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DH in hospital with Covid

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vampirequeen Tue 29-Dec-20 03:21:31

Sorry to post here but it's 3am and I need to vent and talk and I know that I won't wake anyone up but I can still get the words out.

DH has just been taken into hospital by two of the nastiest ambulance women I have ever met. They weren't bothered by how ill he is. There only concern was that we didn't have masks ....they're in the car...and we'd run out of paracetamol. FFS we've been ill for 8 days. It's not like we can nip out to the shops for some more.

Poor DH has been far worse than me and I've been really ill. It attacks you at your weakest points. He's had a terrible headache for days and today it got significantly worse. We phoned 111 yesterday and spoke to a doctor who reassured us but about 1am today he started to vomit and there was blood in it. So I phoned 111 again and they sent an ambulance.

At first I thought they weren't going to take him. They kept telling him he should have taken paracetamol even though we tried to explain that he'd tried it when the headache first started and it hadn't helped. They asked if he was sure he wanted to go to hospital because they'd only give him paracetamol and what was the point if he wouldn't take it. He never said he wouldn't take it. He said that it hadn't worked. Poor DH is incredibly dizzy too and they made him walk to the ambulance. I even asked them to help him and they just said he'd be OK. He nearly fell over the step due to being dizzy but they just carried on. I know they don't want Covid in their ambulances or in the hospitals but some people have to go and we didn't call them independently. We went through the system and let 111 make the decision.

So now I'm worried sick about DH cos he's on his own and I'm trapped cos I have Covid too. I can only wait for a phone call when he's well enough.

Sorry for the rant and the bad language but I needed to get it off my chest. The worry is bad enough without the anger I feel on top.

Charleygirl5 Tue 29-Dec-20 12:30:49

I agree with Callistemon 100%.

sodapop Tue 29-Dec-20 12:34:31

What a horrible time you are having Vampirequeen I'm so sorry to hear about your health problems and your husband's as well. Hope your husband starts picking up once he is home again.
Take care both of you. thanks

Best wishes to you too travelasfar thanks

EllanVannin Tue 29-Dec-20 12:39:20

I'm not a drinker, but black rum helped me this time last year. I swigged it in a drop of boiled water, honey and lemon. TDS.

Like you Glamma, I ignored the tosh that was supposed to have been a remedy. Eat ? I couldn't get anything but liquid to pass my lips.

At least you'll feel better VQ, at having DH home as believe me he'll survive better than being in hospital. Make sure you get everything possible in the way of medications via the GP .

M0nica Tue 29-Dec-20 12:43:04

DH was blued and twoed to hospital 7 weeks ago following a heart attack. He has had bypass surgery and has been there since. For the first 6 weeks we could visit, household only, one person and at an agreed time. This stopped with the spread of new variant CVID and we have now not seen him for a week

During his prolonged stay in the cardiac unit, there has been no sign of COVID, he has never mentioned any COVID testing, although I would suspect that all new admissions are tested.

I am absolutely confident of the bio-secure managment in his unit. He may be protected, as he was part of the Oxford/AstraZeneca trials, and his side affects match COVID, more than the 'placebo' the meningitis vaccine.

If you feel ill, or think you may be having a stroke/heart attack. I am so glad I rang 111 the moment I thought he was havng a heart attack. The heart attack was not severe, but the state of the arteries that caused it were and the doctors told us, without that call he could have died in the next few months.

Kalu Tue 29-Dec-20 12:45:12

Good news to hear your DH may be home later.
My best wishes for a speedy recovery to both.

Best wishes also to you and your DH travelsfar

Can I just point out, any medics/qualified doctors will not be seen to give advice on line to strangers without knowing the patients medical history.

harrigran Tue 29-Dec-20 12:54:56

Best wishes to Mr & Mrs vampirequeen and to Mr & Mrs travesafar. Speedy recoveries to all.
I can see cases escalating in the next few days following Christmas day meet ups so we need to take care of ourselves.

Hithere Tue 29-Dec-20 13:07:51

Glad your husband is coming back today and I hope you recover soon.

I can see callistemom's POV.

