trisher
I realise after this thread how strong the influences and the regulations and even the norms of patriachy still are. I include myself in this. I was raised to discuss, argue and express my opinion as loudly and vociferously as I could. It's something I do almost without thinking.
However my feminst friends are slowly disuading me from taking that route. State your opinion, give your reasons and then get out of there is basically what I need to learn. So having given my opinions and my reasons I am leaving the thread. Think what you like believe what you wish. Try not to attribute things to me, motives or opinions I haven't expressed. But if you do so don't expect a response. There isn't going to be any victory, there isn't going to be a consensus, nobody wins.
The thing is, trisher, that you refuse to engage when people try to meet you half way.
Upthread, I said the following (I have had to remove the spacing to quote it properly, so I apologise if that makes it more difficult to read):
The fact that transpeople have always been with us is true, but not relevant to whether or not they are women in the true sense of the word. I'm not sure how I can compromise. I mean, I am happy to accept transwomen as they are. If one joined the WI or the NWR, or the Ladies' knitting circle (assuming I belonged to any of these things) I would happily include her. I would use her preferred name and gender and lend her my lipstick if I wore it. None of that is meant to sound flippant - I just don't grasp the 'live as a woman' thing in that sense. Nevertheless I am not phobic or anti-trans. I can't prove that on here, but it is true. What I can't accept is that someone with male gametes is a woman, or that they should be able to compete with women in sport and so on, or insist that the language should change to accommodate them, as doing so eradicates women. That is simply not fair, and I don't understand why that compromise can't come from the TRAs?
You responded to this with snide comments about 'crying on the Quayside', and gloating about how the language has changed and people with my beliefs can take it or leave it.
The difference between what I posted there and your POV seems to be that I don't believe that TWAW, and never will, as to do so is going against the science. Changing the language so that 'women' means 'women and men who want to 'live as' women' will not alter the science.
But otherwise, what is it that I, or others, have said that is deserving of the hostility and attacks on this thread? We disagree that TWAW, and that 'living as a woman' is possible these days, although I have said that I understand the gist of that if not the detail. That's all there is to it. Our behaviour towards transpeople is probably exactly the same.
There is no need for personal slurs, name calling or aggression, and as far as I remember without going back through 19 pages of posts, none of that has come from those who disagree with your stance.