Good news to hear he may be back later today - but I am so sorry you have both been afflicted with this blessed virus and hope you will both be feeling better soon.
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(131 Posts)Sorry to post here but it's 3am and I need to vent and talk and I know that I won't wake anyone up but I can still get the words out.
DH has just been taken into hospital by two of the nastiest ambulance women I have ever met. They weren't bothered by how ill he is. There only concern was that we didn't have masks ....they're in the car...and we'd run out of paracetamol. FFS we've been ill for 8 days. It's not like we can nip out to the shops for some more.
Poor DH has been far worse than me and I've been really ill. It attacks you at your weakest points. He's had a terrible headache for days and today it got significantly worse. We phoned 111 yesterday and spoke to a doctor who reassured us but about 1am today he started to vomit and there was blood in it. So I phoned 111 again and they sent an ambulance.
At first I thought they weren't going to take him. They kept telling him he should have taken paracetamol even though we tried to explain that he'd tried it when the headache first started and it hadn't helped. They asked if he was sure he wanted to go to hospital because they'd only give him paracetamol and what was the point if he wouldn't take it. He never said he wouldn't take it. He said that it hadn't worked. Poor DH is incredibly dizzy too and they made him walk to the ambulance. I even asked them to help him and they just said he'd be OK. He nearly fell over the step due to being dizzy but they just carried on. I know they don't want Covid in their ambulances or in the hospitals but some people have to go and we didn't call them independently. We went through the system and let 111 make the decision.
So now I'm worried sick about DH cos he's on his own and I'm trapped cos I have Covid too. I can only wait for a phone call when he's well enough.
Sorry for the rant and the bad language but I needed to get it off my chest. The worry is bad enough without the anger I feel on top.
Vampire Queen , I know exactly how you feel about the ambulance people as I too have been subjected to less than efficient help when I had an accident. Please be assured that most people in the NHS are well trained and your husband will be properly treated.
There are so many covid patients now in hospitals that medics and nurses are very well practiced in the best procedures and best care.
Virus illnesses cause sufferers to feel emotionally low so please remember some proportion of your worry is due to the virus itself.
As for paracetamol, it does seem surprising but it is a really effective pain killer, and there are other even stronger pain killers which are readily available in hospitals.
I wish you a quick recovery and that you will be one of those who do not suffer too badly from the coronavirus. Please write to Gransnet as often and how you like. It was a good thought that you did so.
vampirequeen, what a horrible experience. Everyone is stressed out, exhausted and overwhelmed by the sheer numbers of patients right now.
It's no excuse for the rude behaviour of the ambulance crew - but it is a valid explanation.
My nurse friend says she's dead on her feet!
I cannot believe a poster up thread is regurgitating Facebook advice. I have been sent this rubbish myself. It is very obviously American. If you read it properly it has incorrect statements and is actually advertising “remedies”
Very best wishes to Mr &Mrs Vampirequeen and Travelsafar
Sending kindest thoughts to you and your DH 
I agree withHetty
That HCPs are acting in such an out of character and what could be seen as unprofessional way is indicative of the unprecedented levels of stress which they are under.
This in itself is very worrying.
The staff must be very scared I think.
I would not be able to do that job for a million pounds.
VQ I hope that you are feeling a bit better now.
I'm sure that DH will be home soon today.
Sending best wishes to you and your DH vq
VQ So sorry to read of your dreadful experience. I do hope your DH will be home later today, and that you both make a good recovery from this horrible virus.
Sending kind thoughts to both of you. 
They are supposed to be proffesional and put your mind at ease vq.
I hope he comes home soon for our own peace of mind and i hope you also get better soon.
I think alot of people are at their lowest at the moment and will pick up any illness that`s going.
Take care vq.
FC, I agree with you. My son's future MIL and SIL have been working in Covid ICU and none of us can imagine how awful it is and the stress they are under.
The ambulance crew may not have been as professional as they should have been, but who knows what they had been dealing with prior to assisting your DH.
Making a formal complaint is not the road I would be going down, as advised by some.
I experienced ambulance staff like that when my mum was ill. Unfortunately they are not all angels as portrayed on tv programmes. When your husband gets home give him a big hug if you can't eat heavy food soups the next best thing. You both need to build your strength up hope you both make a speedy recovery. Keep us all informed how you are both doing.
Hope you'll feel better soon.
