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Turning 65 and feeling panicky ..why ?

(31 Posts)
Bea65 Tue 08-Jun-21 11:38:45

Hi All, am having a little meltdown at the thought of being 65 and don't know why as when i turned 60 felt FAB...any thoughts?{shock}

Blossoming Tue 08-Jun-21 11:46:44

Is it that awful OAP label? Most of us are still working at 65 and beyond so that no longer applies.

Marydoll Tue 08-Jun-21 11:47:01

As long as you are in good health, enjoy every moment! Sixty five is young nowadays. Carpe Diem!
There are people on here in their eighties, still enjoying life.
My health failed at 59 and I have so many regrets that I put things off. Too late for me now!

Sparklefizz Tue 08-Jun-21 11:52:29

My health failed at 41, and like Marydoll I have regrets, and wish I had travelled more etc while I could. None of us know what's round the corner.

Carpe Diem is all too true!

geekesse Tue 08-Jun-21 11:58:32

Try this…

Marydoll Tue 08-Jun-21 11:58:52

Sparklefizz, I wholeheartedly agree about the travelling! I can't get travel insurance now, even the specialist companies won't touch me and I have a list as long as my arm of places I wanted to visit. sad

I thought I was invincible!!!!!!

Lillie Tue 08-Jun-21 12:02:15

do what you can while you can.
little meltdowns are allowed at any age.

nanna8 Tue 08-Jun-21 12:08:11

Don't worry, it's worse when you turn 70! We have done heaps of travelling in our 60s and it is worth all the inconvenience of planes and boats and trains for the memories you have. We have another big trip planned so I only hope it will go ahead. Don't put anything off, you may not get another chance is good advice. Also- you can't take anything with you so if you have the money, do it. Spend the kids' inheritance!

timetogo2016 Tue 08-Jun-21 12:29:59

Your not in the departure lounge yet Bea65.
I wake up every morning thinking " yehhh i`m still here ".
And again sound advice off nanna8.

Lizzies Tue 08-Jun-21 12:38:24

I turned 65 last year. My husband had just died the month before and I was lost for a while. Then I thought that he wouldn’t want me to go into my shell as I so easily could have, so I took voluntary redundancy when it was offered, bought a micro camper and also started volunteering for a charity. As Marydoll says get going, you don’t know what the future holds, but you need to make the best of today.

bonfirebirthday Tue 08-Jun-21 12:49:53

I had a meltdown when I turned 70 in November 2020. I seemed to have a series of illnesses that started in January 2021 and culminatied in a serious allergic reaction, 7 hours in A and E, then a secondary reaction. In between was a cataract operation and no-one had mentioned the aftercare. Once I came to my senses and stopped feeling sorry for myself, I realised it was nothing to do with age, it was coincidence. I was also lucky there was nothing seriously wrong me, I was simply over reacting.

3dognight Tue 08-Jun-21 14:19:06

Ah bless you! Don’t panic, like you I turn 65 in a couple of weeks, tbh I’m in a good place now, and quite happy to be this age. It is what it is, and preferable to the alternative!

Boz Tue 08-Jun-21 14:59:03

It is a privilege to have reached old age. You have had a life. Think of the millions who die young - be grateful for life.

Shinamae Tue 08-Jun-21 15:04:31

Do you not fear or resent old age, it is a privilege denied to many. My brother died at 49……

Kate1949 Tue 08-Jun-21 15:20:03

It's a bit daunting getting older but I agree with Shinamae My brother died at 24, my nephew at 16 and his mum, my sister-in-law at 49.

MerylStreep Tue 08-Jun-21 15:28:48

I know 2 women who are both in their 80s who take their motohomes to Spain every winter.
One of them still navigates the old way with paper maps. 😊

dogsmother Tue 08-Jun-21 16:37:34

Absolutely agree with a lot of the above! Age is but a number….. Growing older a privilege not granted to everyone x

grannyrebel7 Tue 08-Jun-21 16:37:43

I'm 65 and it's ok. I always think of what Joan Collins said when she turned 80, it's better than the alternative!

emmasnan Tue 08-Jun-21 16:53:39

I was 65 in April, I feel no different. I try and enjoy every day, not everyone gets the chance to become older.

Rosa44 Tue 08-Jun-21 19:55:42

Hi Bea65, I turned 65 in April and it does feel very different to me than the early 60’s... I quite like it now I am past the wobble! Good luck... x

BlueSky Tue 08-Jun-21 20:02:20

Well said Marydoll!
Exactly Kate1949 let’s be grateful whatever age we are lucky to have reached!

Luckygirl Tue 08-Jun-21 20:03:45

Don't panic - some of us are even older and still ticking along.

It is interesting to hear all the people who desire to travel. It does not really float my boat - I like to go to the sea now and again; but I am privileged to live in the most beautiful place on earth (as far as I am concerned) and when we used to return from holidays we used to heave a sigh and bask in the beauty around us. I began to sonder why we bothered to go at all!!

BlueSky Tue 08-Jun-21 20:30:06

Agree with you about holidays Lucky perhaps when you have already travelled extensively, you realise that there’s no place like home!

Franbern Wed 09-Jun-21 08:17:04

This coming weekend I will celebrating my 80th birthday. I have some health problems, all dealt with via medication and my main problem is mobility. However, so much technology these days, that is not a terrible problem.

Having moved into my lovely flat (18 months ago), in a town 150 miles away from where I had always lived - I can only say that I am happier, and enjoyng my life, probably more than at any other time of my life.

No worries, about work, no mortgage, only use my little car for my weekly supermarket shop, and my very occasional trip to London. No guilt about not being busy all of the time, all my children are well into their adulthood (yes, a few concerns about g.children - but these are not really my worries).
Life is good and I can spend each day doing as a I wish, how I wish.
I retired from work just over ten years ago, took me a good three years to cope with retirement - but am loving my wonderful lazy life now.
My main ambitions are
1. To continue my life as it is - with completely unsupported living
2. To Live long enough to see, at least the older of my g.children, graduate from Uni
3. To continue enjoying myself.

Bea65 Wed 09-Jun-21 09:16:00

Thank you all for getting me out of the headspace i was some of you have lost close family members and friends in their 50s and am lucky to be here having had mild stroke few years ago resulting in mobility probs.. usually feel ok but had panic attack in work few weeks ago and currently on new meds to deal with my anxiety ..