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Diverticulitis and mental health

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barmcake Fri 14-Oct-22 10:54:14

I have just returning home after visiting my brother who was released from hospital with a sever diverticulitis attack. He was mentally o.k. when I left, just a little down. Had a phone call last night that he was missing. A neighbour said he was dropped off by taxi wearing just an incontinence pad and shirt. Neighbour said he saw him handing over large amount of money to taxi driver. Just had another call to say carers can't get in. Has anyone had a similar experience. I'm 5 hours away and have to use public transport. Any advice welcome.

emmasnan Fri 14-Oct-22 19:47:29

I'm so sorry to hear this, a dreadful time for you.

Grannyben Fri 14-Oct-22 19:23:05

I am so very sorry, what a terrible situation. May your dear brother rest in peace.

icanhandthemback Fri 14-Oct-22 19:17:55

I am so sorry, *barmcake@, what terrible news. I hope you get some answers as it sounds as if the taxi driver needs to be questioned, let alone the people who discharged him.

Shinamae Fri 14-Oct-22 19:16:48

So very sorry for your loss ??

Shinamae Fri 14-Oct-22 19:16:07

Iam64

Barmcake, tough situation for you. I echo the advice to get a welfare check. In the past, police and adult services would have done this together. Maybe now the police are in reality the only emergency service but they’re good at what they do

Do yiu know your brothers GP? If so ring them.

As others have said uti can be awful in triggering confusion]
Best of luck

Go back and read the thread from the beginning

Iam64 Fri 14-Oct-22 19:13:54

Barmcake, tough situation for you. I echo the advice to get a welfare check. In the past, police and adult services would have done this together. Maybe now the police are in reality the only emergency service but they’re good at what they do

Do yiu know your brothers GP? If so ring them.

As others have said uti can be awful in triggering confusion]
Best of luck

Harris27 Fri 14-Oct-22 19:12:58

So desperately sorry.

Pudding123 Fri 14-Oct-22 19:08:06

So sorry for this terrible situation Barmcake although you will never get to meet any of us please try and take some comfort from our loving thoughts ..I feel so sad for you.

teabagwoman Fri 14-Oct-22 17:38:33

So sorry to hear this Barmcake, look after yourself.

Barmeyoldbat Fri 14-Oct-22 15:35:40

So so sorry

25Avalon Fri 14-Oct-22 15:31:41

Barmcake how terrible. I really feel for you. There will be a lot to come out and you are going to need all your strength. Just remember everyone on here is rooting for you.

Greyduster Fri 14-Oct-22 15:28:57

Barmcake I’m so sorry.? Whether he discharged himself from the hospital or not, questions really should be asked.

Ladyleftfieldlover Fri 14-Oct-22 15:26:38

I’m so sorry Barmcake - fat fingers I’m afraid. My condolences.

Ladyleftfieldlover Fri 14-Oct-22 15:25:22

Batmxake???

barmcake Fri 14-Oct-22 15:22:14

You are so sweet and kind. I don't want to talk to anyone but sharing with complete strangers has given me some comfort. He was terrified of going back to the hospital. He said the nurses were not caring and he was never washed etc. They had arranged carers to come in but he just wanted to be alone. Every single one of us has tragedy in our life. In fact, life is tragedy itself. I am so grateful to you for taking the time to reply. Bless you.

Norah Fri 14-Oct-22 15:03:11

I'm very sorry. flowers

Starlyte Fri 14-Oct-22 15:00:39

So sorry for this tragic outcome.
My son has mental health issues and once or twice phoned from hospital after excess pills, not o.d. tentatives. It's so awful to be far away, I am in France.
I send you my sincere condoleances, be strong.

NanKate Fri 14-Oct-22 14:42:12

What dreadful news Barmcake such a sad situation. ?

Just to add I have had severe diverticulitis and the pain is just dreadful, this could have added to causing his state of mind to be in turmoil.

Please accept my condolences.

Vito Fri 14-Oct-22 14:26:32

So very sorry for your loss Barmcake, heartbreaking flowers

crazyH Fri 14-Oct-22 14:20:34

Oh Barmcake - so, so sorry flowers

MadeInYorkshire Fri 14-Oct-22 14:19:47

Curlywhirly

That's terrible news, what a shock. Why on earth was your brother sent home from hospital inappropriately dressed and with a catheter in? Heads should roll for this negligence. I am so sorry and my thoughts are with you thanks

Oh heavens I am so so sorry ....

I agree with Curlywhirly though, was he discharged from hospital or had he self- discharged - there is a negligence issue there it seems??

dustyangel Fri 14-Oct-22 14:18:37

I’m so very sorry Barmcakeflowers

Blossoming Fri 14-Oct-22 14:12:50

So very sorry Barmcake

Curlywhirly Fri 14-Oct-22 14:08:25

That's terrible news, what a shock. Why on earth was your brother sent home from hospital inappropriately dressed and with a catheter in? Heads should roll for this negligence. I am so sorry and my thoughts are with you thanks

Susan56 Fri 14-Oct-22 14:02:41

Oh barmcake, I am so, so sorry?