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DH in hospital with Covid

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vampirequeen Tue 29-Dec-20 03:21:31

Sorry to post here but it's 3am and I need to vent and talk and I know that I won't wake anyone up but I can still get the words out.

DH has just been taken into hospital by two of the nastiest ambulance women I have ever met. They weren't bothered by how ill he is. There only concern was that we didn't have masks ....they're in the car...and we'd run out of paracetamol. FFS we've been ill for 8 days. It's not like we can nip out to the shops for some more.

Poor DH has been far worse than me and I've been really ill. It attacks you at your weakest points. He's had a terrible headache for days and today it got significantly worse. We phoned 111 yesterday and spoke to a doctor who reassured us but about 1am today he started to vomit and there was blood in it. So I phoned 111 again and they sent an ambulance.

At first I thought they weren't going to take him. They kept telling him he should have taken paracetamol even though we tried to explain that he'd tried it when the headache first started and it hadn't helped. They asked if he was sure he wanted to go to hospital because they'd only give him paracetamol and what was the point if he wouldn't take it. He never said he wouldn't take it. He said that it hadn't worked. Poor DH is incredibly dizzy too and they made him walk to the ambulance. I even asked them to help him and they just said he'd be OK. He nearly fell over the step due to being dizzy but they just carried on. I know they don't want Covid in their ambulances or in the hospitals but some people have to go and we didn't call them independently. We went through the system and let 111 make the decision.

So now I'm worried sick about DH cos he's on his own and I'm trapped cos I have Covid too. I can only wait for a phone call when he's well enough.

Sorry for the rant and the bad language but I needed to get it off my chest. The worry is bad enough without the anger I feel on top.

Tweedle24 Tue 29-Dec-20 08:40:35

So sorry to hear this, particularly it being made so much worse by the unkind ambulance staff.
I hope you find the hospital staff more sympathetic towards him.
I realise you probably won’t be allowed to visit but, as MOnica says, keep in close touch with the ward.and meanwhile, take care of yourself. Hope you are both soon well again.

M0nica Tue 29-Dec-20 08:32:48

I am so sorry to hear how ill both of you are. Being ill will make your worries about your husband even worse.

Once he gets to hospital, he will be well cared for. Most of the patients will, like your DH, have other medical conditions and these will be checked. Did he take any medication he was taking to the hospital with him?

You can ring the hospital every day and speak to a nurse or doctor on the COVID ward, who will be able to give you s report on his condition.

Meanwhile keep in touch and we will provide as much support as we can.

NotAGran55 Tue 29-Dec-20 08:25:26

How upsetting especially in the night . I hope you get some positive news soon about your husband and that you too will soon be feeling better .

Marydoll Tue 29-Dec-20 08:22:15

Sending my best wishes VQ,
Do you have any family or friends nearby, who can get you what you need?

Puzzler61 Tue 29-Dec-20 08:20:44

I’m sorry to hear you and your DH are going through this worrying time. The ambulance women could have been more kindly, no wonder you are angry and upset.
Hoping you have better news from the hospital on your DH’s condition later, and that you can call on a neighbour or family to bring you any medicines you need. Rest and take care of yourself vampirequeen ?

baubles Tue 29-Dec-20 08:14:09

I hope you managed to get a little sleep Vampirequeen, and that both you and your DH begin feel better soon. Thinking of you.

Sarnia Tue 29-Dec-20 08:08:22

I fully understand how worried and upset you are. Does your local chemist deliver medication? Many of them have started this service during the pandemic. I am no medical person but I would have thought vomiting blood has gone beyond just taking paracetamol. I hope you have some good news on your husband and that will also be feeling much better very soon.

rafichagran Tue 29-Dec-20 08:07:56

I hope you and your husband recover soon Vampirequeen.

Whitewavemark2 Tue 29-Dec-20 08:05:42

Kind and positive wishes to your DH and yourself.

cornergran Tue 29-Dec-20 08:04:12

Goodness, how upsetting vq, I’m so sorry you both had such a difficult experience. I’m hoping by now you will have news of your husband and can rest more easily. flowers.