I do agree with many of the posters : there is no excuse for bad behaviour towards patients. Please try to put that unpleasantness behind you and concentrate on getting well.
Best wishes to you and your husband vampire queen, concentrate on getting you and your husband both getting well, unfortunately as in all professions there are some angels and some demons.
Onwards and upwards ?
This, Marydoll- they are under extreme pressure currently, the likes of which few of us could possible fathom.
One of our best friends in the UK is fighting for his life now - after two very difficult heart operations, he had to return to the hospital for another operation. Whilst waiting for transfer, he caught Covid from someone in the next bay. They are under such pressure that people with severe NON Covid related, life-threatening conditions- cannot be separated from Covid patients. This is truly appalling, Our friend has confirmed Covid now- and the cough and temperature are putting his life seriously at risk.
Most Covid patients should remain at home and be treated with paracetamol, and rest, etc- unless those treatments don't work.
What a dreadful experience to go through, bad enough you are not well,
Hope yu are both well soon!
We had two ambulance call outs from 111 recently on consecutive nights (not COVID) Both teams were kind and pleasant.
We were told by 111 that all people in the property would be required to wear masks when the ambulance crew arrived and to keep them on during the visit.
The first crew were not local but had been drafted in due to a busy night. They checked DH over and said his lungs were working fine. They were reluctant to take DH to hospital as he would ‘only be given the same pain medication you have here’.
(Sounds just like what you were told vq)
The crew the following night were equally pleasant but more thorough. No question about the fact that DH would be taken to hospital and they were very patient and gentle with him.
When they realised he had also had a team out the night before they checked to see what was written up about that visit and found no record of it. They said it was probably a private ambulance team from another area.
Whilst in hospital DH had good care.
Not many staff on the wards and they were constantly going from one to another. DH was in 10 days. He had one bossy and controlling night nurse, one rough HCA but the rest of the staff were kind, capable and run off their feet.
VP I hope you and your DH are on the mend soon.
Biba, you are not telling me anything I don't already know.
All my treatments, follow ups, blood tests, hospital and doctor's appointments etc have been put on hold, as I am critically vulnerable. As a result, my health is deteriorating, but I have been told if I contract Covid, I will probably die and being taken to ICU is not really an option.
Since March, I have been advised not to go anywhere near a hospital nor doctor's surgery. It has been decided that not even the district nurse can come into my home and do my bloods, despite being on extremely toxic medication, which needs monitored.
So much so that instead of having a monthly infusion in hospital, I'm self injecting myself on a weekly basis, rather than put myself at risk of catching Covid in hospital.
A family friend caught Covid at a hospital outpatient dept and consequently died. Imagine knowing that you are exposed to that risk on a daily basis, as health care workers are.
We keep a supply of disposable masks at home, just in case they are needed.
VQ so sorry to hear of your terrible experience. Yes ambulance staff and other medical staff are under serious stress but no way should they have taken it out on you. I hope you have more kindly ones returning your husband home later today which is good news. Both of you rest up and take care of yourselves. If you need anything your council should have a compassionate help organisation. Best wishes for a good recovery.
They would normally give paracetamol on a drip if necessary in the ambulance but I doubt that that is happening at the moment.
They must be at the end of their tether, please don't report them.
Most Covid patients should remain at home and be treated with paracetamol, and rest, etc- unless those treatments don't work
It’s that unless these treatments don’t work !
Is that official medical advice? Most of us would choose to stay at home if appropriate but 1) many if not most people will not know they are positive until tested
2) if experiencing chest pains, difficulty breathing etc actually an ECG and oxygen would be a lot more useful
3) NHS guidance throughout has been that people with worrying symptoms should seek medical help rather than risk possibly fatal consequences.
Yes this may seem to be at variance with the availability of A&E in just so many areas, but ambulance crews and first responders have the equipment and expertise to carry out many tests and potentially life saving procedures both in the home or the ambulance.
Just recommending paracetamol is like saying stick a plaster on it to an elderly person lying prone on their kitchen or bathroom floor with a possibly broken hip.
Let the professionals be the best judge.
And warmest wishes to Vampirequeen and travelsafar and anybody else in this situation.
Please all be guided by medical professionals if necessary and do not take advice from any online sites, except the NHS one of course.
FB etc is full of theories and advice, best ignored.
Hope your’ll both feel better very soon.
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