your DH in hospital just now but these things happen and we’ve got to cope and get on with it. I do feel for people on their own, must be so much harder.
Nanny Binks is gorgeous! Bet he’s got you twisted round his little paw!
I wish you all a peaceful night x

I'm on my own- was widowed suddenly 3 years ago.

The main thing that us helping me through this is my art. I'm taking a FT Fine Art course this year, so spending my days finishing my projects and finding myself a daily art challenge.

A man friend of 2 years 'dumped' me early Autumn, but I'm digging deep inside to stay away and learn to love and nurture myself; not try to get it from outside.

I have adult children & two special young gc; so I'm blessed. My springer spaniel Daisy is a constant companion who wakes me up and makes sure I go to bed on time - she stares me out when it's bedtime

I'm also very spiritual & know I have my guardian angels helping me through this, as they have up to now.

So all of you out there who are finding life difficult now, you're really never alone.

trueblue hello x I have a spaniel cross...she tells me when its bedtime by pushing me off the sofa!! what does FT stand for in the fine art course? You are right..when you love yourself love will find you...because at that point you will be radiating so much positivity that love will be drawn to you xx

Doodle I feared you wouldn’t be able to visit, you can plan
his coming home, the experts ! claim the Christ Child was born in October so we are all late in the celebrations .

Joyce lovely to see you, you have been missed. Think about
a dog come Spring, winter not the best time of the year, sorry
you were bitten.

BlueSky one gets use to being alone, for me it’s the same record - acceptance, I can’t change it.

nanny you are more cheery, perhaps a few decorations ?

trueblue welcome, I have two dogs, they allow me to share
the bungalow with them and the bed ! It is so good you have
your art . Love comes we don’t have to seek it out.

Lavender has moved house , she is tired but this is understandable. I will wish her happiness from us all

annie no signs of Christmas anywhere in my bungalow. To be honest I cant stand them anyway. I get incredibly stressed as I think they create mess and look messy . Not even a morsel of christmas food either.

nanny your choice, why not light a candle ? You will be joining people around the world x

Annie thank you.. hope you all have a peaceful night sleep..

Hi all x

Expect everyone is busy .

Got up this morning - sunshine in Mid Wales ?

Opened mail, - application for electric wheelchair will be
considered in 26 weeks - June ?

Parcel delivered - daffodil bulbs from a much loved friend, ?

That’s life isn’t it

Morning all x Brilliant sunshine as promised that’s better! Spent hours on social media this morning with virtual seasons greetings!
Annie 6 months to consider electric wheelchair! How are people on their own supposed to manage?
Hope you’ll all have a peaceful Christmas Eve x ?

Merry Christmas BDG and I hope it is peaceful for you all.
I want to thank you all for your support to me and each other. I think this is the kindest, caring thread on gransnet.
As suggested upthread I look at the Christmas tree and think of you all. It's funny when I think of you all , I get a picture in my mind of what you all look like and how its nice to have virtual friends
I am going to get on now while my partner goes out, he is going to get me some holly for a decoration I am making for around a candle.
Take care everyone and best wishes.

rafichgran I am much more beautiful in real life ???.