Iam64 Tue 29-Dec-20 08:01:55

So sorry to read this vampire queen. Sending positive vibes to you and your husband. I do hope you are both feeling better soon.

Urmstongran Tue 29-Dec-20 07:59:54

Your anxiety must be sky high vq. Sorry last night was such an awful experience for you both. I hope your husband is a lot better today and home with you very soon. I’m sure you will be shattered today. x

brook2704 Tue 29-Dec-20 07:57:22

So sorry to hear your DH is so poorly and you too vq I hope you both feel much better soon ?

PollyDolly Tue 29-Dec-20 07:53:38

I've sent a private message Vamirequeen.

dragonfly46 Tue 29-Dec-20 07:52:19

I am so sorry to read this VQ. I do hope you feel better soon and get better news about your DH when you phone later.

Daisymae Tue 29-Dec-20 07:52:19

So sorry that you both didn't get the care that you both needed. Hopefully now that your husband is in hospital he will get the treatment that he needs. In the meantime maybe you could contact your neighbors for more paracetamol? Hope you get good news soon.

janeainsworth Tue 29-Dec-20 07:50:34

Thinking of you both vq. I hope you and DH make good recoveries flowers

Grannynannywanny Tue 29-Dec-20 07:50:11

vampirequeen I’m so sorry to read that you are both ill with covid and your husband has been taken to hospital.

I’m sure he will be well cared for now he’s in hospital. I hope you’ve managed to lie down and rest overnight and that you receive reassuring news of your husband this morning.

I hope you have family or friends who are able to drop off medicines and food to your doorstep.

Grammaretto Tue 29-Dec-20 07:44:18

How awful for you both. I hope DH gets the help he needs soon and that you have somebody to get help or at least meds for you.
It is such a bad time to be ill although the food and chemist shops are open..

kittylester Tue 29-Dec-20 07:39:28

Just sending you gentle hugs vampirequeen.

Kalu Tue 29-Dec-20 07:23:51

So sorry to hear you have both caught this virus. No need to apologise for your language, I would be saying much worse after the unhelpful service from the two ambulance women. Part of their job is to reassure patients and put them at ease, tired or not.

Now that your DH is in hospital, the medical staff will decide what treatment he needs and will look after him.

What a horrible time for you both. Look after yourself and try to rest then phone the hospital in a few hours for an update.

I hope you will both be well soon and you hear some positive news from the hospital.

BlueBelle Tue 29-Dec-20 05:27:01

Like the other posters I m so sorry to hear this and hope your husband and you are soon feeling a lot better
There is no excuse for the ambulance ladies behaviour, I can only say I ve never known anything but lovely kind treatment from the ambulance service and paramedics they are usually very caring people, what a shame you had two nasty ones, no excuse but perhaps they d had a terrible night or weren’t feeling good themselves
I m sure he will be in the right place and start to improve and that you too will soon feel a lot lot better
Good luck

CanadianGran Tue 29-Dec-20 05:21:08

I'm so sorry to hear of your bad experience. Bad enough that you are ill yourself and worried about your husband; they don't need to treat people this way.

Like Fanny said, wait a few hours and call the hospital for an update. Thoughts are with you.

FannyCornforth Tue 29-Dec-20 04:13:22

If he was dizzy it's a sign that his oxygen levels may be low.
Did they do any tests?
He will be okay once he is in hospital
I don't want to minimise what you say, but as NannyPT said, it may have seemed a bit worse because you are ill.
When my husband went in they told me to wait two or three hours and then ring A&E to see how he was doing / where he was.
Did they know he has COPD?
Please PM me if you want to.

FannyCornforth Tue 29-Dec-20 04:05:21

Hello vq
Oh no. I remember your earlier thread. I've quickly scanned your post, will read it properly now.
I do hope that you are okay thanks