While their behaviour was not very professional, I guess that ambulances - in general- trying to weed out who really needs to go to the hospital vs fakers vs who are not sick enough to go to the hospital, given how overwhelmed the medical system is now

Medical workers have seen the unthinkable for almost a year. I would cut them some slack, they are human too

vampirequeen Tue 29-Dec-20 14:13:26

Thanks everyone. DH is home and I've calmed down.

I still think the ambulance crew were out of order but I know they're under so much pressure and having a known Covid sufferer in the ambulance would mean that it would need a thorough clean before they could use it again....more work for them. I don't think it was fair that they took their exhaustion/frustration out on us but who knows how long they'd been on duty or what else had happened on that and previous shifts. That said they didn't act professionally or give the appropriate level of care. To make it worse they didn't listen to DH when he told them he was going to vomit and so they had that to clean up too.

But that's in the past now. DH is home. We know that the bleeding was 'only' a burst blood vessel at the entrance to his lungs and, fingers crossed, we'll start to feel better soon. We've had this for 8 days so surely we'll turn the corner soon. We're trying to look on the bright side. We've been poorly but not nearly as poorly as some.

I really appreciate all the support you've given me.

Puzzler61 Tue 29-Dec-20 14:52:47

It’s good to hear your DH is home and you can rest and recuperate together vampirequeen. It’s been a rough few days for you both and I hope a full recovery and better times are ahead for you both.

Ellianne Tue 29-Dec-20 15:08:22

Pleased your husband is now home vampirequeen and hope you both turn the corner soon.

Blossoming Tue 29-Dec-20 15:08:43

Just catching up, so sorry to read about your awful experience and glad he’s home now. Hope you’re both on the mend soon. I see there a few people in this thread with onugoing health issues, sending positive thoughts to you all.

Iam64 Tue 29-Dec-20 15:12:18

Thanks for updating us, good to know he's home x

Kalu Tue 29-Dec-20 15:16:58

Very pleased to hear your DH is back home vampirequeen and you feel calmer now. Hope you will be turning that corner soon. ??

cornergran Tue 29-Dec-20 15:31:55

Good to know your husband is home vampirequeen, I hope you will both begin to feel better very soon .

Riverwalk Tue 29-Dec-20 16:21:39

Aw, quite a traumatic day for you VQ - hope you both recover soon.

For future, regarding your running out of Paracetamol, your local pharmacy could have delivered some for you; if you don't have a pharmacy nearby, Boots online are also very useful and usually deliver very quickly, but I know it's hard to think straight when you're ill, particularly if both of you are stricken.

flowers

Kate1949 Tue 29-Dec-20 16:24:54

Good news VQ

sharon103 Tue 29-Dec-20 16:33:12

I'm just catching up on GN today.
What a nightmare you've had!
Glad to see that your husband is back home.
Wishing you both well and feeling much better very soon. xxx

Marthjolly1 Tue 29-Dec-20 17:35:41

So sorry to read of your troubles vq. A worrying nightmare situation for you both. Glad to hear you are together again at home and can comfort each other. Hopefully you will both regain your health and strength very soon flowers

grannyrebel7 Tue 29-Dec-20 17:44:31

Sending love and hugs for you at this difficult time. thanks

Auntieflo Tue 29-Dec-20 17:54:09

Vampirequeen Just caught up and so pleased to hear that tour husband is now home.
Take care of yourselves.

Auntieflo Tue 29-Dec-20 17:54:26

Your, not tour

FarNorth Tue 29-Dec-20 17:56:34

Good news, vq.
Wishing you both well with your recovery.

Toadinthehole Tue 29-Dec-20 18:28:57

I know we’re all stressed, but this is exactly what paramedics are trained for. They do a job which puts them constantly on the edge...the same as those working in A and E. I could understand it more, if they’d taken people who usually work in clinics for example....and sent them out to deal with emergencies! It would overwhelm them. There was no excuse for this. Non medical people are bound to be more frightened, than those working in medicine. What a horrible experience for you VQ. Hope you and your husband are soon feeling better.

rafichagran Tue 29-Dec-20 18:51:38

Very good news Vampirequeen

GillT57 Tue 29-Dec-20 19:03:24

Just caught up with this vq what a frightening and difficult time for you both, you must be exhausted. Your DH is now home so try to have some rest and drink plenty of liquids. Sending you and your DH very best wishes, your DH will rest better in his own bed.