fiorentina what a difficult time you had, I’m pleased you were able to put yourself first finally. I too find the ‘authorities’ just as difficult as mother is sometimes, and their expectations are that you will run around after your relative. Yesterday, having not visited mother as recommended by others on here, I did call at her flat to collect something she wants, ready to take up to her today. However I received a phone call from Mum in the early evening instructing me to get something else from the flat and take it up with me today. It was the Financial Power of Attorney papers that are held at her flat. Although she was supposed to give it to me, she refused and held on to it herself. Anyway the manager of the home wants a copy of it. I refused to go, saying I’ve already been once and have an optician appointment tomorrow morning. She accused me of being ‘funny’ (difficult) with her twice because I won’t go. This is my mother, she uses passive aggression if I raise any objections to what she wants me to do, which has traditionally worked for her and I have usually complied. Not yesterday evening though, so now I feel nervous about going up to her today.
Additionally does anyone know, does the care home manager have any right to hold a copy of the Financial Power of Attorney? We don’t have the health care one, mother flatly refused to do it. I’d have thought that would have been more relevant to a care home manager.
Is there still a Conservative Party?
Good Morning Saturday 3rd June 2023