Serendipity, I don't think it matters what others think of us. I was pointing out that you legally need the backing of an assessment before you put something in place if your parent does not want it. Disconnecting the cooker, etc., meant an assessment. We never had any problems with these. Power of Attorney does not mean you don't have to have this - for your own legal safety above anything.
Whiff Wed 09-Mar-22 18:57:35, we all do what we believe to be best and this is surely not a competition about whose actions show they love their mother most. I had no doubt that when my mother went into a home at 98 I had done the best for her up to that point and, with professional and family input into the decision, I was doing the best then. I can't see why such hurtful remarks belong on a thread trying to help others.
Back to the OP. I agree with Teacheranne Wed 09-Mar-22 09:06:16 that technology will be our way out. Now I am the 'older generation' I am trying to put in those things I think will help in the future so I am used to using them. We can learn from our caring and prepare so we help our adult children.
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